Boyfriend says I’m not there yet but headed that way when I asked him if he loved me

[Marnie1818]

Me and my boyf both 40 have known each other since Feb and been a couple since about May/June. He’s introduced me to his kids and he’s met mine. We spend 5 days a week together and he gets me to spend whole weekends with him and his kids. He’s asked me to look after his daughter a few times. I asked him if he loves me and he said I’m not there yet but headed that way. I feel upset and quite used. Do I quit or hope he changes his mind. He used me support for his divorce and finding a job

it’s not difficult to love someone ffs. It’s not a prize to hang onto, that someone else has to jump through hoops for
What?
Op, what on earth did you ask him for? If he felt it, he'd have told you.

“Not there yet but headed that way” is a line straight out of MAFS UK.

Translated it means, I’m personally benefitting from the existence of this dead end relationship in some way other than emotional fulfilment and it’s in my interests to keep it going for the time being until either I’ve extracted as much material advantage as I need, or you realise what’s going on and end it for me, whichever comes first.