AIBU to feel completely distressed by the viral video of the aftermath of onlyfans worker Lily P 'sleeping with' 100 men?

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I've tried to word this carefully.

Lily, an onlyfans star, aged 20something I'm guessing, slept with 100 men in one go, as part of a documentary.

Following this, she's on camera crying. She says her eyes hurt as some of the men ejaculated in them, despite her saying no.

My heart is broken for this girl. Im a feminist but I've never thought of sex work as being empowering?

Surely, the empowerment of sex work has failed this poor girl? And surely the 100 men who agreed to do this are criminals???

I'm so angry. You could see in the video that Lily is realising what a mistake this was and is very traumatised.

Anyway, didn't see a thread on this so thought I'd post. My heart goes out to her, and my brain feels very angry at those who failed to protect her.

Suggest you have a look at some "proper" porn videos (if such a term is applicable? 🤔)..... pretty sure that "accuracy" isn't that easy........

They ejaculated in her eyes? WTAF? That’s so disgusting. How is that even a turn on for these men?

This is TMI but my DH accidently got some in his eye once. Just me and him there. Very unexpected.

I'm a woman. Not a gay man 😂

You must have a very low opinion of all young women if you think that they all will sell themselves no matter what the consequences are.
I'm glad you used the term " prostituting" though.
I wish people would stop using the term Only Fans "worker". It sanitises them somehow. They are prostitutes, and what they are doing is prostitution. It should be called out for what it is.
Similarly the stupid euphemism " sleeping with" should be replaced by the more accurate " gets fucked by".

I am sure so many of those rancid men are now shunned by their families, friends and employers. I would never speak to my child ever again. Personally. I would never want anything to do with this type of man in any capacity.

The platforms promoting this should be held accountable.

The young woman is a victim.

Does she or her managem sound sensible ?

I unfortunately saw part of an interview with Bonnie Blue, the woman who deliberately had sex with 18 year olds. In it she boasted about having sex with one of these young men AND his father at the same time. So some parents actively embrace what these women are doing.
It turns my stomach.

Yep.

The victim blaming is strong in this thread.

I'm sorry but I find it difficult to see this woman as a victim.
I understand the argument that technically she is.
But try as much as I like I don't have any sympathy with her whatsoever. She deliberately put herself into a situation where there was every likelyhood she would come to some harm or other.

It's pretty black and white to me. No one deserves to be sexually assaulted.

Victim? Where?

Agreed no one deserves SA but she's currently openly talking on podcasts about aiming for 300 then 1k next. So it's not quite black and white.

I've said you are being unreasonable because despite her tears she's now on a quest to sleep with 1000 in one day. She's currently planning a practice run of 300 men so no I have no sympathy for her

Do you feel the same about women who stay in abusive relationships?

Do you think this is the kind of thing that any stable, secure person with a good history would do?

What sort of situation or background would a person have to do this? And what sort of man would line up to take his anonymous turn?

Why is it sexist to hold people accountable for their own choices? Would you feel sorry for men who aren't forced to do things and make REALLY bad decisions?

No I don't feel the same about women in abusive relationships. They have my full sympathy.

I don't know about her mental health. I do know that many many women, my self included, have had unsupportive , unloving, upbringings and bad life experiences, and mental health issues, but it hasn't made us sell our bodies and self respect.

I totally agree with you about the behaviour of the men. But as I said up thread she must have known the type of men who would participate in this stunt and that is why it's so hard to have sympathy. She knew she was allowing men of the most disgusting kind to use her body so she must have known them sticking to any boundary she made was highly unlikely.

I don't know what planet some posters live on. She was letting men fuck her and come on her face. They were being ushered in and out fast and furious so she could achieve the record she set. There were a lot of semen being thrown about and she told them they could come on her face. She consented and wanted all of this. So because some went in her eyes you are now saying she was sexually assaulted. I am a woman just not a naive one.

I'm sure she knew she wasn't going to have 100 gentleman with hankies to mop up any spillage. They were going to be 100 awful desperate vile sad men.

OP, you've written a lot about how distressed you are for this woman and the fact she was crying. How do you feel that she's now advertising for 300 men to have sex with her as a practice run for sleeping with 1000 men in 24 hours?
If you feel she really was traumatised by sleeping with 100 men, how do you feel about the fact she now wants to sleep with ten times as many men?
I believe this is fully her choice. You say she's being pressurised by people around her, but I'm pretty sure she doesn't have to do this. She wants to.

Annabel Chong, thats the woman I referenced several pages ago, I couldnt remember her name. Yes its not new, and even she wont have been the first, sex for money and people watching sex is centuries/millenia old

Nothing new.

Whilst I think that perhaps she has some old trauma, I’m afraid I can’t see her as the victim. The whole stunt was her idea, she’s been very open about how much money she has made, her sense of achievement and her plans to do another, bigger “event”. So if she is actually traumatised, it certainly isn’t enough to stop her doing it again, and on a larger scale. No one is holding a gun to her head…I’ll save my pity for those who suffer in circumstances beyond their control.

Even the romans had large swinger's parties

She hasnt been sexually assaulted. Some semen went on a different part of her body than originally planned. That is not sexual assault. Sex is messy sometimes.

Yes and they were riddled with STDs 🤦‍♀️

She made a few million from it and is planning to do 1000 guys next.
Sorry but no sympathy from me, this is the OF circus we live in now, it's all about fast money with no morals, no one holds a gun to her head