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To be so fed up amd disheartened with all the xenophobia

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Nohqters · 04/08/2025 21:56

Honestly, I’m just feeling worn out and heartbroken lately. It seems like racism and xenophobia are becoming more and more mainstream again, wrapped up in the same tired scare stories, whether it’s splashed across a tabloid or coming straight out of Farage’s mouth. Then you see stupid threads on here about civil war trying to stir up more hate.

Even my own brother has started sounding like Tommy Robinson. Ten years ago, that would’ve been unthinkable. It’s like people have completely forgotten the lies we were sold during Brexit—by Farage, Tice and their crowd—and yet they’re still lapping up everything they say. No critical thought, just blind anger pointed in the wrong direction.
I’m so fed up with the endless nonsense about small boats, “white minorities,” and all the rest of it. It’s all designed to divide us, stoke hate, and distract from the real culprits—rubbish politicians, broken policies, and the ultra-wealthy hoarding resources while the rest of us struggle.

But instead of looking upwards, it’s always “blame Johnny Foreigner.” It’s exhausting, and frankly terrifying how quickly people fall for it.

Is anyone else feeling this? How are you managing conversations when even close family seem to be buying into this stuff? I’m trying to stay compassionate, but it’s getting harder to bite my tongue.

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skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:35

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:33

The racists seem most upset

Care to point me in the direction of them then? I must have missed the racist posts?

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:35

zeddybrek · 04/08/2025 22:33

It would be interesting to discuss why immigrants have formed clusters and live in their own communities in the first place.

People forget the racism when mass migration took place from the 1960's onwards. People from former colonies were invited here to rebuild the country. When they tried to integrate, they faced so many challenges, racism was rife. My parents are an example but I have heard of so many more. What caused minorities to form, well safety from racists was one of them.

It's a negative loop. They probably feel safe now again given the current climate and reinforces their belief that they are safer amongst their own people. Also people are tribalist in nature. Think of the expat British communities abroad in gated communities.

You never hear people complaining about British people moving to parts of Spain and sticking with their own there and not learning Spanish. It's OK when we do it in a foreign country but God forbid any foreigners who do it here, pure hypocrisy

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Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:36

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:33

The racists seem most upset

Nah, your guilt tripping isn't cutting it. We had all this yesterday. Not everyone is as soft and susceptible to brainwashing. You just keep diluting racism.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 04/08/2025 22:36

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What are the men going to do?

JamesMacGill · 04/08/2025 22:36

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:31

I never said I was left.

There's a difference between having an opinion and just being full of hate for people purely because they are foreigners. That's what we're seeing more of

Ok, so what’s the difference? If I told you Afghan men are twenty times more likely to commit a sex offence than a British man, is that ‘hate for foreigners’ in your view?

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2025/03/10/foreigners-commit-up-to-quarter-of-sex-crimes/

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:37

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:35

You never hear people complaining about British people moving to parts of Spain and sticking with their own there and not learning Spanish. It's OK when we do it in a foreign country but God forbid any foreigners who do it here, pure hypocrisy

Watching the commonwealth disintegrate though

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:38

JamesMacGill · 04/08/2025 22:36

Ok, so what’s the difference? If I told you Afghan men are twenty times more likely to commit a sex offence than a British man, is that ‘hate for foreigners’ in your view?

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2025/03/10/foreigners-commit-up-to-quarter-of-sex-crimes/

You get your facts from the Telegraph, says it all really.

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skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:38

MiloMinderbinder925 · 04/08/2025 22:36

What are the men going to do?

Well seen as these magical illegal boat asylum seekers are made up of around 89% males then, they are such a great asset to the UK. Why not ask them?

EasternStandard · 04/08/2025 22:38

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:38

You get your facts from the Telegraph, says it all really.

What do you rely on op?

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:39

I tell you what disheartens me, this white self loathing.

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:39

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:36

Nah, your guilt tripping isn't cutting it. We had all this yesterday. Not everyone is as soft and susceptible to brainwashing. You just keep diluting racism.

Nobody is guilt tripping you. You came here to moan. I wasn't even talking to you but you seem triggered

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:39

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:38

You get your facts from the Telegraph, says it all really.

So what's wrong with the Telegraph? I guess its just not the Guardian then 😂

MathNotMathing · 04/08/2025 22:39

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JamesMacGill · 04/08/2025 22:40

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:38

You get your facts from the Telegraph, says it all really.

Are they wrong? Stop dodging the question and answer it. You’re the one who opened the conversation.

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:40

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:39

I tell you what disheartens me, this white self loathing.

What the he'll is white self- loathing? What a load of crap

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skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:40

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:39

Nobody is guilt tripping you. You came here to moan. I wasn't even talking to you but you seem triggered

You have an odd fascination with calling people upset and triggered, do I see some self reflection coming through in all your posts?

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:41

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:39

Nobody is guilt tripping you. You came here to moan. I wasn't even talking to you but you seem triggered

Triggered, another one straight out of the lefty play book. Moan? Is that what free speech is called now? 🤔

Serpentstooth · 04/08/2025 22:41

I'm sickened by it. Farage is a bloody disgrace, a traitorous provocateur like Trump in USA. And all their followers. Look at USA where nobody seems able or willing to attempt to stop Trump. Anyone believing the lies spouted by these populist nationalists is either malignant or ignorant. Shameful.

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:42

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:41

Triggered, another one straight out of the lefty play book. Moan? Is that what free speech is called now? 🤔

This is exactly what I mean

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:42

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:40

You have an odd fascination with calling people upset and triggered, do I see some self reflection coming through in all your posts?

No

BuffetTheDietSlayer · 04/08/2025 22:42

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:39

I tell you what disheartens me, this white self loathing.

WTF is that even? Can you give an example?

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:42

Serpentstooth · 04/08/2025 22:41

I'm sickened by it. Farage is a bloody disgrace, a traitorous provocateur like Trump in USA. And all their followers. Look at USA where nobody seems able or willing to attempt to stop Trump. Anyone believing the lies spouted by these populist nationalists is either malignant or ignorant. Shameful.

People think the Nazis couldn't happen again but I'm not so sure now. They're so desperate to find people to hate

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Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:42

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:40

What the he'll is white self- loathing? What a load of crap

White saviour syndrome.

MathNotMathing · 04/08/2025 22:43

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skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:43

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 22:40

What the he'll is white self- loathing? What a load of crap

Oh looks like your about to spill your oat milk latte and your avocado rice cake. These champagne socialists love a bit of white-self loathing and get very upset when they are called out on it.

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