DP thinks my bag is 'childish and showy'

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I'm originally from Sweden and back home people of all ages carry these bags. Last week, I decided to purchase a new Kånken to replace the one I've had for 10 years. Picked this colour (www.fjallraven.com/uk/en-gb/bags-gear/kanken/kanken-bags/kanken-rainbow-mini?v=F23621%3a%3a7323450792466) this time around to replace the black one I had, and DH absolutely hates it. I use it primarily for dog walks and trips to the local cafe/shops and he thinks it's too showy/childish and feels 'embarrassed' when I take it with me when we go out for coffee together.

AIBU to think that it's just a bag? It's not that bad, is it?

My bag is currently a pink bag with a Princess crown on it.

At first I thought it was rather childish, & expensive, but I looked & looked, & looked again, & decided that I now rather like it. It bought back a lovely memory of a small backpack I once had which was a lovely yellowy orangey colour. I used it for holidays. I’ve got a collection of leather backpacks that I love.

I have a yellow leather handbag which I carry round all summer. And an orange biker jacket. I don't tend to wear them at the same time....I'm 71.

Is he always prone to overreaction,when it comes to fashion accessories?

Still her choice.

Well of course it is. But you said

“Buy your bag and enjoy it. Your ds is not your boss: in fact it's the other way round. Be patient: you can get your revenue when his grandchildren are embarrassed by him “

@bcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyza

are you 5?

No not 5 but I don't care what people think about what I wear, my hobbies or what bag I use. Got too much going on to care.

@ThisMama1

you look amazing!

If I wear my pusheen T-shirt and find a yellow bag, can we all go for coffee together?

😅😅😅😅

No my cup of tea, i do think bags like that are childlike.

but im not the one using it, and would not pass a comment on to you in your face.

each to their own

I would like to refer my learnéd friend to my previous remark.

You said it was her DS, instead of her DH. The other poster just clarified that. No need to be snippy.

I can't imagine being with a grown man who feels embarrassed about such non issues. Ironic that he talks about being childish

Would go with my trainers! I like a splash of colour too OP

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Are these comfy?? I keep eyeing them up but am never quite sure, I love Vans trainers but converse hurt my back so I’m never sure if they’ll fall into that category and be v flat!

Love that you still have bright hair, why have a hair colour you don’t like simply because you were born in a certain year..?

if it’s the tiger print one it’s actually a slip dress. They are so versatile as you can wear a top under them or over them, dress them up or down. I bought this one from Vinted, there’s some amazing bargains

Thank you! I'll check Vinted and see what I can find.
I'm a natural redhead. It's slowly fading but when it turns white, I'll go the full Judy Dench. However I'm aiming to still wear all the colours I've always loved. Why should anyone become like a beige painted wall just because of a couple of numbers?

Your hubbys is being unreasonable. I got one of these for Christmas and it’s my favourite ever bag. Not same colour but I think your colours are fine. Enjoy.

Why should anyone want to blend in though? Is that our purpose in life? To be inconspicuous?

I don't like it and I do think it looks like a kids bag, but I'm not carrying it so I wouldn't care. And I wouldn't care if someone I was hanging out with was carrying it. I'm friends with all kinds of people and they usually have some style that I dont particularly like but why should I care, it doesn't effect me. And i'm sure they don't like some of the things I wear either.

It's interesting your use of the word 'we'. Is he concerned that you having a bright bag reflects badly on him ?

I was wondering the same. I can't even wear normal flip flops so I can only imagine the many many blisters these would generate.

Count me in. I'm 61 and am the proud owner of a 🌈 rainbow coat. Whenever I wear it I get nothing but compliments.
We are only here once. Life is too short and , at the moment too grim, to worry about whatever people think.