To get a cat even though DH HATES them

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DD (5) really wants a cat, she talks about one everyday, I am really open to the idea
and think it will be a good companion. DH hates them and will not budge. DD even asked if daddy could move out so we could get one.

YABU

But I hope you know that

Ah that’s a tough one but I think yab(a bit)u.

if he wasn’t too keen but reluctantly agreed then fair enough, but if he really HATES them then no it’s not fair on him.
id be so upset if DH got a pet that he knew I would hate having in our home.

I think I know I am being unreasonable but I really want one 😩

I doubt he’d hate it for long 😂 they always manage to win men over.

No of course you can't, YABVU!

Is anyone else getting deja vu over the ‘my 3yo wanted a cat’ troll the other day?

You know you really can't don't you? It would be totally unfair.

If your DD really wants a pet then are there any domestic animals your DH could live with? My DH also dislikes cats. When D D was small we got her guinea pigs. They make lively pets and are fairly easy to look after. DH actually got quite fond of ours in the end.

Oh really, there was a troll? How did you know they were trolling?

How impressed would you be if your DH got a pet that you'd specifically said you disliked?
YABU I'm afraid.

I just feel bad as I know how much DD wants one.

Well I'd go for the cat and ditch DH ...

I wouldn’t be in that position, I quite like most animals.

Question is - why does he hate them If it's real fear or allergy, then you can't. If it's just prejudice, then maybe... (disclaimer - I couldn't be with someone who didn't at least tolerate cats.)

I hate cats. If DH brought a cat home he and the cat would be out.
How dare you think your more important than another adult and get the final say? I hope you're a troll, if not you're a narcissist.

Nope. I can't imagine DH being won over by a cat. Or dog. Especially not a dog.

He says he is allergic but we have a dog, wouldn’t he be allergic to that too?

My 5 year old wanted a cat, a dog, a horse and a budgie. I just said no.

Many years ago my dh said yes to getting dkittens. 2.
Whenever he felt like it he raged I had taken the piss by getting them when I knew he didn't want them.

His idea genuinely..
Anyway he is an exh and dcat is now 10. Sadly one died 2 years ago.

Woah hold on I haven’t bought the cat? Hardly narcissistic. Jesus Christ

Not necessarily.

YAB completely U, and I think you know it!

Yes, yabu. Hopefully the Daddy comment was said laughingly or you told her off for being unkind. She has a dog, she can have a toy cat, you can get a divorce and a cat. Those are the options.

..and what happens if dog & cat don’t get along?

You could install a catio and then the cat lives outside - would your DH be happy with this ?

You could also foster cats with rescues so you only have a cat for a short period (a test period). This does have downside though with a 5 year old as she may not understand the temporary nature of the arrangement. Incidentally Cats Protection would provide outdoor housing if this is required.

Great drip feed Op!

Hate cats. Would not live with one. YABU