DH ruined my lunch.

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AIBU? I don't know why I am asking really, I know I am not. I need to vent.

Bought two of those plastic trays of mixed salad from the self service salad bar at Morrisons. All sorts in them. A curried rice thing, a pesto pasta, grated cheese, lettuce/tomato/cucumber, coleslaw, beetroot salad, hard boiled eggs, potato salad, some sort of couscous thing. I did my best to place each different spoonful of stuff into its own corner of the tray with something else layered on top, like lettuce or tomato, or hard boiled egg, so it wouldn't be too much of a mixed up mush and it would still be possible (ish) to separate the different elements onto a plate at home. Ok, so it was never going to be easy/perfect, but not completely impossible.

DH asked if he should dish up lunch. I said yes, if you like.

I came in to find that he's tipped both trays of salad into one huge bowl and mixed the entire lot up so it looked like pigswill. WTF? Why would you even do that? It looked the scrapings off people's plates after they'd finished eating.

I was just incredulous and so exasperated. I said 'what the hell did you do that for? What on earth were you thinking? That's going to be disgusting.'

He was then furious at me for being furious at him. Apparently it was just too difficult to separate the different salads so he had 'no choice' but mix it all together and he just knew I'd moan about it, because I moan about everything. And I shouldn't have asked him to dish up (I didn't) if I don't like the way he does things and I can do everything myself in future because all I ever do is criticise and never say anything positive to anyone.

So he knew I'd moan, but he did it anyway?

He sat there pretending to enjoy his dog's dinner of coleslaw mixed with curried rice, grated cheese, pesto pasta and beetroot with soggy bits of lettuce in it and I took two mouthfuls and felt faintly sick. I don't have sensory issues, I'm not a fussy eater and I am not the type who can't have different foods touching on the plate, but even I have my limits.

I had a tin of soup instead. I am not being unreasonable am I?

It's possible to eat different foodstuffs without mashing them together.

I might separately enjoy everything at a buffet - that doesn't mean I'd enjoy every item from it mashed together into a paste.

Heck, my slovenly ways of eating them out the tub is definitely they way to go.....

It was supposed to be spooned out, not poured or tipped. Much like you'd spoon stuff out from a tub of coleslaw or a tub of pasta salad. Except each big tray had four things in it, one in each corner, separated as best I could by the non-sloppy stuff. Lettuce, hard boiled eggs, etc. Touching, yes. I have no issue with that. But not mixed into a slop. Each tray contained different stuff, hence why we didn't just eat separately from a tray each. It's really not that complicated.

I didn’t even know Morrisons still did these salad bars! I had them as a teen and I’m in my 30s now.

Although I never shop in Morrisons as the closest one is over half hour away and in a crap hole area.

i squash so much in the tubs it always ends up mashed together,

You seem weirdly invested in this so I guess we’ll just have to agree to disagree. The beauty of the internet, hey 🙂

I'd love a trough full of mashed up salad. Perhaps I was a pig in a former life.

Ridiculous on so many levels
I'm sure the people of Syria, Ukrain, Palestine, Myanma, Sudan, etc, are devastated by this news

Eww you are defo nbu x

In all honesty I think you were really stupid to think you could cram all those different foods into a tiny plastic container and think that you could separate them again. That would have been virtually impossible.

This is not sausage rolls and cheesecake though! It’s salad bar items. The buffet comparison hardly stands up.

They mix up thats literally the whole point of them. I have dietary issues and some OCD with food and I eat it mixed up.

You might not like it like that but it doesn't make it weird or wrong. Whats the point in getting the different bits if you don't want mixing, it sort of the whole point.

Sounds to me he got all defensive to counter-act the defensive stance you’d already adopted.

You both sound awful to me, I think you should leave each other.

Next!

But they aren't salad components, they are an assortment of clearly very different, pre-made/mixed salads.

Yes I thought the whole point of the salad bar was to mix the different salads.

Oh I'm sorry about your lunch OP but this gave me a much needed laugh. I think because I haven't heard 'pigswill' mentioned for so long.

Why the joe buggery did he mix it all in?

I remember Sainsbury's used to sell these by weight. At school we would fill partly. Print sticker. Fill remainder to busting. Pay. I feel a bit guilty but have seen whole tubs sold for pence at reduction time so I suppose at least it wasn't getting wasted.

Yes that you have to put into one tub. Some mixing is going to happen.

I can just visualise that mess...Like a compost heap.

They were all “mixed salad from the self service salad bar at Morrisons” so sounds like salad components to me 🤷‍♀️ but I admit I’m not familiar as we don’t have a Morrisons in our town. I confess I’m not the right one to argue the toss(ed salad) with because I find all chilled savoury food utterly rank!!

He should be LTB if there's this much hysteria over a couple of cartons of inedible supermarket crap that were not presented in a way that calmed the chakras and aided kitchen feng shui

I can see his point. He dished up and you said

"'what the hell did you do that for? What on earth were you thinking? That's going to be disgusting.'"

Would you be so rude to a friend or someone else you respected?

Yanbu to be annoyed but there are ways of saying things and I think you were really rude

Yeah I don't think I could get that worked up about that tbh.

Gross. But you had a lucky escape OP - I know someone who had food poisoning after eating from the Morrison’s salad bar! 🙈

I think if you want something done a specific way you need to make that clear at the outset. If exactly what you want cannot be achieved exactly the way you want it then you need to do it yourself to your standards.
Your dh did it his way…..
I don’t mind salads ( like Morrisons) mixed all in together
Dogs dinner or pigswill, whatever you call it OP, it tastes just fine for a ready made salad

You wanted it done a very particular way. If you want something done a particular way then you should do it yourself.

He’s also unreasonable because he shouldn’t have done something he knew would annoy you.