Parents! What do you miss most before children

[californiakiss]

What do you miss most before you had your kids

At the moment, being able to go to work without dreading the moment the phone rings and "nursery" pops up on the caller id.

Sunday morning lie-ins.

I cant just pick one.
Freedom and money.

Sleeping past 6am
Brunch and lazy mornings
Morning sex
Mini breaks to European cities
Reading on holiday

Having said that, when I do get the opportunity to do any of those things now, I REALLY enjoy them

My figure and going on frequent cheap term time holidays.

Money ! They cost a fortune - both mine at university.

Being able to be lazy when you're ill. To sit around watching tv all day under a blanket. Long hot uninterrupted baths. Basically down time! I really miss down time.

Sleep and pelvic floor. Turns out being exhausted and pissing yourself isn't that fun.

Not being worried about everything all the time.

I read a book while pregnant that described parenthood as the "biggest trick going".

Drinking tea whilst it’s hot
Enjoying a long bath instead of having shitty 7 min showers
Silence
Being able to recover properly when sick and not having to simultaneously look after a toddler and a baby
Having a lie in until 12pm just because
Not having to plan things three weeks in advance with my friends so I have time to sorr out childcare

Oh and so much more

The “sink not being covered in toothpaste” comment resonates with me!

A tidy house.

Freedom to go away together.

Free evenings. Especially weekdays, and especially now it’s dark earlier. It’s a real struggle to do school run and walk the dog

My vagina.

Having more money. The holidays we could have without kids would be so nice!

reading a book in peace.

eating snack food without a little person wanting it too!

morning and daytime sex. Hate that the only time to do it is last thing at night when I’m knackered!

Being able to go out whenever I want.

Spontaneous freedom to throw things in a bag just get up and go. To spend all Sunday morning bonking for Britain. Not having to hide the Jaffa Cakes.

Being able to finish something without being interrupted. As if to prove a point, while reading this thread I was summoned by a small child announcing they had done a massive poo and needed help wiping their bottom (oh and would I like to smell said poo?).

Sleep and less housework. I remember when I could just schedule cleaning the house just once a week (apart from dishes and wiping up after yourself) and it would stay relatively clean. None of this vacuuming food crumbs that somehow spread far and wide after every mealtime.

Not being touched or spoken to all the time.

Being able to have a bath without hearing the dreaded words “mommy I need a poo”

The spontaneity of dates, any time, any where.

Alone time during the day

Being able to have sex on the sofa if we want too.

Just general space and peace.

Wouldn’t trade it of course

Freedom and silence. Being able to do what I want without arranging childcare (and just not doing what I want, if there is no childcare available).

That's really stressful
And I'm guessing that as the woman, it's mostly your job to sort it ...

Spontaneity. On a Friday being able to call DH and say I'd meet him in the pub by his office, or going for a drink with colleagues. Weekends drinking all night and sleeping all day.

It used to be the lack of sleep, I missed a social life, I appreciated not leaking when I sneezed etc lol. But mine are all adults now. And the thing I miss the absolute most from when I was only responsible for myself is the lack of worry.

You literally never stop fretting about them. It's exhausting

Sleep
lie in
peace
quiet
getting up and doing what you fancy
Not having to think about food all the time