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Vibrators on sale at Tesco, thought it was a bit much

734 replies

JustBrowsingTheWeb · 27/10/2024 17:10

Went to buy some toothpaste with my kids, 7 year old wants to see new toy in plastic boxes, it’s rows and rows of vibrators. Is it just me or is this a bit much for the weekly shop?

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dutysuite · 27/10/2024 18:43

There’s anal bleaching kits for sale at my local Tesco.

AgileGreenSeal · 27/10/2024 18:44

Pyjamatimenow · 27/10/2024 17:18

It’s not like they’re selling dildos. You’re talking about those little bullet things. They’re not offensive objects.

It’s not like they’re selling dildos…”

don’t give them ideas!
gap in the market and all that 🤦‍♀️

MartinCrieffsLemon · 27/10/2024 18:45

valentinka31 · 27/10/2024 18:18

I think it's appalling.

It will make girls and women think they should use and enjoy them.

It normalises them too much imo.

Oh no

Girls and women might discover and own their own sexual pleasure

The horror

Onehappymam · 27/10/2024 18:45

dutysuite · 27/10/2024 18:43

There’s anal bleaching kits for sale at my local Tesco.

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You’re shitting me?

MartinCrieffsLemon · 27/10/2024 18:45

AgileGreenSeal · 27/10/2024 18:44

It’s not like they’re selling dildos…”

don’t give them ideas!
gap in the market and all that 🤦‍♀️

I'm sure Bad Dragon would love some shelf space

Skate76 · 27/10/2024 18:46

Condoms are for birth control, dildos are a sex toy and I don't want to pick one up with my weekly shop 🤷‍♀️

shuggles · 27/10/2024 18:47

Magnastorm · 27/10/2024 18:41

If you are having sex with protection - so without the aim to get up the duff - then by definition it's solely for pleasure.

Otherwise, to be honest, you are doing it wrong.

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The alternative to having sex with a condom is having sex without a condom.

Sex without condoms has an increased risk of infection and unwanted pregnancy compared to sex with condoms.

Therefore, condoms are a health item.

Stop being obtuse.

Completelyjo · 27/10/2024 18:47

@shuggles First of all, condoms are not "for males." Condoms are a health item for protecting against STIs in both men and women, and for protecting against unwanted pregnancies in women.

Vibrators are a pleasure item only, not a health item. People can have their opinions as to whether they should be in supermarkets, but drawing a comparison between condoms and vibrators is extremely strange and bizarre.*

What are condoms for if not for pleasure-only sex? Your argument is completely flawed, condoms aren’t a health item without the sex, which is apparently your hang up about vibrators. Avoiding pregnancy through sex only leaves doing it for pleasure surely so tell me again how different they are?

shuggles · 27/10/2024 18:48

Completelyjo · 27/10/2024 18:47

@shuggles First of all, condoms are not "for males." Condoms are a health item for protecting against STIs in both men and women, and for protecting against unwanted pregnancies in women.

Vibrators are a pleasure item only, not a health item. People can have their opinions as to whether they should be in supermarkets, but drawing a comparison between condoms and vibrators is extremely strange and bizarre.*

What are condoms for if not for pleasure-only sex? Your argument is completely flawed, condoms aren’t a health item without the sex, which is apparently your hang up about vibrators. Avoiding pregnancy through sex only leaves doing it for pleasure surely so tell me again how different they are?

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See above. Condoms are a health item.

Stop being weird.

AgileGreenSeal · 27/10/2024 18:48

FlowersOfSulphur · 27/10/2024 18:09

I think it's a bit grim. Sexual health products such as condoms and pregnancy tests are one thing, but "Suction Simulator" (from PP's photo)? I felt a bit queasy even looking at that, and it's definitely not something I want to explain to my kids at this stage.

What next - blow-up dolls? Handcuffs and ball gags? No thank you. What people get up to in their private lives is precisely that - private - and I dislike the creeping normalisation of private practices into the public sphere.

This.

WetBandits · 27/10/2024 18:48

justasking111 · 27/10/2024 18:41

They're great for keeping your matches dry when camping I read once.

I’ve used them to cover my bandaged hand in the shower Grin they’re very stretchy!

shuggles · 27/10/2024 18:49

MartinCrieffsLemon · 27/10/2024 18:45

Oh no

Girls and women might discover and own their own sexual pleasure

The horror

Maybe next we can have male sex toys, so that men and boys can also have sexual pleasure.

