Husband taking a trip after daughter had accident

[36londonmum]

My daughter fell over and really injured herself, so is unable to get around without any kind of assistance. My husband had booked a golf trip with his friends prior to this happening and he still wants to go and leave me with both kids for nearly a week. It’s going to be extremely difficult for me to juggle all school pick ups and everything else that entails! I work full time and have a side job. I really wanted to know, AIBU?!

No but he is!

That is life. Get over it!

depends on all sorts of things, age of children, nature of injury, frequency of golfing trips, how often you get a chance to go away, etc

How old is your dd? Is she on crutches?

Were you going to be doing school pick ups any ways? Or does this change things?

Is she on crutches or something? What was the nature of the injury?

How old is she ?
Has dh arranged soneone to come and help?

Far too vague to judge it but I wouldn't expect anyone to cancel a pre planned trip unless it was absolutely necessary.

As always, ages are important here.

How old are the children? What's the extent of the damage to DD? When is the trip?

Adding to this, she is in a wheelchair or a zimmer frame and is 5…

And her sibling's age?

She’s got a full straight leg cast and is in a wheelchair for 8 weeks :( she can use a zimmer frame to walk a bit but it’s tiring as she’s 5

Sibling is 6 nearly 7

Yes there are two different picks up which we would have split, so it means I cannot do anything from 3pm

He’s passed me a babysitter number…

Would he normally do the school pick ups? Yes it'll be harder, but assuming you were going it to do it anyway if he was away?

Yeah I would just manage for the sake of a few days tbh. We had one with a full leg cast and juts carried on as we were which was working opposite shifts so we did childcare at the opposite parts of the day - it was a struggle but essentially what you are describing, being alone.

You will be very surprised at how soon she is able to navigate her way about - mine ditched the crutches and was dragging himself about the house after about 4/5 days, including up and down stairs and toileting

Speak to school and pick up your injured child early to enable you to collect the other one on time

I would hand him a letter from my solicitor

😂

No I wouldn't expect my DH to cancel a trip that was already booked and paid for, because of a DC with a broken leg

I think he's a knobhead for going on a golf trip for a week, when he's got young kids anyway. So of course, I think he's out of order for leaving you all in the lurch like this.

I would just book my own holiday then at some point and leave him to it

selfish person

Absolutely leave him to it the week after.

Book a spa trip.