Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

As if my kids are going to be trawling through my social media feed from years ago. 🤣

Believe me, your kids couldn’t care less.

Nah. Petfree is wonderful too.

Plus my dog can’t use social media to get upset that an hour or two away from him completely negates the other 95% of my time I spend with him.

Should be Bridgetboredski

@Bridgetjoneski I can only begin to imagine what your parents were saying about you in their secret diaries, when you were a child ! Let's hope they've been thrown away!

Every fortnight for a couple of hours when the kids will probably be in bed anyway and a few nights a year away from the little darlings won’t scar them for life.

I can’t wait for mine to fully leave home. I suppose that makes me a terrible mother.

But #sprogless #childfreezone is tacky & a cheap shot at innocent children

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Please think about the innocent children 😂

Why do you think it’s a joke?

#childfree is totally serious (and awesome).

Exactly is no one thinking of the children........ 😆😆😆😆

The only issue I’d have is being a tad jealous. Our boys stayed over at their nannas last October half term. This was the first time in a year my husband and I got an evening and until dinner time the next day to ourselves. I have friends that go out once a week on date nights, child free weekends away every few weeks. We get none of that and we have 3 sets of grandparents. Nobody offers, we get my MIL coming round on a Friday for 30 minutes to drop off the weekly ‘bag of crap’ (Junk food and things we don’t buy to appease the kids) and my parents are always busy and need months notice and then let us down. FIL and his wife spend all their time with the grown up step kids, their kids and step great grand children. MIL has our nephews (same age as our youngest) every weekend for sleep overs and has them 3 nights a week after school for dinner. My BIL and partner get away and get a break very often and we are overlooked.
I would brag to the hills for the chance to go to a spa hotel or out for a lovely dinner with my DH. Anywhere we go the kids come with us.

Do you know what, I have a night away in March and fuck me am I counting down the days! I’m not even going to FaceTime the kids at bedtime because I fully intend on being half cut by then.

I cannot wait!

#childfreeforthewin #mumoftheyear #whydidievenbotherhavingthem

You are being judgemental.

Whilst you may find this behaviour distasteful, have you considered that some of these ladies may struggle with the demands of parenting (no matter how much we love our children, we all face challenges) and this may be their way of releasing/helping others to see they are not alone in their parenting journey. Have you considered that some people just do/say what they need to say?

I appreciate that are unsavoury characters both in and outside of parenting, OP...yet to call them distasteful is judgemental and a bridge too far. Try considering how many plates they may be spinning instead; Not all parents get much help and support outside of 'every other weekend' and every situation is different.

I hope this thread enables you to think outside of the box and balance your view on such matters in the future.

@Wednesdaysphiltrum

#whydidievenbotherhavingthem 😂hahahaha.

Jealousy is a terrible thing!!!!

I wonder if there is hope that one of these threads might get picked up by one of the red-top rags and made into a ‘story’.

Wow

you are very passionate about the poor innocent children OP, good for you.

I mean why direct your anger at doing something for actually neglected children when you could be slagging off Sally up the road who’s pleased to have an evening off from wiping bums

I do know quite a few parents though who are actually incapable of parenting their own children. Completely lost on Nanny's day off.

Im struggling with the 40 hours at work is kid free time ??

Yep 40 hours with ZERO “free” time (it’s being consumed by work I would imagine)

It sounds like you have plenty of time to do activities you like solo (no bums to wipe, toilet trips, etc) where you can swim , brunch etc while the kids are at school. Good for you because we all need some sanity and activities outside of looking after (very loved but equally draining) small people .

So if they work for 40 hours , I’m assuming they don’t have the same 9-3 “child free” time to do anything for themselves.

After a 9 hour day and possibly a commute , they finish work (their “free time” ) assuming they aren’t absolute monsters they spend time with said kids , evenings and weekend and you think it’s “gloating” that they relish is the 3-5 hours every 2 weeks??

For a bit of perspective which seems to be low in supply here - This averages about 2.5 hours per week where they are happy that they don’t have anyone else’s needs to meet but their own ????

Absolute brutes 🙄🙄

What on earth - Cop on OP , YABVVU .

Gosh! what a pointless thread. The wording of your posts also suggests you are resentful of working mums.
I’m glad I had a full time working mother who worked hard to provide my needs and showed me how to be an independent woman, im also happy she had child free days without me or my siblings and wouldn’t care if she announced it. I don’t feel it’s negative. It’s similar to being happy when I’m on leave from work, I don’t think work is negative, just glad to have a break from it.

You did not just compare 40 hours at work to actual leisure time with your partner 😂😂😂

just as bad as comparing mat leave to “doing nothing all day” or a holiday

I don’t think anyone actually cares what you find abrasive. In fact the voting seems to prove that you are in fact unreasonable.

And yet you keep doubling down. Are you bored?

How are they “raising hell” by adding a hashtag saying it’s a kid-free time. Stop exaggerating and work on your attitude. Frankly, you come across as agitated. Why would a post like that affect you so much? Even after numerous posters have offered perspectives to enlighten you, you persist in criticising your so-called friends. Please examine your motives… you sound judgy and bitter. Jees! I wouldn’t want a friend who thinks like you do! You refuse to acknowledge that people can feel and think differently to you. Please get some self-awareness.

OP, just admit you don't like these women and probably should just unfollow them.

#toonoseytodeletethecrassmumfriends

Distasteful? Not at all! I get every weekend off and I love every single minute 😂 cheers to all the mums who get the chance for a night out!

💯 OP is posting from her frame of reference. The fact that she is triggered by such a small thing. Also adding so much info about her “friends” working full-time, 40 hours a week etc. There are definitely some deep seated issues behind her post which comes across as quite unhinged.