DH ruined my lunch.

[TwigletsAndRadishes]

AIBU? I don't know why I am asking really, I know I am not. I need to vent.

Bought two of those plastic trays of mixed salad from the self service salad bar at Morrisons. All sorts in them. A curried rice thing, a pesto pasta, grated cheese, lettuce/tomato/cucumber, coleslaw, beetroot salad, hard boiled eggs, potato salad, some sort of couscous thing. I did my best to place each different spoonful of stuff into its own corner of the tray with something else layered on top, like lettuce or tomato, or hard boiled egg, so it wouldn't be too much of a mixed up mush and it would still be possible (ish) to separate the different elements onto a plate at home. Ok, so it was never going to be easy/perfect, but not completely impossible.

DH asked if he should dish up lunch. I said yes, if you like.

I came in to find that he's tipped both trays of salad into one huge bowl and mixed the entire lot up so it looked like pigswill. WTF? Why would you even do that? It looked the scrapings off people's plates after they'd finished eating.

I was just incredulous and so exasperated. I said 'what the hell did you do that for? What on earth were you thinking? That's going to be disgusting.'

He was then furious at me for being furious at him. Apparently it was just too difficult to separate the different salads so he had 'no choice' but mix it all together and he just knew I'd moan about it, because I moan about everything. And I shouldn't have asked him to dish up (I didn't) if I don't like the way he does things and I can do everything myself in future because all I ever do is criticise and never say anything positive to anyone.

So he knew I'd moan, but he did it anyway?

He sat there pretending to enjoy his dog's dinner of coleslaw mixed with curried rice, grated cheese, pesto pasta and beetroot with soggy bits of lettuce in it and I took two mouthfuls and felt faintly sick. I don't have sensory issues, I'm not a fussy eater and I am not the type who can't have different foods touching on the plate, but even I have my limits.

I had a tin of soup instead. I am not being unreasonable am I?

Wow what overreaction. It all tasted the same. Doesnt sound like the poor guy can do anything right.

No, they aren't salad components.

Pasta pesto salad is a salad.
Curried rice is a salad.
Beetroot salad is a salad.
Couscous salad is a salad.
Potato salad is a salad.

A pasta-pesto-curried-rice-beetroot-couscous-potato-mayo-egg-lettuce-cheese paste is a revolting mess.

Wow! Wish I had known that trick! so clever... I too used to get salad from the Sainsbury's bar.

I have no idea but years ago unused to eat Morrisons salad bar and get a dodgy tummy without fail
Yoir husband was a bit of an idiot but Yabu for thinking it was ever going to be the nicest lunch

Not a single item in a supermarket 'salad bar' should be allowed/legal! Who on earth eats this crap, either mixed incorrectly by a spouse, or eaten as expected?
Cold pasta/rice is an abomination, and eating cold potatoes bound together by mayonnaise is an abomination before our lord

Most people probs wouldn’t have bought it the way the OP did either, but who are we to judge.

So why did she get all of those things then? Why would you want a mouthful of 10 different salads? Did she expect him to stand there and individually pick off grains of couscous and pieces of pasta so he could sort them into the right pile?

I would and have, many times. What's unusual about it?

A Greek salad is much nicer.

If you had a specific idea you should have dished up yourself. I agree with you but there's no way I'd have left my dh to sort it as he would have done exactly the same.

There's nothing particularly unusual about having a few different salads as part of the same meal. Surely you know this.

The food was already separated, so he could have just scooped a couple of spoons from each. Why do you think he would need to do it grain-by-grain?

This reaction sounds a bit pathetic. As my Nan used to say, it all goes down the same hole.

This is such a silly thing to argue about it just made me laugh, so I don’t think either of you are being unreasonable. Just move on!

YANBU but I can’t stand different foods touching.

Hmmm

i think that he was a bit of an animal just mixing it up and making a mess. Lack of thought, lack of shits to give, incompetent.

on the other hand, I would have eaten it in a mess and think that saying it made you feel sick and making alternative food is a bit princessy - although it was not unreasonable to ask wtf he was thinking by messing everything up together

What’s wrong with a salad bar?

Did you have the intention to move the content out of the plastic tub onto a plate to eat? I would have thought such thing needs to be eaten out of that tub, not taken out.

You both sound furious with each other! Hopefully Lunchgate has cleared the air.

He’s a cockwomble clearly.

I was ready to say you were overreacting. But I’m incensed.

Yeah I'd be furious too. Those salad bars are expensive and he rendered it inedible. I can't stand when people mix my food up.

Explain to me how 2 layers of different salads in all four corners of a small plastic container are separate?

I didn't want it served in a very limited, specific or complicated way. I wanted it served out of the tub more or less as it went into the tub. As a selection of differently dressed salads, sitting side by side. Touching, yes. Inevitably a tiny bit mixed in places, yes. But that's all. Not served up like it had been through a tumble dryer.

What a terminal fuckwit. The defensiveness would have given me the rage.

It’s like a perfectly good meal scraped into a compost bin and back onto a plate, fucking grim. LTB.

It’s such a stupid thing to do. Is he stupid?

Or is he just trying to get you to do everything in future?

Does he do his share of cooking and cleaning?

This.