To think you dont accidentally text your ex this....

[MaxwellCat]

My ex text me the other night "I love you" we haven't spoken in around 2 months or more and we've been split up for 6 years (though we have children so still in contact sometimes) everyone has told me it was obviously an "accident" aibu to think you dont "accidentally" text your ex of 6 years that you love them? How is that an accident? We haven't spoken in 2 months so I would imagine im pretty far down on his messages, also this was text message (he is blocked on whatsapp) and i imagine 99% of people communicate over WhatsApp especially if it was meant for someone he was dating! I know I don't even text anyone anymore but he was still far down from all the other texts I receive from random places. Why do people try to say this stuff is an accident when it clearly wasn't 🤔 aibu to think you dont accidentally text your ex you love them? (Fair enough if we was just speaking a few days ago but we haven't spoken in months)

Have you seen how many posts there are!? Most saying the same so I'll be honest I gave up. If you read it through fair play! Would be fab if you broke it down for me.

Lol. Can I re-read the thread for you and spend my own time picking out the bits you're too lazy unable to find.

That would be a no.

They're there. Let's leave it at that.

Award for most frustrating thread goes to....

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No difference people just don’t want it to be true 😂 it’s really weird how far they will go!

But it was answered so many times!! I assumed you'd have remembered. This reminds me when my 7 yo knows the answer but won't tell me 🤣 she doesn't really know!

I mean, go with the 5% who can't see a difference, Vs the 95% telling you there is. That means he loves you

You do understand we don't "want" it to be anything, right? It makes no odds to us. I'm sorry you can't accept that it's really clear your ex is not in love with you, when you really want it to be so.

Yep that's right. If I won't find it for you, obviously it's because it doesn't exist. How predictable. Do your own reading! Lazy sod

And 95% of poster said it was an accident and meant for someone else and that was wrong so just goes to show the majority aren’t always right!

I don't think they did. Maybe a 50/50 split.

You are spectacularly missing the point here as as well. A lot of people were referring to it being an accident, because it was obvious bollocks.

If he doesn't mean it (which he doesn't) why are you so hung up on whether he sent it by accident, so doesn't mean it, or sent it because he knew he'd play you like a fiddle and get attention/get out of child support/for his own sad amusement...so doesn't mean it. So, hurrah, he's treating you like a joke on purpose rather than by accident? A win?

I'm so sorry you want this man to be in love with you (fuck knows why, given all your other threads) but he truly isn't. I'm not sure if he's the only man who's ever been in your life which is why you cling to anything from him in the hope he will be again. But he hasn't been for 6yrs, he doesn't speak to you, has no interest in seeing or paying for his children. I think, gently, you need to look at how you can move on. He's not the man in your life, and pretending he is won't make it so.

95% of people on a different thread. Different people.

Love you and I love you are the same. It doesn't matter what 24kids&counting said. It makes no odds in real life. (Hence why I'm not reading it and assumed you would!)

Don't believe everything you read on the Internet. Sometimes it's not true and is someone's opinion.

They're really not. And many posters elaborated on why .

But fair enough, they are to you... So you're the only voice OP will hear, because it means the man who left her 6 years ago and won't speak to her, or see his own children is deeply in love with her.

2 words. Love you.

Not "I love you"

Love you. Which people have noted is not the same thing. It's much more casual. It's what I say to my Nan at the end of a phone call. OP doesn't want to hear there's a difference.

Doesn't matter if its 2000 words. He's full of shit!

And OP. You've spent another evening obsessing over your ex. And arguing over other peoples' perspectives.

Please, get help.

He does not mean it.

If you didn't have feelings you wouldn't care

I'm the only voice giving op a break. You join the others in their echo chamber.

I've said to her ignore him. It was no accident. She knew it and the rest of you happily gaslighted and defended him.

If only she fit into the usual expectation of an ex wife left with the children who got over it in the correct time frame. She's still struggling and looking for answers. But don't let a bit of human empathy get in the way of your "he said love you, not I love you"

Honestly OP, you need to raise your standards. He doesn’t see his kids. Doesn’t pay for them. And you still care what he thinks of you?

Errr... absolutely no one is defending the ex here.

You aren't giving OP a break. She's hurting herself in the long run with this delusion, and you're not helping by giving her false hope... Because she'll listen to only that, even when 100 other people are telling her the truth, because it's hard to hear.

6yrs of someone walking out and having virtually nothing to do with you or your children, is quite the time frame, to still be this unable to detach.

Read my post. It's not false hope. He's an absolute twat and playing mind games.

But im not someone telling her she's delusional, obsessed, crazy (add what you want and sorry to disappoint) What I have read so far: no one uses WhatsApp, he has a new girlfriend with the same first letter as you, his friends were playing a prank, it was meant for the kids.

Read them. First few posts. Then come back with your:

"Errr... absolutely no one is defending the ex here."

None of that is defending the ex. It’s trying to make her see that he’s not worth the effort or the headspace.

Defending him? Most people are saying he’s a twat for treating her and the children badly. Many saying that it doesn’t matter what the reason for his text was, because he’s a loser anyway.

Yeah,that will be it 🤣 "Ah someone confused and overthinking on aibu. I'll give her more things to consider."

Would you rather I repeated everyone else? Did the op not deserve a shred of empathy? None of those posts were for the benefit of the op.

OP you have nothing to prove to anyone here! None of it matters, it’s all bollocks. Wtf is wrong with you 🙈

Oh give over! Are you reading the same thread? 6 years is plenty of time to get over a dickhead of an ex.

And OP isn't helping herself. She needs to detach from him emotionally and not get worked up over a stupid text which was only sent for fuck knows why (hint: it's not love). She shouldn't even give a shit 6 years on.

And OP seems to relish in goading people and her attitude is quite frankly baffling. If she didnt say she had children, I'd have presumed she was a teenager. But then even teens can have kids I suppose.

This whole thread is ridiculous

He's an ex sending a text by mistake... delete and move on don't start a thread about it!