To be completely shocked about someone I used to know

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When my youngest was at primary school I really liked this woman who had kids either side of mine.

She was in the PTA equivalent and was just a nice woman. There was no drama around her.

I remember having a day off and went into the local cafe, and she invited me to sit with her friends. She was funny, warm and witty.

Significantly, she had friends of all ethnicities and her best friend was Asian.

Everybody will relate to being busy but I think if it was a different time in my life or we had kids in same year we would have been mates.

I am absolutely shocked that she is a member of a right wing political party and has a presence in that party, utterly and completely shocked.

I know it’s not illegal but God.

All three of my siblings are Tories, I’m not someone who thinks everyone has to think like me but I am stunned.

Mumsnet hates this, but I have had a physical reaction to the news. I am just Gobsmacked and weirdly let down and I do know that’s a stupid, irrational thing to say.

She has different politics to you, big deal. You said yourself she was lovely , friendly and had friends for all ethnicities so clearly not racist. I loath the left, they have become the new far right with their group think and identity politics and their absolute intolerance of anyone who doesn't think like them

I'm not a Conservative supporter.

But someone's political viewpoint doesn't define them as a good or bad person OP.

Reform?

Someone's political view point absolutely defines them as a good or bad person.

It absolutely does. You are voting for policies advocating the type of society you want.

Is she a tory then? Fgs, because just if she is, then just because someone is a tory, it doesn't automatically make them a racist does it?

And before anyone starts, no I'm not a tory.

I think you're massively overreacting.

How far right - which party?

You often meet nice people who you find out hold views you can't ignore, I really liked someone I met at work until she said something genuinely intolerant.

I think your reaction is very strong actually.

But a right wing party, not just a Tory!

@AsYouMightBe I guess so. But in reality. Many people vote right wing..unless they tell you, you don't know. So with this viewpoint, we might as well Just not think any one is nice...until we know who they support.

Fom this I'm taking that a large percentage of the UK are not very nice people then... actually, that might be quite accurate!

Exactly
Many years ago I found out that my then neighbours were paid up members of the BNP.
In my eyes they were not decent people

Actually sometimes it does. Laurence Fox being the perfect example . . ..

That is the biggest load of kumbaya nonsense.

That depends on the political viewpoint in question, doesn't it?

I stand corrected. Fair enough

@Namechange666 No not a Tory.

My siblings are Tory, but this is a step too far.

Which one?

Do you mean an extreme right wing party?

Bloody hell I thought you were going to say she had defended her paedophile husband/abused and murdered her kids/ abused her elderly relative etc.
At the very least

Yes, you are being ridiculous.

Of course it fucking does.

Politics is fundamentally about the way we want our society to function. It is the heart of everything about us as an individual, community and society. How you vote reflects how you feel about your fellow humans and you can't get more of a moral judgement than that.

Is it the local union of fascists? 🙄

I think if it was a far right extremist party I could understand
But a mainstream despite what mumsnet posters think not so much
Neither labour or Conservative s are particularly great but they are the only two parties likely to win and people align themselves to the one that they feel most fits their beliefs

Absolute nonsense you are voting for
the people who you think will best serve your community and country.

We don’t live in a fascist state its a democracy very narrowminded

If you mean a FAR right party, better to say that or you'll just get all the Tory Bots jumping on to give you a hard time as they will think you mean them.

The algorithm will have set off the klaxon at Cuntservative HQ with the mention of "right wing" in a post, no doubt.

Why are you being coy?

@Kingoftheroad what the heck is fascist about voting for certain policies? And what do you think those people who are voted in are going to do - implement their choice of policies maybe??? 🤔