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To not really like it when men post on here?

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Username91 · 15/08/2022 21:17

Just that really. After reading not one but two bullshit threads started by men in the last few days I’m just a bit sick of them posting on here. I love mumsnet. I’ve read interesting threads, hilarious ones, heartbreaking and sometimes infuriating ones and I just feel like saying ‘oh piss off’ every time a bloke sticks their neb in. It’s MUMSnet ffs. I know I am being unreasonable really and am a massive hypocrite as I’m not (yet) a mum myself haha and don’t actually contribute anything of value to this site myself but still….they get on my tits.

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AtomicBlondeRose · 15/08/2022 21:20

I don’t object to men per se but there’s a certain tone men take when starting threads which makes me want to cringe myself inside out and 90% of male posters use it. An overly
flowery, self-consciously “witty”, wannabe self-effacing style. It’s immediately obvious that it’s a man, usually includes the work “hence”, makes you suspect the poster’s only seconds away from a “methinks” and anyway the jolly “aren’t I a big silly” persona soon falls away and turns into outright hostility about three posts in.

CuriousCatfish · 15/08/2022 21:21

Most of the men who start threads on MN are only here to troll.

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 15/08/2022 21:23

I don’t have an massive issues with men posting, but I do like that it’s a largely female space.

herewego9 · 15/08/2022 21:24

Yanbu

GCAcademic · 15/08/2022 21:24

There do seem to be some particularly unpleasant ones on the Relationships board at the moment who seem to have drifted over from some incel forum and are spewing their misogyny at vulnerable posters.

CanofCant · 15/08/2022 21:25

Yeah, there are two users that are men who are decent and though I don't always agree with their opinion on matters, they never make a thread about them and their feelings or sex.

By and large though, it's as CuriousCatfish says. Sadly.

RainbowsMoonbeams · 15/08/2022 21:26

I remember one or two who lurked and posted on the Sex forum on here 🤢. I think some enjoy the attention.

YANBU

TarasHarp55 · 15/08/2022 21:26

They annoy me too and I'm not sure why.. I could never in a hundred years imagine my DH posting on here. Just seems a bit wimpish somehow, but I feel awful saying that.

CanofCant · 15/08/2022 21:26

*their feelings or their sex

Spinasaurus · 15/08/2022 21:26

There are probably a lot more men on here than you think pretending to be women

Twawmyarse · 15/08/2022 21:27

Yes. I usually find its best to completely ignore them!

CanofCant · 15/08/2022 21:28

Spinasaurus · 15/08/2022 21:26

There are probably a lot more men on here than you think pretending to be women

Yes, good point.

ClappyFats · 15/08/2022 21:29

I'm with you OP. Maybe it's because men so vocally and physically colonise the majority of spaces that anything left that's mostly female feels like a breath of fresh air to me.

Mollyplop999 · 15/08/2022 21:29

YANBU

PrimroseWharf · 15/08/2022 21:31

I agree OP it’s so nice having a majority female space here so it feels a bit like an intrusion.

honkeytonkwoman38 · 15/08/2022 21:32

I just imagine they look and act like the guy from Motherland !

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Username91 · 15/08/2022 21:33

AtomicBlondeRose · 15/08/2022 21:20

I don’t object to men per se but there’s a certain tone men take when starting threads which makes me want to cringe myself inside out and 90% of male posters use it. An overly
flowery, self-consciously “witty”, wannabe self-effacing style. It’s immediately obvious that it’s a man, usually includes the work “hence”, makes you suspect the poster’s only seconds away from a “methinks” and anyway the jolly “aren’t I a big silly” persona soon falls away and turns into outright hostility about three posts in.

Oh this made me laugh out loud. You have written what I was thinking in a far more eloquent manner than I could. This is why I love mumsnet!

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neshtastic · 15/08/2022 21:34

Hi ladies!

Why do they always start with that?

DisplayPurposesOnly · 15/08/2022 21:34

two bullshit threads started by men

Trolls can be of any gender. And you can't be sure those were by men.

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Username91 · 15/08/2022 21:34

Spinasaurus · 15/08/2022 21:26

There are probably a lot more men on here than you think pretending to be women

Well that’s a sad thought but you are probably right

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TeapotTitties · 15/08/2022 21:35

After reading not one but two bullshit threads started by men in the last few days I’m just a bit sick of them posting on here.

Unless you were sitting with them watching them posting, you have no idea what sex they are.

Also, I suspect some of the trolls who claim to be male are women, just trying to wind us all up with the whole 'man here' thing.

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Username91 · 15/08/2022 21:36

ClappyFats · 15/08/2022 21:29

I'm with you OP. Maybe it's because men so vocally and physically colonise the majority of spaces that anything left that's mostly female feels like a breath of fresh air to me.

Yes, I think this is why it gets to me!

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GCAcademic · 15/08/2022 21:36

neshtastic · 15/08/2022 21:34

Hi ladies!

Why do they always start with that?

Oh come on, be fair.

There’s also the ones who reply to the OP with “Man here . . .”

MrsOwainGlyndŵr · 15/08/2022 21:36

I can spot a post by a man a mile away. They all seem to have a specific way of "talking"

TeapotTitties · 15/08/2022 21:36

neshtastic · 15/08/2022 21:34

Hi ladies!

Why do they always start with that?

Again though, how do you know that's not a female troll winding people up?

The vast majority of MN members are female so it makes sense that the majority of trolls would be too.

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