BoobyDazzler · 27/10/2024 18:49

TempestTost · 27/10/2024 18:02

Sure, it's normal, but not with kids around.

Same reason they didn't let kids into the porn section of the video store.

There are parents out there who allow all this kind of stuff openly in the home, including pornographic material. Or take their kids to sex expos with vendors selling all kinds of stuff.

There is definitely a line that is moving as far as what's appropriate for children to be around, and I don't think being so blase about that is going to be a good thing.

Presumably your kids are adults now if your reference was video store 🤣

WetBandits · 27/10/2024 18:50

shuggles · 27/10/2024 18:49

Maybe next we can have male sex toys, so that men and boys can also have sexual pleasure.

There are many of those widely available!

BloodandGlitter · 27/10/2024 18:50

Teenagers experiment with sex toys, and realistically it's better a sex toy then a person who is likely to impregnate you/get pregnant themselves.
Using sex toys shouldn't be something to be ashamed of, you don't need to refer to sex shops as "flasher mac adult stores" you just need to grow the fuck up.

Completelyjo · 27/10/2024 18:50

shuggles · 27/10/2024 18:48

See above. Condoms are a health item.

Stop being weird.

Their only purpose is non baby making, pleasure only sex free of the risks of STI’s and babies.
If you aren’t seeking pleasurable risk free sex you don’t need condoms.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 27/10/2024 18:51

shuggles · 27/10/2024 18:49

Maybe next we can have male sex toys, so that men and boys can also have sexual pleasure.

I'm not sure if this is sarcasm or not?

But just in case it isn't:
Men and boys experience sexual pleasure more easily than women and girls
Sex toys for men exist

BloodandGlitter · 27/10/2024 18:52

Skate76 · 27/10/2024 18:46

Condoms are for birth control, dildos are a sex toy and I don't want to pick one up with my weekly shop 🤷‍♀️

No one is forcing you to, and Dildos can be birth control.

PinkyAndTheBarnacle · 27/10/2024 18:52

JustBrowsingTheWeb · 27/10/2024 17:22

Think education and culture are most important towards promoting safe sex, but at my Tesco pharmacy is literally in the same store not really a barrier, anyone mature enough to be having sex should definitely be able to overcome this “obstacle”

@JustBrowsingTheWeb

and I think anyone mature enough to be a parent should be mature enough to have conversations with their kid in age appropriate terms…

Your kid will have no idea what it is and if they ask then you tell them.. don’t be such a prude! It’s not like they’re selling butt plugs and nipple clamps next to the LEGO and My Little Pony!

Magnastorm · 27/10/2024 18:52

shuggles · 27/10/2024 18:47

The alternative to having sex with a condom is having sex without a condom.

Sex without condoms has an increased risk of infection and unwanted pregnancy compared to sex with condoms.

Therefore, condoms are a health item.

Stop being obtuse.

Edited

The ONLY reason people are having sex with a condom is for the fun of it. The alternative is not having sex, not having unprotected sex, FFS.

Therefore, they are as much for pleasure as vibrators are.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 27/10/2024 18:53

Also, why are some posters acting like you have to explain in detail what the items are to a child?
"Well that stimulates the prostate on a man to enhance his sexual pleasure"

Rather than "it's for adults" or "it's something adults use in private. Come on, let's look at the chocolate."

BalletCat · 27/10/2024 18:53

Magnastorm · 27/10/2024 18:52

The ONLY reason people are having sex with a condom is for the fun of it. The alternative is not having sex, not having unprotected sex, FFS.

Therefore, they are as much for pleasure as vibrators are.

Edited

Ridiculous.

SwingTheMonkey · 27/10/2024 18:53

Skate76 · 27/10/2024 18:46

Condoms are for birth control, dildos are a sex toy and I don't want to pick one up with my weekly shop 🤷‍♀️

So don’t then? 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t think there are any plans to make it compulsory.

And yes condoms are for birth control. So that people can have sex. For pleasure.

Magnastorm · 27/10/2024 18:54

BalletCat · 27/10/2024 18:53

Ridiculous.

Care to explain why? I'll wait.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 27/10/2024 18:55

Skate76 · 27/10/2024 18:46

Condoms are for birth control, dildos are a sex toy and I don't want to pick one up with my weekly shop 🤷‍♀️

Do they force you to buy them at your local Tesco???