Neighbour has told our village I am a thief

[crazyneighbour123]

NC as obviously outing


Last night around 8:30pm a delivery driver asked me to take a parcel for a neighbour a few doors down and said he had knocked my door as my gate was open (all houses on my street have a gate and a pathway to the front door, roughly 20meters). The parcel was 2ft high and 2ft wide and heavy so I managed to push it along my hallway out of the way.

Here is the issue. At 6:50am there was banging and when I say banging I mean banging on my front door. I ran downstairs worried something was wrong and hoping it wouldn’t wake the whole house up.

It was my male neighbour who is in his 40s who didn’t bother to say hello only said where is my parcel. I explained it come last night let me get it. As I was pushing it down the hallway towards the door he said ‘ no need to be so dramatic there’s no need to pretend it’s too heavy that’s why you didn’t bother to bring it over last night, you just could not be bothered’ . I was shocked and just said how he wasn’t in thats why the deliver drive gave me the parcel and it is heavy. He then said he was in but was having his dinner and it was raining so didn’t answer the door and I should have had some respect and done the polite thing and taken the parcel to him. I started laughing as I thought he was joking. He then tried picking it up and realised how heavy it was and how far he had to go with it told me the least I can do is help him carry it back to his house I laughed and said I couldn’t. He then called me a waste of space. I then told him ‘ I hope there’s weights in that box cause you bloody well need them’ and shut the door.

He has now posted on the village Facebook (I know social media is the root of all evil) and has bad mouthed me and called me a thief and a chav and that everyone should be careful around me as I will try and take their deliveries to keep for myself. This is not true and unluckily for him I have this all recorded on the ring doorbell. You can hear us both word for word and see how angry he is in the video. Question is would I be unreasonable to post it onto the village Facebook group or should I just send it privately to the main admin person. My only issue with sending it privately which is the more mature option is the main admin owner walks her dogs with him so not sure if she would fully make the other members of the group aware of what actually happened? I could just try the private route first but it’s making me feel awkward going out today that everyone in the village thinks I’m a thief.

YANBU - post it on the Facebook group so the whole village will know the truth

YABU - send it only to the admin privately and hope she does the right thing

[Redglitter]

Unblock him, post a nice calm factual post & say you have Ring doorbell footage which you're happy to post to clarify what happened

[crazyneighbour123]

@botheritsgone

I took in a parcel for a neighbour. We live in a village. I also happen to teach their child at the local school. I took the parcel over to them. They complained to school that I was harassing them and had even turned up at their door. She took a screen shot still photo of me indeed at her door when I had already handed over the parcel and was just saying goodbye.
I just dont take in parcels for them anymore.

That is awful so sorry this happened to you. Some people just want to cause problems for others

[determinedtomakethiswork]

@TruJay

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

Yes, do this. He will probably insult you but then you will have the pleasure of putting up the footage. Make sure you take screenshots of posts because if his friend is the administrator then maybe she will take them down.

[OnlyFannys]

My inner justice warrior would say absolutely post it but my worry is that he sounds like a twat and he knows where you live so I'd be worried about potential repercussions from a man who would go to these lengths over someone not helping him carry a parcel

[AngeloMysterioso]

Put it in a new post and tag him.

Hey nut job neighbour, here is the video where you admit that you couldn’t be arsed to answer your door to the delivery driver because dinner/rain.

I would be grateful if you could delete your post where you slanderously accuse me of theft and await your written apology, or I will be taking this further with the police.

Thanks!

[Wonnle]

Post it and add it's all in the hands of your solicitors , that should shut him up

[UniversalMamma]

YANBU! Post it, 💯%

Where is the voting option?

Don’t send it privately, the message won’t filter through to the people who saw his post. It will be a vague ‘he said, she said’ at best.

You’re only sharing it as he has maliciously tried to taint your reputation, and unfortunately if you don’t there will be a question mark over you.

He’s clearly unhinged and his actions do not warrant a softly softly response.

[UniversalMamma]

@determinedtomakethiswork

Yes, do this. He will probably insult you but then you will have the pleasure of putting up the footage. Make sure you take screenshots of posts because if his friend is the administrator then maybe she will take them down.

Yes screenshot his post before he deleted it. He has defamed you in no uncertain terms.

[EmmaEmerald]

@crazyneighbour123

This might be my best option

I don't use Facebook but I'd do this, if you then link on the village page?

[Cherrysoup]

Post it!

[Honeyroar]

@Danielle9891

YANBU he's left you know choice but to post it.
I live in a village and this is how rumours start, like most villages by the end of the weekend the whole place will think your a thef. You need to stick up for yourself and I'd even ask the admin to take his post down as it's all lies.

I live in a village. Most sane people would recognise someone spouting names and nastiness is an idiot. He’s digging his own hole.

But I’d post the videos on your own page, as previously suggested.

[ThereIbledit]

I'd reply with a laughing face emoji and "you know I have a ring doorbell and can post exactly what happened, don't you?"

[CambsAlways]

Post it now

[EmmaEmerald]

And what a wanker! I'm sorry you had this. And at such an ungodly hour too.

[Hawkins003]

Omg 😲 how rude

[UniversalMamma]

@DimplesToadfoot

I would post it to my own page on FB, Then comment under his saying 'there are 3 sides to every story, his version, my version and the video tape I've posted on my page' and refuse to discuss it further. People that are interested will nosey at your own page, see the video and realise the truth. You've taken control out of his hands, he can't remove your video, the admin can't remove your video either, so the only thing he can do is have people see him for the lying argumentative trouble maker he is, or delete his post, either way you win this one.

👌🙌

[UniversalMamma]

@ManipulatorPedipulator

I wouldn’t post it (or anything) as a comment for two reasons:

1. Many people don’t read the comments, just the main post and so you won’t get as much traction in countering his lie as his initial lie gets.
2. The Facebook algorithm will show his post to his friends on their feeds so you’d be commenting on something where it’ll be seen by people who are likely to take his side even though you’re right.

Start your own post, with the evidence. You don’t want people to think you’re just bluffing.

Very good points

[AmandaHoldensLips]

Post that you didn't appreciate having to take in his DIY build-your-own sex dungeon kit anyway or his repeat delivery of rubber sheets.

[Justalittlebitduckling]

@TruJay

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

Good plan. And perhaps report very factually everything you have listed in your post.

[Purplecatshopaholic]

@TruJay

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

I would do this if it was me

[RightOnTheEdge]

Omg! The weird, ungrateful twat!
I would 100% post the footage. I wouldn't be able to not stick up for myself.

[JenniferBarkley]

"Hi John, not sure what this is about - you didn't answer when the delivery driver called so I took the parcel in, and then gave it to you as soon as you knocked first thing the next day. If you'd prefer I didn't take parcels in in future that's fine."

And then if he responds, threaten to post the footage.

Don't let MN pressure you into stoking the drama, entertaining though it would be for the rest of us!

[Crumpleton]

I'd definitely post it.
Accusing someone of theft without good cause is a nasty thing to do and will have the villagers gossiping.

You won't be doing anything wrong in posting the truth, infact he's the one that's slandering you and that is something that needs to be dealt with.
He's a bully.

[ZIEVAR]

I would report it to the police in case there are any repercussions. Post on facebook that you have reported it and given the police your video evidence. He sounds very aggressive. Protect yourself with the law.

[Antiquiteas]

Definitely post it. Destroy the fucker. 😈