dh refusing to give me admin access to router in my house

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DH is refusing to give me admin access to the router in our house because he doesn't think i'm responsible enough. We've both had long careers in tech! I'm currently studying for a security certification.
I'm in shock he thinks he can justify withholding access to a service I pay for at least as much as he does.
He is being unreasonable, right?

Just unplug it! What a controlling fool he is.

Can you not guess the password?

What?!
He’s being outrageous.
I’ve just given my 18yo the login and password to ours because he wants to see if he can improve his PlayStation performance and that’s bormal
imo.
I wouldn’t have given my kids the settings when they were younger because I had restrictions like times they could use the wifi but you’re a grown adult who should have the login and password. Have you tried the manufacturer’s standard password and login ?

What does he mean by ‘responsible enough’? That’s bizarre.

Is the contract in his name? If not, cancel. In his name, get another router..and exclude him...

Of course he's BU. What a controlling dick!

Buy your own and don't give him access! Really though it's probably time to LTB!

What a nob!

I hope you aren’t paying for any of it. Agree with getting your own.

Why does he say you are "not responsible", what's he up to?

The fact you have to ask is really quite worrying!

He sounds incredibly controlling and belittling and I doubt this is the only example of such behaviour.

Id wanna know what was on that router..

Reset to factory settings.

WTAF

I doubt this is the only thing he's controlling about.

I'd unplug it and take it with you the next time you leave him at home alone but then I don't believe in wasting energy trying to reason with unreasonable people so I'd have some fun.

My question is, what's he hiding?

Makes absolutely sense.

Time to start locking him out of stuff. I'd be changing the passwords on everything I could think of.

What an arse.

It's a router there won't be anything on it apart from connected devices, security settings etc. you won't find internet search history or anything like that.

It is bizarre though.

I wonder why he would do that.. is there something he doesn't want you to see perhaps?
Either way it's a no from me

How bizarre
Contact your provider and ask/ buy another one.
Him saying you're not responsible is obviously a lie

No one who locks things down tight like this has passwords that can be guessed.

Hide the cable then blackmail him.

Make him grovel.

When he capitulates demand compensation for his sexism.

Are there devices connected to the router he doesn’t want you to know about maybe?

Had over every household management chore to him from now on.

How much responsibility does one need to have in order to look at a string of random numbers on a router admin page. What does he think you are going to do? Hack into Pentagon?
Utterly bizarre!
I'm afraid I'd go all petty and exclude him from anything else that's shared. Sorry, love, I am going to have to confiscate your house keys. You are just not responsible enough to have unsupervised access.
Or, indeed, go the other way. Sorry love, I didn't think I was responsible enough to use a hoover/cooker/go to the shop by myself.