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To think you dont accidentally text your ex this....

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:01

My ex text me the other night "I love you" we haven't spoken in around 2 months or more and we've been split up for 6 years (though we have children so still in contact sometimes) everyone has told me it was obviously an "accident" aibu to think you dont "accidentally" text your ex of 6 years that you love them? How is that an accident? We haven't spoken in 2 months so I would imagine im pretty far down on his messages, also this was text message (he is blocked on whatsapp) and i imagine 99% of people communicate over WhatsApp especially if it was meant for someone he was dating! I know I don't even text anyone anymore but he was still far down from all the other texts I receive from random places. Why do people try to say this stuff is an accident when it clearly wasn't 🤔 aibu to think you dont accidentally text your ex you love them? (Fair enough if we was just speaking a few days ago but we haven't spoken in months)

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 23:06

TwinsPlusAnotherOne · 27/07/2023 23:04

I'm so sorry, I can see the answer you're looking for, that he loves you.

And having read many of your other posts, how he doesn't speak to you, never has the children more than a couple of hours a month, if at all, and it's been like this for 6yrs... He honestly doesn't.

I know that's not what you want to hear.

You are correct, the text was no accident. But he's an arse, not in love.

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This is why I’m questioning it due to his crazy behaviour. I don’t think he loves me and have said that I don’t think it! I’m wondering what his motive is that’s all.

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NadjaCravensworth1 · 27/07/2023 23:09

Maybe someone got hold of his phone and felt like messing with you. I mean...just ask him about it. We don't know.

UrsulaIsMyQueen · 27/07/2023 23:09

His motive is probably to fuck with your head, and it’s working. He doesn’t contact his kids… he doesn’t sound like a very nice bloke. Don’t give him any headspace.

Milk2SugarsAndAShotOfYourFinestValium · 27/07/2023 23:09

No one knows except your ex. If you’re so desperate to know: ask him. Dunno what else anyone can suggest.

QuestionableMouse · 27/07/2023 23:12

I've never used WhatsApp and don't know anyone in my circle who does.

Cyllie33 · 27/07/2023 23:13

I think what people are trying to say is that his motive is irrelevant. Why does it matter to you?

what do you think? What do you want?

do you still love him? If so then reply and ask if he meant it.

if you don’t then it’s just not worthy of this angst.

what do you think? Do you want him to have meant it? You haven’t said.

Milkbottlewaffle · 27/07/2023 23:13

My guesses are either:

He has a new psycho gf who has gone through his phone texting all the female names to catch him out cheating

His mates did it while on a night out “for a laugh”

He is dangling the carrot to see if you’re up for a shag.

cherry2727 · 27/07/2023 23:15

Op:
it wasn't an accident
He clearly still loves you
I think you should get back with your ex

LaffTaff · 27/07/2023 23:18

Sounds pranky. Lots of guys prank their mates by sending embarrassing texts from their phone (if they leave it lying on the table in the pub for example) to their Mum, Partner, ex partner etc. Delete the chat straightaway, so pranked phone owner is blissfully unaware.

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 23:19

LaffTaff · 27/07/2023 23:18

Sounds pranky. Lots of guys prank their mates by sending embarrassing texts from their phone (if they leave it lying on the table in the pub for example) to their Mum, Partner, ex partner etc. Delete the chat straightaway, so pranked phone owner is blissfully unaware.

Really doubt his friends would be pranking me! Haven’t seen them in 6 years

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DixonD · 27/07/2023 23:21

supersonicginandtonic · 27/07/2023 22:25

I always text people by accident, I'm usually rushing about.
I Told my boss I love you once 🙈

I nearly called mine “dad” today. I don’t even call my own dad that!

LaffTaff · 27/07/2023 23:22

MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 23:19

Really doubt his friends would be pranking me! Haven’t seen them in 6 years

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Pranking him, not you.

StepAwayFromGoogling · 27/07/2023 23:23

Why do you give a toss what his motives were? Honestly, OP, let it lie.

INeedAnotherName · 27/07/2023 23:24

strongcupofTea · 27/07/2023 22:46

Why would you only use text on paygo? I'm on giff gaff £10 a month and I have loads of data so no need to use text.

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Because I don't have £10 a month? I use home WiFi otherwiseI text. However I was trying to explain that his new girlfriend (if he has one) might have a cheap payg phone not a smartphone so he would have to text.

UneFoisAuChalet · 27/07/2023 23:24

cherry2727 · 27/07/2023 23:15

Op:
it wasn't an accident
He clearly still loves you
I think you should get back with your ex

This.

All those years of treating you like shit, ignoring you and the children, never having them for more than a few hours, not paying maintenance…that’s all wiped away by this little message he sent BY TEXT - not WhatsApp which is THE world’s messaging app - is clearly a sign he loves you and wants to make amends. So what if 99% of the people who have responded to your threads say ignore it - you and only you, know that this is your amazing ex’s way to say he’s sorry.

Best of luck, stop making thread about one TEXT message, and be happy.

Wrongsideofpennines · 27/07/2023 23:25

Am I the only one that still texts? My husband and I usually text. Because when he is trying to be good and stay offline then I know he will get the message. I also regularly text my mum and a couple of friends.

cherry2727 · 27/07/2023 23:25

@StepAwayFromGoogling I didn't bother with the truth like you did ! I just told the op what she wants to hear!

MillicentTrilbyHiggins · 27/07/2023 23:38

My ex texted me once. We'd been split up about 5 years, he was engaged and his DP was pregnant. It was something along the lines of "just got back to my little flat, missing you already, love you lots"
The only reason I didn't delete it was to send it to the CMS as proof that he wasn't living with his step DC and that the deduction needed to be removed.
I'm 99.9% certain it was a mistake.

squidgybits · 27/07/2023 23:41

Exes are exes FOR A REASON!

Life is for going forwards, not repeating the past when it didn't work out?
Get your "big girl pants" on and have a chat with yourself
Life is short, it is for living and not playing games
Are you my estranged sister?

MountainChalet · 27/07/2023 23:42

Mistake or not, does it make any difference OP? Haven't you moved on?

Underminer · 27/07/2023 23:55

It’s a scam text. Classic mind fuck to get you to respond and give up things that mean a lot to you. Usually money. In this case it’s your sanity. Delete and move on.

Majority if people in my circles use texts. Sometimes WhatsApp for group chat. But text or rather iMessage vast majority of the time.

Windercar · 27/07/2023 23:59

This is the second or third thread on this. Clearly none of us know so ask him? Or don’t. But there’s not much anyone else can input

TommyNever · 28/07/2023 00:06

QuestionableMouse · 27/07/2023 23:12

I've never used WhatsApp and don't know anyone in my circle who does.

Ha, that's exactly what I was about to post.

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MaxwellCat · 28/07/2023 00:08

TommyNever · 28/07/2023 00:06

Ha, that's exactly what I was about to post.

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well my ex DOES use WhatsApp so 🤷🏻‍♀️

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