To not really like it when men post on here?

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Just that really. After reading not one but two bullshit threads started by men in the last few days I’m just a bit sick of them posting on here. I love mumsnet. I’ve read interesting threads, hilarious ones, heartbreaking and sometimes infuriating ones and I just feel like saying ‘oh piss off’ every time a bloke sticks their neb in. It’s MUMSnet ffs. I know I am being unreasonable really and am a massive hypocrite as I’m not (yet) a mum myself haha and don’t actually contribute anything of value to this site myself but still….they get on my tits.

I agree. They are either goady, and say really misogynistic stuff, or NAMALT shit, or they are patronising. I get SOOOO fucked off when a man comes on to a thread and says 'MAN HERE.' And then starts fucking manspalining.... And when he says 'ladies...' I am like ...

And they come out with shit like 'you laydeeeez look sooooo much better without make up' and suchlike. Just bore off.

manspalining = mansplaining!!!

Same. Any time they post I automatically switch threads

If non-parents can post then so can men. When posters question why there are non-parents they usually get their arse handed to them so I find the amount of PPs agreeing with OP unusual

Oh yanbu
I hate it too.
"Man here!"

So what. They are not the ambassador for all men. They are one person.

I don’t like it either OP but apparently that makes me unwelcoming….

I understand many men may feel more comfortable here posting about certain topics compared to male orientated spaces, however female only places were created because we also didn’t feel comfortable on shared spaces posting on certain subjects.

Men could spend more time challenging male toxicity or creating spaces with like minded people rather than infiltrating female spaces

I agree, it's mumsnet not parentsnets or dadsnet! F### off men, why do they feel the need to encroach on female space.

YANBU

I come here on here to women and take a break from men.

No 'longer' a mum? If you were 'once' upon a time a mum, you're still a mum!! Soooo...

Well that’s interesting. I actually ended up on here when I was pregnant but sadly my baby died. I’ve stuck around because I’m interested in a lot of the topics that get discussed and get a different perspective than I might otherwise. I’ve also read a lot of threads about baby loss which have been a huge help to me as somebody who isn’t much of an open person in ‘real life’. Like I said, happy to admit that I’m a hypocrite and I’m sure there’s others that feel the same as you. Just feels more like a good space for women to discuss things to me.

Oh I totally agree that men are really annoying on Mumsnet.

I was on Mumsnet for a long time painfully escaping a very abusive relationship- I got so much support and advice, I probably couldn't have done it without Mumsnet.

So it always deeply unsettled me when reading posts from men. I always wondered what are their wives or partners doing while they're busily posting on Mumsnet?

I could so easily imagine my ex happily posting away a pile of crap while I was sitting silently in the corner.

I just don't like it, however self effacing or humble they pretend to be, I just really don't like it.

The one exception was on the dating thread when it was occasionally useful to hear the male perspective.

@mackthepony @J0y @Jalepenojello @MissMaple82 @romance123

As you said ^ why do men come here? It's a space for WOMEN to discuss things, and we want and need our own space. Why can they not just go to their 'male' boards? It gives me the creeps, the thought of MEN reading about womens personal, problems ...

I don't go to male dominated boards and say 'WOMAN here' and tell them they look better without a beard, and start joining in when they're on about how they wish their penis was bigger, and telling them their opinions about women are 'wrong.' Fuck me, imagine doing that? Yet MEN do similar here!

This.

With lashings of ‘to give a male perspective’. Nobody asked, sir.

One of my favourite poster's is DillonTexasPanthers and I thoroughly enjoy his comments on threads. Please don't tar all men!

Him, I wouldn’t mind! 😂

I have no problem with women who aren't mothers posting, sure I avoid threads about weaning, any kind of feeding nappies, teething et cetera, I only click on threads that seem interesting.

I hate it too. I feel lulled into a false sense of safety thinking this is an all women space

But that's your own issue, no-one told you to lull yourself into a false sense of safety.

If you're only thought about it for a nano-second, you would've slapped your forehead and thought, "Duh! This is the internet, I can't possibly see other people typing".

What a bizarre & restrictive view.

Do you think women who have experienced the sanctity of parturition are so very different from the rest of mundane humanity, @Dancingwithhyenas?

Firstly, I think your being slightly skewed in your perception of bullshit threads or trolls just being men, the troll gender devide really isn't a split among the sexes.

Secondly, it's an age old gripe of somehow wanting MN to be women only just because it's mumsnet, the tagline is parents for parents blah blah, so it gets murky with you not being a parent yourself.

Unless you're wanting a digital ID tied into your personal birth certificate and current family status just to prove you can post on MN then it is just a case of realising you are on an open forum and not to take things at face value, if you want specific sex segregation online we may as well go full china and socuial credit score.

(Not bitter having to deal with someone trying to dox me [ironically from here] on a large sub I am moderator of, She knows I am a women of colour, but I have offended her by not coming down neatly along political lines, turns out she is well known trill with a history across multiple forums)

It's a space for WOMEN to discuss things

No it isn't and nor does it claim to be.

I ignore them, but would prefer they buggered off really.

Haven't RTFT but wanted to say @AtomicBlondeRose your description of the tone they use is sooooooo accurate!!!

I don’t care for it. They should start a dadsnet.com if they want to discuss things from their perspective. I would hate those who elbow their way in here to start mansplaining or worse. This doesn’t seem to be a space for men.

I actually dislike non parents commenting on here more than men (fathers) especially as a lot seem to actively dislike children, if I didn’t have children I wouldn’t post on MN but there are many women who don’t have children (and don’t want them!) on MUMSnet

PigletJohn is fab though 😊