Neighbour has told our village I am a thief

[crazyneighbour123]

NC as obviously outing


Last night around 8:30pm a delivery driver asked me to take a parcel for a neighbour a few doors down and said he had knocked my door as my gate was open (all houses on my street have a gate and a pathway to the front door, roughly 20meters). The parcel was 2ft high and 2ft wide and heavy so I managed to push it along my hallway out of the way.

Here is the issue. At 6:50am there was banging and when I say banging I mean banging on my front door. I ran downstairs worried something was wrong and hoping it wouldn’t wake the whole house up.

It was my male neighbour who is in his 40s who didn’t bother to say hello only said where is my parcel. I explained it come last night let me get it. As I was pushing it down the hallway towards the door he said ‘ no need to be so dramatic there’s no need to pretend it’s too heavy that’s why you didn’t bother to bring it over last night, you just could not be bothered’ . I was shocked and just said how he wasn’t in thats why the deliver drive gave me the parcel and it is heavy. He then said he was in but was having his dinner and it was raining so didn’t answer the door and I should have had some respect and done the polite thing and taken the parcel to him. I started laughing as I thought he was joking. He then tried picking it up and realised how heavy it was and how far he had to go with it told me the least I can do is help him carry it back to his house I laughed and said I couldn’t. He then called me a waste of space. I then told him ‘ I hope there’s weights in that box cause you bloody well need them’ and shut the door.

He has now posted on the village Facebook (I know social media is the root of all evil) and has bad mouthed me and called me a thief and a chav and that everyone should be careful around me as I will try and take their deliveries to keep for myself. This is not true and unluckily for him I have this all recorded on the ring doorbell. You can hear us both word for word and see how angry he is in the video. Question is would I be unreasonable to post it onto the village Facebook group or should I just send it privately to the main admin person. My only issue with sending it privately which is the more mature option is the main admin owner walks her dogs with him so not sure if she would fully make the other members of the group aware of what actually happened? I could just try the private route first but it’s making me feel awkward going out today that everyone in the village thinks I’m a thief.

YANBU - post it on the Facebook group so the whole village will know the truth

YABU - send it only to the admin privately and hope she does the right thing

[DimplesToadfoot]

I would post it to my own page on FB, Then comment under his saying 'there are 3 sides to every story, his version, my version and the video tape I've posted on my page' and refuse to discuss it further. People that are interested will nosey at your own page, see the video and realise the truth. You've taken control out of his hands, he can't remove your video, the admin can't remove your video either, so the only thing he can do is have people see him for the lying argumentative trouble maker he is, or delete his post, either way you win this one.

[crazyneighbour123]

@Chickenly
Thank you

[SallySunrise]

Post it. 100%

[crazyneighbour123]

@DimplesToadfoot

I would post it to my own page on FB, Then comment under his saying 'there are 3 sides to every story, his version, my version and the video tape I've posted on my page' and refuse to discuss it further. People that are interested will nosey at your own page, see the video and realise the truth. You've taken control out of his hands, he can't remove your video, the admin can't remove your video either, so the only thing he can do is have people see him for the lying argumentative trouble maker he is, or delete his post, either way you win this one.

This might be my best option

[Mamamia32]

I would leave a very short simple comment

I took your parcel because you weren't in and the postman asked me to. In future I will say no if this happens again.

Then leave it, don't reply to any comments. He sounds mentally ill.

[Divorcedalongtime]

@TruJay

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

This is a good idea

[itsgettingweird]

@TruJay

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

Was exactly what I was going to suggest.

[Wisteriaroundthedoor]

@DimplesToadfoot

I would post it to my own page on FB, Then comment under his saying 'there are 3 sides to every story, his version, my version and the video tape I've posted on my page' and refuse to discuss it further. People that are interested will nosey at your own page, see the video and realise the truth. You've taken control out of his hands, he can't remove your video, the admin can't remove your video either, so the only thing he can do is have people see him for the lying argumentative trouble maker he is, or delete his post, either way you win this one.

Do this. Excellent idea.

[Snugglemonkey]

@ManipulatorPedipulator

I wouldn’t post it (or anything) as a comment for two reasons:

1. Many people don’t read the comments, just the main post and so you won’t get as much traction in countering his lie as his initial lie gets.
2. The Facebook algorithm will show his post to his friends on their feeds so you’d be commenting on something where it’ll be seen by people who are likely to take his side even though you’re right.

