Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

Are we that bored on a Monday lunchtime?

What is it exactly that 'irks' you so much?

Can you articulate what it is that concerns you exactly?

I think it's lovely and very important to relax away from the kids, especially if it's only one a fortnight.

It's all too easy to lose yourself and your relationships once the babies come along.

I LOVE kid free time!

Do you have children OP?

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I think it's great people are making sure their friendships and relationships are strong, and not spending every minute of every day in 'parent mode'. Breaks are important. Maybe if you had more breaks OP you wouldn't get so irked?

What is it about women being temporarily away from their children and enjoying it that offends you?

Is it that you don’t get any child free time?

Is it that you practice attachment parenting and think child should be with mum 24/7?

is it the fact that woman are celebrating that they can have a good time without children that irks you?

I mean, I don't usually feel the need to specify that when I'm with friends down the pub I'm childfree, but I 100% am thrilled that I get that childfree time.

Why? After raising young kids it’s lovely to be without them for short periods- doesn’t mean they don’t love the kids or want to send them up a chimney? I imagine there’s an equal amount of posts at soft plays etc with the kids. For them it’s the most interesting thing they’ve done that day/ week- and isn’t that what social media is for- a brief glimpse into someone’s life? Plus they are probably just trying to be funny. What exactly bothers you about this??

I swear some people just scroll through social media looking for reasons to get annoyed.

Yes she does.

I've just realised this is the judgy, finger-pointy OP whose thread I was reading yesterday lol.

I know op, it's disgusting, why even have kids if you need a few hours to yourself in the next 18 years. To declare it publicly as well, shameful.

Abhorrent behaviour.

If their children are still young then it's quite an event to go out child free - they're just excited about the departure from the norm. It's important as a parent not to completely lose your identity when you have young children.

Why the constant need to say they are child free? Are their kids really such a burden? I just think it's distasteful.

I never go out without my kids by choice but I think that's more unusual. It's healthy to go out without them.

They don't need to say it, do they?

They want to say it, and why not?

Enjoying yourself away from your kids isn't a dirty little secret, and nor does it make them a burden.

But then you know that, you just seem to love moaning and griping all over MN.

Well yes! Kids ARE a burden if you want a night in a bar/club etc!

Get over it op.... nobodies life has to change so much because they have a kid!

Oh I totally agree with you OP
How very dare they have a child free night!!
At the very least they should be velcro'd to their various crotchfruit every minute of every day
And posting about it on Social Media?
DISGUSTING BEHAVIOUR!!

(signed Outraged of Kent)

PS: ever tried getting a hobby?

I am not just a parent though, I'm also a person who likes to do things that kids would detest like go to a lovely restaurant, go to a museum etc. I'm still allowed to do that just because I chose to have a child (as is my DH). I'm off on holiday again this year on my own for a few days because my child has two very capable parents and my life as an individual didn't end when my DS was born.

i do understand what you mean. My kids are older now and my 13 year old was looking into his dads old Twitter-account (X) from years ago when he was little. He was shocked by the amount of private information about him his dad had posted there.(we were ignorant then, we don’t post anything anymore these days)
Luckily nothing too negative. But I also have friends who post very disrespectful stuff about their kids on facebook or instagram. One day they’ll read it and hold it against you.

I don't think you're irked.

I think you're jealous

Er….OK

What a strange thing to be irked by. It's clearly noteworthy for them, so they noted it. You get to choose what you do, which includes adult only time, family time and who to follow on social media to
Do you have kids? Do you have time away from them?

They might not have their children with them, but they are not childfree - they still have to be on the end of a phone in case of emergency, get back home at reasonable hour and so on.