Parents! What do you miss most before children

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What do you miss most before you had your kids

glamourousindierockandroll
Being ill. I have laryngitis at the moment and I am a teacher. I could really do with not speaking at all until Monday.

Having every room in the house being properly clean and tidy at once, not just on a rotation basis.

Buying and reading a Sunday paper.

Reading anything for pleasure, tbh without falling asleep after two pages.

Being able to do jobs around the house that take longer than 5 minutes.

Being able to stay up late on a weekend without knowing your children will still wake up at 6.30.

Going for long walks with my husband, unencumbered by those of tiny leg, a fascination with puddles and an ability to find the danger in any given location.

Being able to get my work done during the day so that I can relax in the evening, rather than forcing myself to get the laptop out when I'm shattered and irritated.

Eating evening meal at 8pm.

These are so good and so true. I’m gonna try and go for a Sunday paper tomorrow- it’s been at least 8 years!!!

Adult only holidays

I miss my young flexible body, youthful skin and soft hair and so much energy. And yes it is part of getting older.

But I will never know if having dc aged me faster (I feel like it has) or if I my body would have aged in exactly the same way if I hadn’t had dc.

Word.

Nothing! They are the light of my life, especially since I lost DH.

Being able to eat my leftover Chinese in bed with a film on a rainy Sunday morning not hidden round the corner of the kitchen whilst my 2 year old hangs off the stairgate screeching mummymummymummy at me

Not being a slave to school schedule

The time when I was completely oblivious to the existence of judgmental, smug, parent shaming, bullies.

Long haul holidays

Nothing. I think back to when I was alone and how carefree I really was. Never having to think of anyone but myself. But looking back I feel lost for my former self, as in I feel like I was lost back then. I had an active life and I look back on all I did with really contentness, the mess, mistakes, experiences. But now having this person who relies on me and brings me so much joy that is my whole world.

I still have my own life though but it just naturally revolves around my child because I want it to. I love my home and family so much. Back then I was nomadic which was fun and exciting but now I just want to clean and tidy and chill and feel the love of my family.

I think two things make it so much easier than most though which are having my child late, so after I'd done all the things I could alone, and having only one, which seems infinitely less stressful than having more. I would go so far as to call it easy because of the fact I only have one. Oh, and not having a job helps too. I couldn't juggle three major things like that, it would just render them all not that enjoyable.

Freedom. Not being able to just go for a walk with the dog or decide to pop out for an hour without arranging childcare and worrying about getting back on time.

and my pre child pelvic floor.

My career
Money - always had savings now I have debt
Freedom
A clean/tidy car
My nice clothes

The freedom to sleep in if I wanted or be ill and not have to do anything

I think i miss life pre algorithm.

The freedom of not having to think about anyone else

Not having the burden of constantly worry about the future and what it might mean for my DC, it terrifies me

You're both saying exactly how I'm feeling. I love my DC so much, but always wondering if I made a mistake. I had no idea what I was in for, I really miss my old life

The constant worry, mine have extra needs and the worry is endless and overwhelming. Plus I’m tired all the time.

Thank God somebody feels enriched by.her children.

Headspace

Long haul travel

Rest

In no particular order but the 4 S's...
Sleep
Spontaneity
Sex
Silence