Start your own post, with the evidence. You don’t want people to think you’re just bluffing.

This!

[apapuchi]

@DimplesToadfoot

I would post it to my own page on FB, Then comment under his saying 'there are 3 sides to every story, his version, my version and the video tape I've posted on my page' and refuse to discuss it further. People that are interested will nosey at your own page, see the video and realise the truth. You've taken control out of his hands, he can't remove your video, the admin can't remove your video either, so the only thing he can do is have people see him for the lying argumentative trouble maker he is, or delete his post, either way you win this one.

Do this. Don't let him get away with being an absolute arsehat. No good deed goes unpunished, indeed!

[macncheeeesey]

I'd post both! The delivery actually arriving at yours and him and his vile attitude

[Lucy189]

YANBU. Post it!

[Dibbydoos]

OMG what an AH. You're not a delivery service! We all take stuff in for our neighbours, but we go collect it ourselves. Tge young couple next door to me weren't doing that and I used to take dtuff round to them, but I stopped cos they were taking tge piss. Now they collect from me.

I personally would send him a formally worded message requesting that takes the post down forthwith and post an apology to you instead or you will seek legal recourse for libel and that you have the conversation etc recorded because you have a ring doorbell. Confirm, video and sound recording would, in court, show he was in the wrong.

Some people are absolute twits.

[Danielle9891]

YANBU he's left you know choice but to post it.
I live in a village and this is how rumours start, like most villages by the end of the weekend the whole place will think your a thef. You need to stick up for yourself and I'd even ask the admin to take his post down as it's all lies.

[Togoodtobeforgotten]

@TruJay

You could comment and ask if he’d like to retract his untruthful slanderous comment or he’d like you to post your ring camera video for people to see what actually happened?

Yep this!!

[Bunnyhascovidnoteggs]

Post it op.

[botheritsgone]

I took in a parcel for a neighbour. We live in a village. I also happen to teach their child at the local school. I took the parcel over to them. They complained to school that I was harassing them and had even turned up at their door. She took a screen shot still photo of me indeed at her door when I had already handed over the parcel and was just saying goodbye.
I just dont take in parcels for them anymore.

[Bookworm333]

YANBU - post it

[ReformedWaywardTeen]

I would do neither but take screen shots of his malicious falsehood posted to a public Facebook page. I would then use the online report tool for local police force who will no doubt call him regards his slander online and invite him to retract it immediately.

It's part of the malicious communications act.

Someone in our village did similar. They posted some utter rubbish about a lady who had supposedly damaged his car. He accused her of being scum, called her all manner of vile things and chucked in some casual racism too. It was all rubbish, for starters, the ladies car was not actually in the village at the time as she worked away and drove in.

She contacted police and a day later the admin had to post an apology to her, the guy was given a fixed penalty notice if memory serves me correctly because it caused all manner of drama on the page and in the village.

[oakleaffy]

@crazyneighbour123 What a complete Arsehole!!!
Unbelievable.

Definitely post it.

I knew some people who moved to Cornwall, They were so miserable there due to small minded gossip, they sold up and moved back to their village in another part of UK.

Villages can be a nightmare.

Best of luck.

[OnaBegonia]

@botheritsgone
What? why? that's nuts!!

[EnchentButteler]

As the admin of our local group I would totally allow your video to stand in response to his online bullying.

He will then delete his original thread when he sees you've called him out with video evidence.

But by then enough people will have seen it to know you aren't a chav thief.

[crazyneighbour123]

@Danielle9891

YANBU he's left you know choice but to post it.
I live in a village and this is how rumours start, like most villages by the end of the weekend the whole place will think your a thef. You need to stick up for yourself and I'd even ask the admin to take his post down as it's all lies.

This is the thing rumours are rife and I love living here. I've never had a problem before and I don't get involved with the usual drama of dog poop, litter and parking m. I have only ever shared posts that invoke lost cats

[pictoosh]

Post saying, I didn’t steal your parcel. I’d like you to retract your accusation or I’ll post the Ring doorbell video of both the parcel being left with me and the exchange we had when you came to collect it. The dialogue is very clear.