To think it's odd my husband didn't eat the roast meat because my dad had touched it

[LaviniaLee]

Just before Christmas, my husband and I went to visit my family for the weekend, for an early-christmas celebration. My sister did a big roast for us (for my parents, siblings & families).

The meat was a lovely roast lamb. My dad was helping by carving the meat. He put his hand on the skin of the joint and carved. So he had touched the edges of the meat.

My husband loves meat but he didn't take any of it. When I asked him later, he said it was because he didn't think my dad had clean hands, because he once heard him (at a different time) flush the loo and come out quickly, and he suspected that he hadn't washed his hands. So now his general assumption is that my dad doesn't have clean hands.

AIBU to think it's odd that my husband didn't eat the meat for this reason? (given he normally loves it).

I wouldn't want to eat it either tbh

Yeah if I had that suspicion I wouldn’t be eating it either.

I wouldn't even register that someone had touched it in those circumstances, but this is Mumsnet, home to the ewwwww, germs people.

I don't think it's odd, it makes sense someone would be put off the food by this idea (whether or not it's true).

I probably would have taken some but cut the edge off…

Im not generally overly worried about germs but that combination would give me the ick!

It’s fair, and tbh there’s no reason to be touching a joint of meat to carve it anyway.

i wouldn’t fancy it either. I’d think it was more odd to knowingly eat meat touched by willy-fingers. Is DH’s assumption not fair enough? If a fella doesn’t wash them after he goes to the loo why anyone assume he would he wash them before he helps in the kitchen?

Have to say that if I thought that I wouldn't have been keen either. But I would have cut the edges off. I don't think he's the odd one, though.

I don't normally care about hands on food, but I can see why your DH might have been put off if he thinks your dad doesn't wash his hands after using the toilet.

He sounds batshit.

Next year’s Christmas gift?

https://www.farrar-tanner.co.uk/sabatier-professional-professional-sabatier-3pc-soft-grip-carving-set?glCountry=GB&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIssP9x4DegwMVE5lQBh02XwxmEAQYASABEgI5L_D_BwE

Your DH sounds a bit unhinged tbh

I'm with your DH on this

Not odd

Next years Christmas gift for dad?

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With your dh. Would you really eat from someone who uses the loo and doesn't wash hands??

MN is full of people who are appalled by anything vaguely unsanitary. I don't know how they leave the house TBH.

I'd have eaten it.

I'm with your DH. He knows your dad doesn't wash his hands after using the toilet, so it's put him off.
I won't have a tea or coffee at my SILs house either, because I've seen BIL drink straight from the milk bottle.

Is it true that your dad doesn’t wash his hands after using the loo?

He doesn't know though. He thinks he heard one time. And frankly, listening to your FIL's toilet habits is a lot weirder than touching the roast.

"Unhinged" and "batshit" 🤣 Some very dramatic people on the thread.

I mean, if I suspected someone had poor hand hygiene then I wouldn't want to eat meat that they'd unnecessarily touched either, no. I might just have cut the outside bit off, but it would have grossed me out.

Some 15% of men didn’t wash their hands at all, compared with 7% of women. When they did wash their hands, only 50% of men used soap, compared with 78% of women.

Men are pigs though.

I don’t understand why your Dad was touching the meat to carve it. That’s weird.

This is almost one in 10 women who don't wash their hands!

And twice as many men don’t!