Patronising MN replies that people pretend are sincere…

[Itsbadbitchoclockyeahitsthickthirty]

I’ll go first:

”Are you very young OP?”

Ha, just read more of the thread and see that "what did they say when you asked them about it?" grinds everyone's gears!

"Could he be SEN/spectrum/MH/Denentia?" is ALWAYS thrown out there, regardless of the fact most people just aren't any of the above and, apart from on MN, it appears!

I'm guessing this is your first baby, OP?

Only ever said to make the OP feel embarrassed and incompetent for not knowing what to do.

OK to be a little upset. But to be “very upset” is a huge overreaction.

I can’t understand your post because there are too many commas/a full stop missing/you’ve misused “your” and “you’re” so you must be wrong.

"You don't sound like you like them OP"

Well, no, not at the moment hence the existence of the thread

"I'm confused".

No you fucking aren't. You're just pretending to be in an attempt to belittle the OP, you twat.

Oh and

" you knew he had kids when you met him" is such a wanker response

As is

"Have you considered adoption or fostering?" to someone infertile

What did they say when you confronted them?

Could it a cultural issue?

Wrong thread!

This doesn’t quite fit the brief but it’s obviously bs so I’ll stick it here:

OP says that for whatever reason, they can’t make best friend of 30 years wedding (at which she is also bridesmaid and maid of honour and MC) and feels terrible about it. What should she do?

Poster replies: Easy, “Dear xxx, I regretfully inform you that we have a previous engagement on that day. Best of luck with everything, OP”. Patronising twaddle that no one who wants to keep any friends would actually do.

I disagree with this one.

The question is designed to legitimately get the poster, who is usually female, to recognise that childcare is a joint cost and as such, needs to be considered that way when it comes to deciding if it's worth working.

Absolutely the overall family income is relevant; but so many posters here say they can't afford to go back to work - they need instead to think of what they lose by not going back - independence, career progression, identity (for some).

It may make sense to stay at home, but it should not be predicated on the woman's income alone. It is also singularly unhelpful in terms of the dynamic created in the relationship - that the childcare cost is linked only with the mother working, not both parents.

😂😂 I was wondering! Was truth to figure out the patronising intent there!

Yesterday I read "op do you have mental health problems?"

(Got it removed ASAP! I wasn't the OP)

I agree so much. I really hate angry being used as a checkmate especially🙄

Same here 😂

I am always amazed by someone who is in a position to have children in their 20s!!

In other words because am in my 20s am either absolutely killing it or am socially and financially irresponsible to have began motherhood in my 20s. Any issues I may be having are a result of my own making and I should keep quiet about it. Total lack of respect or insight into other people life experiences, expectations and opportunities open or closed to them.

Thanks @WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps ! I got one of those last night when a poster decided that I needed psychiatric help when I got totally reasonably (but repeatedly) pissed off on a thread!

Sorry everyone 🤣

Oh god. I say this all the time in real life and on MN.
I never mean it in an insincere way. I need to stop using this phrase!

"Do you work, OP?"

I think this is very relevant and a good question.

Ditto Were you the OW?

Usually followed by 'no one in my circle had children until they were 34' like that makes them better people 😆

Are you feeling ok?
Is it a full moon or something?
Is this a reverse?