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Patronising MN replies that people pretend are sincere…

173 replies

Itsbadbitchoclockyeahitsthickthirty · 05/09/2022 12:57

I’ll go first:

”Are you very young OP?”

OP posts:
Discovereads · 05/09/2022 12:58

No woman I have ever met thinks like you

Cheeseandlobster · 05/09/2022 12:58

Are you getting help for your anxiety op?

JustTheOneSwan · 05/09/2022 12:59

Anxious?

O11 · 05/09/2022 12:59

I struggled reading that OP. Is English your first language?

kimchifox · 05/09/2022 12:59

I don't think the people who post those type of comments are pretending to be sincere!

You ok hun? Grin

Coughee · 05/09/2022 12:59

It's anything that starts with 'in the kindest/nicest possible way' - it's inevitably followed by a load of absolute unpleasant arseholery. People seem to think if they add that disclaimer the poster will be too stupid to figure out they're being a cunt.

Winterfellismyhome · 05/09/2022 12:59

@Itsbadbitchoclockyeahitsthickthirty i hate that one! Its so patronising

Soubriquet · 05/09/2022 13:00

I would look at talking to a psychiatrist OP. Sounds like you need some help

DelorisVC · 05/09/2022 13:03

Cheeseandlobster · 05/09/2022 12:58

Are you getting help for your anxiety op?

Was going to say this.

Itsbadbitchoclockyeahitsthickthirty · 05/09/2022 13:05

Cheeseandlobster · 05/09/2022 12:58

Are you getting help for your anxiety op?

Ha, classic!

OP posts:
JorisBonson · 05/09/2022 13:06

"Just move"

Itsbadbitchoclockyeahitsthickthirty · 05/09/2022 13:06

O11 · 05/09/2022 12:59

I struggled reading that OP. Is English your first language?

Urgh, yeah, seen this so many times

OP posts:
JimJamJollyWolly · 05/09/2022 13:07

Someone asking if you're young when looking at you - Possible compliment
Someone asking if you're young when reading you.... Not the same at all 😂

Although, occasionally I see that being said and it seems genuine in the the context of what else the rest of the post....

I hate.... "Are you well?", "Do you often feel like you are being attacked?" (After getting attacked).

Sandysandwich · 05/09/2022 13:07

PFB?

Arbesque · 05/09/2022 13:09

Be kind

OneForTheRoadThen · 05/09/2022 13:11

And what did (the person) say when you asked them OP?

knackeredagain · 05/09/2022 13:12

What did they say when you spoke to them?

Greensleeves · 05/09/2022 13:12

What did he say when you asked him about it?

JimJamJollyWolly · 05/09/2022 13:15

Oh yes! all of those

"What did they say when you challenged them?"

When there was clearly no challenge!

mamabear715 · 05/09/2022 13:17

I just scroll past them.. the ones that REALLY irritate me are the ones who don't RTFT & keep commenting on the original post PAGES after the OP has updated.. GNASH!!!

JimJamJollyWolly · 05/09/2022 13:17

and the

"That baffles me!"

It's not intended to be sincere exactly, just make you think you are an alien from outer space especially when responding to a feeling....

picklemewalnuts · 05/09/2022 13:21

I occasionally ask about OPs age because I get the feeling they may be young and are about to get all kinds of unsuitable replies!

Before telling someone they are V V unreasonable and need to wake up and smell the coffee, I like to check they aren't 12!!

Serenity45 · 05/09/2022 13:22

"Gently"

"what is xxxx?" (insert baffled emoji). Sometimes genuine, but quite often used when someone has dared to use regional terminology. 9 times out of 10 it is perfectly clear when read in the context of the OPs whole post...

Abracadabra12345 · 05/09/2022 13:27

“You do know that............don’t you? “. SO patronising

Arou · 05/09/2022 13:30

Didn’t you post the other day?

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