Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

#grownuptime#18+#gonnasnoghisfaceoff#romance#timetomakeanotherbaby#lovers#irresponsibledrinking#gonnagetlaidDo you think my kids would prefer hashtags like that?

@Bridgetjoneski Oh it totally can be the highlight of the night. Doesn't mean those parents love their kids any less. Your idea of crass is just your opinion. You sound extremely pretentious. And as other have said, going by your other threads, your motives are highly suspect. I'm not sure why you posted this as an AIBU,since you clearly just wanted to tell us.

@Butterdishy 😂#gonnagetlaid 😂

@Bridgetjoneski is it only your working friends that do this? Because it would seem that you're saying SAHM are better than them and love their children more!

You're wrong, very very wrong!

Oh yes! Those great times when you're sure you're not going g to be disturbed by a child waking....... wonderful!

Had a child free day today and loved every single second.

Sorry, not sorry!

This is getting tedious and begins to sound like a wind up from the OP.

This thread reminds me a bit of a FB post I saw by a friend recently: she’d posted on her son’s birthday gushing about how amazing he was and how proud she was of him and how her greatest joy was being his mum…then said that her DH had taken him out for the day so she could have a break 😆

I hope it is a wind up because if the OP really has these beliefs being spouted on several threads then there is no hope. Other posters have made me laugh (in a good way).

It’s absolutely fine to enjoy a night without children. Being a parent is all consuming and yet again here is another thread loaded with internalised misogyny about how distasteful it is for a woman to dare enjoy having some free time. When will it ever end? Please get a life.

…I had a massage today, my time to myself was fantastic because I had a wonderful, relaxing, rebalancing massage. Not because it was child free 🙄

One of the most boring threads I've ever read on Mumsnet

But you would've fucking hated it with a couple of kids in tow....

Of course you enjoyed because there were no kids about!

Stop being so disingenuous.

Agreed yet oddly OP never explains how she went from jealousy to having the life she was jealous of in 24 hours. That's an impressive leap. Personally I'm jealous of supermodels but just think 24 hours from now maybe I'll be one day #dreambig #shouldanamechanged #cringe

@BajaBaja that's why selfishly chose a massage and not a trip too soft play! Because you didn't want to be with your kids!

So if I take annual leave and photo holiday photos with a “enjoying my change of scenery from work” would my colleagues all be upset and hurt?

The OP has replied to this almost 100 times? It must really get to you, the PTA duties can’t be keeping you very busy. You spend a lot of time on your phone for such an outstanding, morally superior parent.

@doilooklikeicare am not being funny but you’re missing the point.
I am trying to emphasise that what I do with my free time is MORE important than how I got to do that. It’s a matter of perspective.

No because you didn't #workcolleaguefree implicating them as the main reason you are enjoying your holiday...
The #childfree brigade are stipulating their night out is best because they are #childfree insinuating their lack of children is making it better.

@doilooklikeicare who said I chose massage over soft play? How did you make that conclusion…

Well I took annual leave today so I could go for an eye test with no kids in tow. It was like a bloody holiday.

It's well beyond the bounds of my imagination to comprehend WTF someone actually cares about something so utterly trivial, and doesn't just do what most normal would, roll their eyes and get on with their day?!! You can be #petfree if you wish, I'm not interested.

I'm definitely going to put #colleaguefree on my next holiday because colleagues would see it as funny. The same as my teenager would if I put#teenagerfree. He wouldn't think I didn't love him

side note though: I don’t get why people are in Instagram etc if they get so wound up by the things their friends that they don’t really like wind them up so much?

Cause you chose a massage over doing something with your children..

#cruel