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Neighbour has told our village I am a thief

419 replies

crazyneighbour123 · 24/03/2023 20:59

NC as obviously outing


Last night around 8:30pm a delivery driver asked me to take a parcel for a neighbour a few doors down and said he had knocked my door as my gate was open (all houses on my street have a gate and a pathway to the front door, roughly 20meters). The parcel was 2ft high and 2ft wide and heavy so I managed to push it along my hallway out of the way.

Here is the issue. At 6:50am there was banging and when I say banging I mean banging on my front door. I ran downstairs worried something was wrong and hoping it wouldn’t wake the whole house up.

It was my male neighbour who is in his 40s who didn’t bother to say hello only said where is my parcel. I explained it come last night let me get it. As I was pushing it down the hallway towards the door he said ‘ no need to be so dramatic there’s no need to pretend it’s too heavy that’s why you didn’t bother to bring it over last night, you just could not be bothered’ . I was shocked and just said how he wasn’t in thats why the deliver drive gave me the parcel and it is heavy. He then said he was in but was having his dinner and it was raining so didn’t answer the door and I should have had some respect and done the polite thing and taken the parcel to him. I started laughing as I thought he was joking. He then tried picking it up and realised how heavy it was and how far he had to go with it told me the least I can do is help him carry it back to his house I laughed and said I couldn’t. He then called me a waste of space. I then told him ‘ I hope there’s weights in that box cause you bloody well need them’ and shut the door.

He has now posted on the village Facebook (I know social media is the root of all evil) and has bad mouthed me and called me a thief and a chav and that everyone should be careful around me as I will try and take their deliveries to keep for myself. This is not true and unluckily for him I have this all recorded on the ring doorbell. You can hear us both word for word and see how angry he is in the video. Question is would I be unreasonable to post it onto the village Facebook group or should I just send it privately to the main admin person. My only issue with sending it privately which is the more mature option is the main admin owner walks her dogs with him so not sure if she would fully make the other members of the group aware of what actually happened? I could just try the private route first but it’s making me feel awkward going out today that everyone in the village thinks I’m a thief.

YANBU - post it on the Facebook group so the whole village will know the truth

YABU - send it only to the admin privately and hope she does the right thing

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MissHoollie · 24/03/2023 21:01

Ignore it .
They must all know he's unhinged

RedHelenB · 24/03/2023 21:02

Surely you were terrified amd shaking?

Somertime · 24/03/2023 21:02

I'd post it in FB. So rude to call you a thief when you did him a favour. And obviously never take his parcels in again.

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:02

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

CanIAskAnotherStupidQuestion · 24/03/2023 21:03

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:02

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

This!

MaryHinges · 24/03/2023 21:05

Absolutely offer to post the doorbell footage.

ManipulatorPedipulator · 24/03/2023 21:05

Post it. Post it on your personal page, post it on the group. Villages and small towns are a nightmare for rumours, nip it right in the bud. I’d also post the footage from the delivery driver dropping it off to make clear there’s no accusation you took it of your own accord.

crazyneighbour123 · 24/03/2023 21:06

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:02

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

Good idea. Will he be able to see my comment as I have blocked him on Facebook or do I need to unblock him first?

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Boomboom22 · 24/03/2023 21:07

Post it now! What a dick.

Pieceofpurplesky · 24/03/2023 21:08

Yes to the threat to post - you would
Have to unblock him.
You also need to report to the group admin

crazyneighbour123 · 24/03/2023 21:08

ManipulatorPedipulator · 24/03/2023 21:05

Post it. Post it on your personal page, post it on the group. Villages and small towns are a nightmare for rumours, nip it right in the bud. I’d also post the footage from the delivery driver dropping it off to make clear there’s no accusation you took it of your own accord.

Yes if I post it I'll do it with the deliver driver part on it also. I will see if I can blank his face out as not sure what the rules/laws are about me posting someone without their consent

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3luckystars · 24/03/2023 21:08

Surly anyone who knows him will know what he is like. Ignore him.

PicaK · 24/03/2023 21:08

All the sane, normal people whose opinion you care about will be raising an eyebrow, and lifting their skirts as the tip toe around his post as he looks unhinged.
Say nothing. Don't do anything. You don't need to. He's said it all himself

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:08

Oh I’m really not sure, sorry

PurpleParrots · 24/03/2023 21:09

TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:02

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

This ^^

ManipulatorPedipulator · 24/03/2023 21:09

I wouldn’t post it (or anything) as a comment for two reasons:

  1. Many people don’t read the comments, just the main post and so you won’t get as much traction in countering his lie as his initial lie gets.
  2. The Facebook algorithm will show his post to his friends on their feeds so you’d be commenting on something where it’ll be seen by people who are likely to take his side even though you’re right.

Start your own post, with the evidence. You don’t want people to think you’re just bluffing.
TruJay · 24/03/2023 21:09

@crazyneighbour123 oh I’m really not sure, sorry

custardbear · 24/03/2023 21:10

Please post the the doorbell ... he's clearly a lazy MF who seems to expect everyone else to pander to him ... entitled CFMF

Singularity82 · 24/03/2023 21:11

I’d post it. Fuck him. You aren’t doing to to cause drama but to clear your name.
cheeky bastard.
hope you’re ok!

crazyneighbour123 · 24/03/2023 21:11

PicaK · 24/03/2023 21:08

All the sane, normal people whose opinion you care about will be raising an eyebrow, and lifting their skirts as the tip toe around his post as he looks unhinged.
Say nothing. Don't do anything. You don't need to. He's said it all himself

I see your point and I would like to just leave it but as a PP has mentioned that villages are a nightmare for rumours and I don't want to feel awkward when I say hi to people

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Domino20 · 24/03/2023 21:11

If his friend is group administrator then there's no guarantee your comments or videos will make it onto the page. You can definitely approach Facebook directly for removal though.

Chickenly · 24/03/2023 21:12

crazyneighbour123 · 24/03/2023 21:08

Yes if I post it I'll do it with the deliver driver part on it also. I will see if I can blank his face out as not sure what the rules/laws are about me posting someone without their consent

You’ll be absolutely completely and totally fine from a legal standpoint. The laws are complex and full of grey areas but what you’re doing is so low level that the courts wouldn’t entertain spending any time on it. You’re protecting your reputation, it’s a given that many people have cameras nowadays and is an accepted risk when you approach a property. There won’t be an issue.

SchoolQuestionnaire · 24/03/2023 21:12

CanIAskAnotherStupidQuestion · 24/03/2023 21:03

This!

Agreed

PortiasBiscuit · 24/03/2023 21:14

Does anyone bother with FB? Who cares what anyone says on there?

WhoAmEye · 24/03/2023 21:15

Post it!

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