DP thinks my bag is 'childish and showy'

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I'm originally from Sweden and back home people of all ages carry these bags. Last week, I decided to purchase a new Kånken to replace the one I've had for 10 years. Picked this colour (www.fjallraven.com/uk/en-gb/bags-gear/kanken/kanken-bags/kanken-rainbow-mini?v=F23621%3a%3a7323450792466) this time around to replace the black one I had, and DH absolutely hates it. I use it primarily for dog walks and trips to the local cafe/shops and he thinks it's too showy/childish and feels 'embarrassed' when I take it with me when we go out for coffee together.

AIBU to think that it's just a bag? It's not that bad, is it?

It's a perfectly normal bag. No idea what your dp's issue is. Odd

Love a Kanken bag. So your DH is being unreasonable.

I'll be honest - it does look like a bag for children, and it's obviously eye catching as it's bright - but you should wear whatever bag you like.

Wrong link, mine's the bright yellow one!

Oh good grief it's FINE!

It does look like it could be a (very expensive) school bag, but so what? I think your DP is being very childish for a) thinking anyone is even noticing and b) caring what they think if they do.

I see these all the time; quite normal surely

What an idiot, its a perfectly normal looking bag, just brighter than some. Ignore him!

Your DH sounds like he's got some problems tbh. Does he wear exclusively grey or something?

It's a nice bag. Ignore your dh.

I like it.

It does look like a kid's bag but I wouldn't judge you for it.

I like it, would buy one if it was in my budget. Looks great, cheerful and practical.

It does have the vibe of a child’s bag but that’s no reason not to have it. He’s being silly.

It's lovely

It’s a lovely bag. I’ve got a pink one (not the rainbow one). I’m looking at getting one of the rainbow ones too. Love these bags.

Absolutely nothing wrong with it. I would say it has a fun, youthful feel, but certainly isn't childish. Your DH thinks it's "showy" - well, what's wrong with a splash of colour? Or does he object to the logo and rainbow handles? If he's ok with colour, maybe try Roka bags? Roka bags

The bright yellow one is a bit ‘I’m zany me! I would make a great kids tv presenter’.

DD bought a good copy in Camden Market last year, if you’re anywhere near there

It does look like a kid’s bag, but that is what makes it fun

a bit like wearing dungarees (also fun imo)

why is your husband bothered at all? Is he generally overly worried about what other people might think? Can you tell him that is a bit childish of him? More so than your bag? 🙃

Childish = fun
Showy = bright

My friend has the exact same bag as you and gets loads of compliments. Who says adults can only dress in shades of neutrals and carry sensible black bags - absolutely fuck that. You only live once so why not just have things you love?

He's a wanker for making a thing out of it, if you had directly asked his opinion he could have just said 'I don't love it, but if you love it that's what's important!' Rather than insult it because you are meant to be encouraging about harmless things that make your partner happy, not put them down.

Oh I liked the brown but that one is a bit "look at me"

If you're not asking him to carry it he gets no opinion. Miserable git.

Yeah that's the vibe I'm getting

Well there is one way to look more classy walking out op

Ditch the dodo...