NC as obviously outing
Last night around 8:30pm a delivery driver asked me to take a parcel for a neighbour a few doors down and said he had knocked my door as my gate was open (all houses on my street have a gate and a pathway to the front door, roughly 20meters). The parcel was 2ft high and 2ft wide and heavy so I managed to push it along my hallway out of the way.
Here is the issue. At 6:50am there was banging and when I say banging I mean banging on my front door. I ran downstairs worried something was wrong and hoping it wouldn’t wake the whole house up.
It was my male neighbour who is in his 40s who didn’t bother to say hello only said where is my parcel. I explained it come last night let me get it. As I was pushing it down the hallway towards the door he said ‘ no need to be so dramatic there’s no need to pretend it’s too heavy that’s why you didn’t bother to bring it over last night, you just could not be bothered’ . I was shocked and just said how he wasn’t in thats why the deliver drive gave me the parcel and it is heavy. He then said he was in but was having his dinner and it was raining so didn’t answer the door and I should have had some respect and done the polite thing and taken the parcel to him. I started laughing as I thought he was joking. He then tried picking it up and realised how heavy it was and how far he had to go with it told me the least I can do is help him carry it back to his house I laughed and said I couldn’t. He then called me a waste of space. I then told him ‘ I hope there’s weights in that box cause you bloody well need them’ and shut the door.
He has now posted on the village Facebook (I know social media is the root of all evil) and has bad mouthed me and called me a thief and a chav and that everyone should be careful around me as I will try and take their deliveries to keep for myself. This is not true and unluckily for him I have this all recorded on the ring doorbell. You can hear us both word for word and see how angry he is in the video. Question is would I be unreasonable to post it onto the village Facebook group or should I just send it privately to the main admin person. My only issue with sending it privately which is the more mature option is the main admin owner walks her dogs with him so not sure if she would fully make the other members of the group aware of what actually happened? I could just try the private route first but it’s making me feel awkward going out today that everyone in the village thinks I’m a thief.
YANBU - post it on the Facebook group so the whole village will know the truth
YABU - send it only to the admin privately and hope she does the right thing
AIBU?
Neighbour has told our village I am a thief
crazyneighbour123 · 24/03/2023 20:59
crazyneighbour123 · 24/03/2023 20:59
NC as obviously outing
Last night around 8:30pm a delivery driver asked me to take a parcel for a neighbour a few doors down and said he had knocked my door as my gate was open (all houses on my street have a gate and a pathway to the front door, roughly 20meters). The parcel was 2ft high and 2ft wide and heavy so I managed to push it along my hallway out of the way.
Here is the issue. At 6:50am there was banging and when I say banging I mean banging on my front door. I ran downstairs worried something was wrong and hoping it wouldn’t wake the whole house up.
It was my male neighbour who is in his 40s who didn’t bother to say hello only said where is my parcel. I explained it come last night let me get it. As I was pushing it down the hallway towards the door he said ‘ no need to be so dramatic there’s no need to pretend it’s too heavy that’s why you didn’t bother to bring it over last night, you just could not be bothered’ . I was shocked and just said how he wasn’t in thats why the deliver drive gave me the parcel and it is heavy. He then said he was in but was having his dinner and it was raining so didn’t answer the door and I should have had some respect and done the polite thing and taken the parcel to him. I started laughing as I thought he was joking. He then tried picking it up and realised how heavy it was and how far he had to go with it told me the least I can do is help him carry it back to his house I laughed and said I couldn’t. He then called me a waste of space. I then told him ‘ I hope there’s weights in that box cause you bloody well need them’ and shut the door.
He has now posted on the village Facebook (I know social media is the root of all evil) and has bad mouthed me and called me a thief and a chav and that everyone should be careful around me as I will try and take their deliveries to keep for myself. This is not true and unluckily for him I have this all recorded on the ring doorbell. You can hear us both word for word and see how angry he is in the video. Question is would I be unreasonable to post it onto the village Facebook group or should I just send it privately to the main admin person. My only issue with sending it privately which is the more mature option is the main admin owner walks her dogs with him so not sure if she would fully make the other members of the group aware of what actually happened? I could just try the private route first but it’s making me feel awkward going out today that everyone in the village thinks I’m a thief.
YANBU - post it on the Facebook group so the whole village will know the truth
YABU - send it only to the admin privately and hope she does the right thing
PicaK · 24/03/2023 21:08
All the sane, normal people whose opinion you care about will be raising an eyebrow, and lifting their skirts as the tip toe around his post as he looks unhinged.
Say nothing. Don't do anything. You don't need to. He's said it all himself
ManipulatorPedipulator · 24/03/2023 21:09
I wouldn’t post it (or anything) as a comment for two reasons:
- Many people don’t read the comments, just the main post and so you won’t get as much traction in countering his lie as his initial lie gets.
- The Facebook algorithm will show his post to his friends on their feeds so you’d be commenting on something where it’ll be seen by people who are likely to take his side even though you’re right.
Start your own post, with the evidence. You don’t want people to think you’re just bluffing.
SchoolTripDrama · 24/03/2023 22:39
That last part is incorrect. He's posted it on the village group. Everyone in the group will see it
ManipulatorPedipulator · 24/03/2023 21:09
I wouldn’t post it (or anything) as a comment for two reasons:
- Many people don’t read the comments, just the main post and so you won’t get as much traction in countering his lie as his initial lie gets.
- The Facebook algorithm will show his post to his friends on their feeds so you’d be commenting on something where it’ll be seen by people who are likely to take his side even though you’re right.
Start your own post, with the evidence. You don’t want people to think you’re just bluffing.
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