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AIBU?

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DH ruined my lunch.

323 replies

TwigletsAndRadishes · 16/12/2024 20:08

AIBU? I don't know why I am asking really, I know I am not. I need to vent.

Bought two of those plastic trays of mixed salad from the self service salad bar at Morrisons. All sorts in them. A curried rice thing, a pesto pasta, grated cheese, lettuce/tomato/cucumber, coleslaw, beetroot salad, hard boiled eggs, potato salad, some sort of couscous thing. I did my best to place each different spoonful of stuff into its own corner of the tray with something else layered on top, like lettuce or tomato, or hard boiled egg, so it wouldn't be too much of a mixed up mush and it would still be possible (ish) to separate the different elements onto a plate at home. Ok, so it was never going to be easy/perfect, but not completely impossible.

DH asked if he should dish up lunch. I said yes, if you like.

I came in to find that he's tipped both trays of salad into one huge bowl and mixed the entire lot up so it looked like pigswill. WTF? Why would you even do that? It looked the scrapings off people's plates after they'd finished eating.

I was just incredulous and so exasperated. I said 'what the hell did you do that for? What on earth were you thinking? That's going to be disgusting.'

He was then furious at me for being furious at him. Apparently it was just too difficult to separate the different salads so he had 'no choice' but mix it all together and he just knew I'd moan about it, because I moan about everything. And I shouldn't have asked him to dish up (I didn't) if I don't like the way he does things and I can do everything myself in future because all I ever do is criticise and never say anything positive to anyone.

So he knew I'd moan, but he did it anyway? Hmm

He sat there pretending to enjoy his dog's dinner of coleslaw mixed with curried rice, grated cheese, pesto pasta and beetroot with soggy bits of lettuce in it and I took two mouthfuls and felt faintly sick. I don't have sensory issues, I'm not a fussy eater and I am not the type who can't have different foods touching on the plate, but even I have my limits.

I had a tin of soup instead. I am not being unreasonable am I?

OP posts:
BoobyDazzler · 16/12/2024 20:10

I love a Morrisons salad, I have them all the time for lunch at work but there’s no way o could eat one that had been mixed up like that 🤮

fivebyfivebuffy · 16/12/2024 20:10

YANBU
He would have been better to just tip them on the plate and leave as they are or eat out the tub, you don't mix it all together!

Brbreeze · 16/12/2024 20:12

Not ideal but I don’t understand why you are unable to eat it.

magicalmrmistoffelees · 16/12/2024 20:14

Brbreeze · 16/12/2024 20:12

Not ideal but I don’t understand why you are unable to eat it.

Because mixed up it tastes rank?

flightless55 · 16/12/2024 20:14

He doesn't like you

ForeverPombear · 16/12/2024 20:14

He's an idiot

TwigletsAndRadishes · 16/12/2024 20:14

Brbreeze · 16/12/2024 20:12

Not ideal but I don’t understand why you are unable to eat it.

Because it was a really weird combination of flavours and looking at it made me feel queasy. It looked how food looks after leftovers have been scraped off several plates onto one.

OP posts:
TotallyTwisted · 16/12/2024 20:15

People actually buy stuff from those supermarket salad bars?! 🤮 I reckon mixing it all up is the least of your worries.

Birdscratch · 16/12/2024 20:15

Weaponised incompetence.

Comedycook · 16/12/2024 20:16

Im sorry op....you married a monster

Codlingmoths · 16/12/2024 20:16

I think it would make me queasy looking at it.

Ilikemymenlikeilikemycoffee · 16/12/2024 20:16

Wow what a fuss about nothing!

CatWolf · 16/12/2024 20:17

Mountain out of a Morrison’s salad hill.

TiramisuThief · 16/12/2024 20:18

What a div.

I'm not a fussy eater but I couldn't eat something that's 15 different kinds of food all stirred together 🤮

Honestly don't know what he was thinking. Sorry your salad was ruined!

1smallhamsterfoot · 16/12/2024 20:19

God to have such massive problems how do you cope

Berlinlover · 16/12/2024 20:19

I’d eat it anyway but I’m someone who likes hospital food so I’m not exactly a fussy eater.

BirdSou · 16/12/2024 20:19

My DH doesn't care what he eats or how it's presented, but even he would have had a go at trying to dish the salads up separately onto a plate.
How to ruin a nice lunch!

snoopyfanaccountant · 16/12/2024 20:19

YANBU We once had a Chinese carry-out with PIL at theirs. We had bought the food and the left-overs were our planned lunch for the next day. MIL tipped all the left-over mains into one box and couldn't understand why we were upset with sweet and sour chicken mixed with kung po chicken mixed with crispy chilli beef.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 16/12/2024 20:20

If I buy those type of salads I tend to buy stuff that you can quite easily eat together for example I wouldn't have coleslaw and curried rice and pesto pasta in the same pot but then I wouldn't eat them separately as part of the same meal either

thistimelastweek · 16/12/2024 20:20

You are incompatible.

EveryOtherNameTaken · 16/12/2024 20:24

How was he know it was to be separated if you didn't say?

It probably looked like you'd got bits of everything so he just mixed it.

Probably wasn't great but obviously edible.

Hoppinggreen · 16/12/2024 20:24

Brbreeze · 16/12/2024 20:12

Not ideal but I don’t understand why you are unable to eat it.

I do, I couldn't

fruitbrewhaha · 16/12/2024 20:25

This would annoy me. What an idiot.

ItOnlyTakesTwoMinutes · 16/12/2024 20:27

You both sound like dicks.

dudsville · 16/12/2024 20:27

I only voted yabi as I think "fury" should be kept aside for something more than mixing together salad type things.