Furious with DD's swimwear

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Someone talk me down please!

On holiday with elderly parents and elderly in-laws - wonderful people. 15 yr old DD has emerged from her room to go to the pool in 5he smallest of bikinis. I can almost see her vagina.

I feel fucking ancient saying this. I hate myself for even feeling like this but she has zero modesty.

I bought her 3 bikinis (together - we went together) from Roxy and Next - lovely ones. Not one has arrived and instead she has bought, without my knowledge, 4 from shein that are not for her curvy build. Barely any material and I'm really embarrassed.

Confronting her has gone downhill rapidly and she's claiming that I'm hardly a feminist as 'she should be able to wear what she likes as it's her body'. She's not bloody wrong but what the hell happened to my daughter's modesty.

My parents and in-laws are sensing the atmosphere already and we only arrived an hour ago.

AIBU?

Amazing. PLEASE do this!!

Not a blooming chance would I be ok with this.

These teeny weeny triangle and string bikinis that are designed to look 8 sizes too small are not appropriate for a 15 year old on a family holiday with grandparents.

Are there shops near you OP?

Delphigirl · Today 17:58
She is 15. She is confident in her body. You have already said too much. Leave her.

No, don't. This is a mother parenting her daughter, who is still struggling to understand what is and is not appropriate

You need to have a calm chat with her about appropriateness and keep it factual rather than honing in on ‘I can see your vag’

What she is wearing is suitable for her first girl’s holiday (in 2-3 years!) in Ibiza where they are taking posey pics and dressing up for the beach clubs.

Not for a family holiday.

It’s a good lesson to learn, and it needs to be learned. Express yourself and experiment, but some situations require you to rein it in a bit.

I’ll wear a thong bikini on a kids free holiday with my husband somewhere tropical, but the more modest two piece comes out when we’re with my in laws.

This is literally basic social skills.

the same people @-ing you for being a prude/bodyshamer/out of touch over exaggerator would also be angry if you wouldn’t let her wear a SHEIN bodycon special to nana’s funeral

In some countries 15yo can have sex if that what you are pointing at.

That's hardly relevant.

Irrelevant to the point that women only dress in certain things for the male gaze

What an absolutely vile post. This isn’t having a bitchy side, this is being abusive. What a sure fire way to make sure your daughter develops an ED, goes NC at the first possible chance she gets and needs therapy to get over her relationship with her narcissist Mother.

No that one is much more coverage.
Op has confirmed it’s a micro bikini on their website like this.

Ouch! I hope you didn’t say she was too curvy for it. I would not be happy but also might suck it up at this stage due to holiday and not getting into a power struggle. Shein bikins are so cheap - it would be shame if it started to come apart at the seams!

How do we know she's wearing it for the gaze of men and not because she wants to avoid awkward tan lines or because she feels good in it?

She is 15. Who is going to see her tan lines?

No. We're making the point about hypersexualised clothing on teenage girls and how prevalent it is.

Don't care

God, I hate the look of those fanny in a hammock bikinis. Hopefully the fashion will change soon.

Not all men do. As you'd know at Rocky Horror

But I'm not a man so it's irrelevant in my case

OP she’s 15 and a child. My 15 year old definitely has limits on swimwear. When she’s 18 she can crack on with the feminist line.

@Investinmyself I think the model's pose says it all.

But it isn't embarrassing to her or she wouldn't be wearing it

No

People are talking about the clothes nothing the girl

This is another Shein bikini… I mean I wouldn’t want my 15 yr old daughter in one simply because there will be pervy men getting their rocks off looking. As a mother that is beyond grim. If it was nothing but women around I wouldn’t care.

No. I was talking about the hypersexualised clothing of teenagers. I can't work out what nothing the girl means.

Is this a stealth ad for shein??

I feel ancient sometimes. What’s wrong with saying you’re a child no. When she’s 18 on hols paid for by herself with her friends then she can wear what she likes.

Can’t believe there are people seriously arguing that these bikinis are not designed to be sexual.

Yeah all these micro bikinis are just to avoid tan lines 🙄🙄🙄