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To think you dont accidentally text your ex this....

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:01

My ex text me the other night "I love you" we haven't spoken in around 2 months or more and we've been split up for 6 years (though we have children so still in contact sometimes) everyone has told me it was obviously an "accident" aibu to think you dont "accidentally" text your ex of 6 years that you love them? How is that an accident? We haven't spoken in 2 months so I would imagine im pretty far down on his messages, also this was text message (he is blocked on whatsapp) and i imagine 99% of people communicate over WhatsApp especially if it was meant for someone he was dating! I know I don't even text anyone anymore but he was still far down from all the other texts I receive from random places. Why do people try to say this stuff is an accident when it clearly wasn't 🤔 aibu to think you dont accidentally text your ex you love them? (Fair enough if we was just speaking a few days ago but we haven't spoken in months)

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itsmylife7 · 27/07/2023 22:22

I text more than WhatsApp!

readbooksdrinktea · 27/07/2023 22:23

No one texts? Clearly he does. He was probably drunk.

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:23

Katrinawaves · 27/07/2023 22:21

What age are your children and were they with him when the message was sent?

I’m getting Parent Trap vibes about this!

No they weren’t with him.

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supersonicginandtonic · 27/07/2023 22:25

I always text people by accident, I'm usually rushing about.
I Told my boss I love you once 🙈

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:26

readbooksdrinktea · 27/07/2023 22:23

No one texts? Clearly he does. He was probably drunk.

No he doesn’t he only texts me because he is blocked on my WhatsApp. He has the kids phone number and he only ever WhatsApp them. Never texts.

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INeedAnotherName · 27/07/2023 22:26

Depends if she has a smart phone or a cheap burner phone that only uses texts and calls especially if she's married. I only use WhatsApp at home as I'm on PAYG, otherwise I text.

Vitriolinsanity · 27/07/2023 22:27

It's a hunch, but if you've talked about it your nears and dears as much as you have here, might it be they're trying to shut you up anyway they can.

illiterato · 27/07/2023 22:27

At times like these I find it helps to turn to society’s great philosophers for wisdom. Here’s what Socrates has to say

”one, don’t pick up the phone, you know he’s only calling coz he’s drunk and alone…”

oh wait that’s Dua Lipa… never mind- still works!!

but basically I agree- not an accident. But probably drunk and a bit nostalgic. I’d just ignore tbh.

UrsulaIsMyQueen · 27/07/2023 22:27

What answer are you looking for? He’s obviously still in love with you?

Hannahsbananas · 27/07/2023 22:27

MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:19

then he would be talking to them on WhatsApp as no one texts anymore 🤷🏻‍♀️

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No one texts anymore?! You’re sounding quite weird now, op.
Stop overthinking this.

Mummy2022FT · 27/07/2023 22:27

I think he did mean to send it but in a 'testing the waters' kind of way.

Also, I'm sorry to say but from an outsiders perspective it absolutely still looks like
he has some kind of hold on you emotionally

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:28

Hannahsbananas · 27/07/2023 22:27

No one texts anymore?! You’re sounding quite weird now, op.
Stop overthinking this.

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The majority of people communicate over WhatsApp…

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Mummy2022FT · 27/07/2023 22:29

illiterato · 27/07/2023 22:27

At times like these I find it helps to turn to society’s great philosophers for wisdom. Here’s what Socrates has to say

”one, don’t pick up the phone, you know he’s only calling coz he’s drunk and alone…”

oh wait that’s Dua Lipa… never mind- still works!!

but basically I agree- not an accident. But probably drunk and a bit nostalgic. I’d just ignore tbh.

😂😂

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:29

UrsulaIsMyQueen · 27/07/2023 22:27

What answer are you looking for? He’s obviously still in love with you?

Well that’s what the message says!

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UndercoverCop · 27/07/2023 22:29

It is easily done though, what if his new girlfriend has a similar or the same name to you?
You're giving this an awful lot of headspace

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:29

Vitriolinsanity · 27/07/2023 22:27

It's a hunch, but if you've talked about it your nears and dears as much as you have here, might it be they're trying to shut you up anyway they can.

Only online.

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Hannahsbananas · 27/07/2023 22:30

MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:28

The majority of people communicate over WhatsApp…

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But not all. And very clearly not your ex.
How much head space are you going to give this?

Hawkins0001 · 27/07/2023 22:30

@MaxwellCat seems unlikely unless drunk

UrsulaIsMyQueen · 27/07/2023 22:31

MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:29

Well that’s what the message says!

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Then what’s the thread for? Are you still in love with him? If so, text him back. If not, ignore the message and get on with your life.

illiterato · 27/07/2023 22:32

MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:28

The majority of people communicate over WhatsApp…

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I agree with this tbh. The only thing I get by text is courier and Waitrose messages. Everyone else is on WhatsApp’s except gamers dealers and edge lords who use Discord

Smearfear1 · 27/07/2023 22:33

Definitely not an accident. But possibly drunk. Does that make a difference? Not sure. I would reply ‘was that meant for me?’ If I was hoping it was… or ignore it completely if it wasn’t.

Frankenpug23 · 27/07/2023 22:34

Why are you worrying about this? It was either an accident or it wasn’t!! If you don’t have any feelings for him then none of this matters!! So my guess is you do have feelings- and if you do ask him ‘what was that all about?’

He may of been drunk, lonely, pushing his luck - who knows!! Just ask him.

Never really use WhatsApp to be honest - we use text as do all my friends.

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:35

illiterato · 27/07/2023 22:32

I agree with this tbh. The only thing I get by text is courier and Waitrose messages. Everyone else is on WhatsApp’s except gamers dealers and edge lords who use Discord

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the only texts I get is from EE or Tesco’s / NHS but of course this is MN and I’m wrong and everyone speaks over texts 😂 my ex doesn’t text I think I know him more than anyone on here he ONLY texts me because he is blocked on my WhatsApp! No one has text me in years

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UrsulaIsMyQueen · 27/07/2023 22:36

I’m asking this in the nicest possible way… what’s the issue here? Are you upset that your friends aren’t acknowledging that he may still be in love with you? Do you still have feelings for him?

MrsFarmerTom · 27/07/2023 22:36

What are you looking for from this thread OP? Validation from a bunch of strangers that he still loves you?