Parents! What do you miss most before children

[californiakiss]

What do you miss most before you had your kids

Sleep

An intact pelvic floor.

Not peeing when I cough, sneeze or laugh

Silence

Sleeping on my own. Going to the toilet without daily re-enactments of 'do you want to build a snowman'

My entire existence

Sleep or the sheer mental load that comes with kids.

A sink that isn’t covered in toothpaste
a toilet that has been properly flushed
a couple of biscuits left in the box - not completely emptied
my toiletries/make up where I left them, not having been rummaged through/tops left off/squirts of expensive tinted moisturisers on dressing table ..

there are more obviously

Freedom! Being able to just get up and go without packing a massive bag and lugging a pram and a toddler around or having to time it around naps or when baby is due a feed etc etc.

Agreed, the mental load. And it’s all mine since DH died 😬

Spontaneity- the ability to just go out or do something because you feel like it. Whenever.

Being able to go for a run when I feel like it and not only when I have childcare.

Not having to travel in school holidays (seriously, look at the price of half term ski trips).

Not having to sprint out of work to make school/nursery pickup time

Having a lie in at the weekend, not an 8am pancake session

So many things I can't even count them. The bad outweighs the good by miles

I didn't despise my DH and all his annoying habits before kids

Day drinking and good holidays!

Just time.

Time to myself. Time to do stuff. Time to binge watch a whole TV series. Time to read a book. Time to sit on the sofa and do fuck all. Time to lie in bed all day.

I had so much time and never appreciated it.

Sleep and the freedom to do whatever I want whenever I want with who ever I want to!!!!

Sleep.

Being able to have my bed to myself when my DP does shifts especially in the mornings.

Being able to have a hangover or have another reason to get up in the afternoon.

Watching children's programmes because I want to.

Not go have to go shopping for clothes and shoes so often as I don't grow out of them.

Not having a home covered in children's books and toys.

Think I'd have to go with the pelvic floor as well to be honest.
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I never had any time before children. I had the most time in my life when I had only one DC and no work to go to, that was a short but golden time. Now yet again I have no time to do anything I want to do, but it’s not the kids’ fault.

Only having myself to think about. Such a joy.

Nothing really, if pushed I’d say not being able to go to an exercise class as and when I want but not really bothered about anything else, having them has enriched my life so much.

Silence

Silence, money and being able to leave the house when I please.

Time with DH