DP thinks my bag is 'childish and showy'

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I'm originally from Sweden and back home people of all ages carry these bags. Last week, I decided to purchase a new Kånken to replace the one I've had for 10 years. Picked this colour (www.fjallraven.com/uk/en-gb/bags-gear/kanken/kanken-bags/kanken-rainbow-mini?v=F23621%3a%3a7323450792466) this time around to replace the black one I had, and DH absolutely hates it. I use it primarily for dog walks and trips to the local cafe/shops and he thinks it's too showy/childish and feels 'embarrassed' when I take it with me when we go out for coffee together.

AIBU to think that it's just a bag? It's not that bad, is it?

They're cool. I have one covered in pin badges.

My first thought was that it looks like a backpack a young brownie might wear. I guess the colour reminds me of the uniform.

Strange, I think it's fine. Love bright stuff!

Cool bag. I'm sorry your partner has no taste!

I’m with your DH, the rainbow straps I can maybe see his view, but add that to the bright yellow and it looks like you’ve borrowed it off the DC.

Sorry

Nothing wrong with different and bright and cheery and "zany". You and your DP both agree it is "different" he's uncomfortable with thats his problem.

Fjallraven bags are very trendy it looks great.

People have different tastes. Being embarrassed is a Ludicrous reaction.

It looks a bit like 1970s dungarees but I bet it makes you smile. This is my bag and I love it

They’re really fashionable at the moment. I’m just jealous as I can’t justify £85.

He’s a bit of a dick. Ditch him, keep the bag :)

And to add one more, have consulted with Swedish DH and he says it's absolutely fine, and that there's no cow on the ice, so don't worry.

Assume your DH isn't Swedish OP?

I was going to say I'm not crazy about the colour combo - I'd have preferred a bold colour to go with the rainbow. I love it. Gorgeous. It probably has a broad appeal age wise and it's certainly not subtle but I don't think childish and showy is a nice way to describe something

I’m a fan of these bags. They are great. I bet you’ll get compliments

I love the yellow! It would never cross my mind as showy, it’s just a colourful backpack, not like you’re out in a yellow and rainbow fishnet bodystocking fgs

I do see alot of kids using them for school but its a bag I don't see what the problem is

I was expecting a fluffy, yellow Pikachu bag or something. What you’ve linked to is just a lovely, cheerful and useful bag!

Tell him that Mumsnet thinks he’s a miserable arse 😁

He's not homophobic. I think it's primarily the yellow that he thinks is too much as I mentioned that I was going to get the black or red rainbow one and he said 'those work'. We're usually quite low key with colours and I think this is the brightest thing in our house now. 😂

Who made him the Bag Police? I love it. Why should he make you feel shit about something that makes you feel happy?

I know they were fashionable with 12 year olds in 2019, but I suppose they'd go well with Jeans, a fleece gilet and dog hair.

They're just not something I'd buy. But then again, I do have an incredibly boring black backpack to carry my laptop in when I'm not trying to look professional and smart fancy in work meetings (big wanky leather thing for those times). I do think that if somebody criticised what I bought in similar ways to your DH, though, I'd be very tempted to get a My Little Pony bookbag instead.

I would find his level of insecurity deeply unattractive

Who made him the bag police? Massive low esteem flag from him flapping away.

i am considering the pink one and I am nearly 60!

It's just a bag. No one will notice it. You like it, he needs to worry about something else.

Get an irregular choice bag and then he will love your yellow backpack.