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To not really like it when men post on here?

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Username91 · 15/08/2022 21:17

Just that really. After reading not one but two bullshit threads started by men in the last few days I’m just a bit sick of them posting on here. I love mumsnet. I’ve read interesting threads, hilarious ones, heartbreaking and sometimes infuriating ones and I just feel like saying ‘oh piss off’ every time a bloke sticks their neb in. It’s MUMSnet ffs. I know I am being unreasonable really and am a massive hypocrite as I’m not (yet) a mum myself haha and don’t actually contribute anything of value to this site myself but still….they get on my tits.

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Cam22 · 15/08/2022 22:23

Cherchezlaspice · 15/08/2022 22:13

This.

With lashings of ‘to give a male perspective’. Nobody asked, sir.

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Ugh. That makes me cringe. Things here are from a female perspective. Create dadsnet.com or mansnet.com and mansplain to other men to your heart’s content.

Cam22 · 15/08/2022 22:26

The spin-off site from this one - that ultimately failed - had an irritating male on it who thought he was sooooooo popular. Some of the women used to suck up to him. It was a revolting spectacle.

No. To. Men.

whynotwhatknot · 15/08/2022 22:26

im not a parent either sorry if that offends

FloydPepper · 15/08/2022 22:27

I’m a dad and post on here as it’s a site for parents. I’ve had some great advice, and no doubt given some bad advice too…

I can see the tone of posts from some men is off, but fundamentally I feel ok about being here. It’s not a site exclusively for women.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 15/08/2022 22:27

Well if non parents can post here, so can men. There's no rule saying you must be female to post here. All are welcome. I just ignore the obvious male ones who have only commented or started a thread to be dicks.

Cam22 · 15/08/2022 22:28

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WarnerSisters · 15/08/2022 22:28

Disagree that non-parents shouldn’t be here - surely women have far more issues in common with one another, whatever our angle on it (health, politics, transport, employment, finance, security, travel, abuse, relationships, caring roles, social expectations, existing in the patriarchy) than a SAHD and a mum do (in my experience, dads get medals and outspoken praise from strangers for doing what every mum does every day, so very much not the same daily experience).

I think the experience of womanhood in all its many and varied forms is far more binding.

Cherchezlaspice · 15/08/2022 22:29

Cam22 · 15/08/2022 22:23

Ugh. That makes me cringe. Things here are from a female perspective. Create dadsnet.com or mansnet.com and mansplain to other men to your heart’s content.

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I think they tried and it flopped, no? As these men don’t want their own space. They want to infiltrate ours and tell us what’s what.

Wouldloveanother · 15/08/2022 22:31

There’s one or two ‘established’ male posters on here I don’t mind. The ‘misandry’ thread crashes are so irritating though. And I like the fact it’s an overwhelmingly female website.

fdgdfgdfgdfg · 15/08/2022 22:32

The sites by-line is "Mumsnet - By parents for parents". I'm a man, but I'm also a father. The sites mission statement specifically states it's for me. I'm not going anywhere.

However, I do try not to stick my nose in where it's not wanted. There are obviously a lot of threads where my opinion isn't wanted, and I tend to just pass them by.

I also think this site has helped me be a better partner. Seeing womens viewpoints on here have benefitted the way I engage with my partner, things like hearing women on here talking about taking on the bulk of the mental load.

SavingsThreads · 15/08/2022 22:32

love mumsnet. I’ve read interesting threads, hilarious ones, heartbreaking and sometimes infuriating ones

YABU, do you realise how many of those threads and posts you love will have been from men?

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The only time I object is when they start threads like ‘why did you have children when they’re so annoying’, trying to make mums feel like shit about their lives and kids.

mommynette · 15/08/2022 22:34

@Username91 but some people are trans-male so are you ok with them posting on here? Or are you just referring to the cis-males? Anyway, I know what you mean about things and YANBU. I don't hate men by the way, I got loads of cis-male and trans-male friends.

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 15/08/2022 22:34

There have been many men who make great contributions over the years. I loved the guy who skipped around in an elephantine manner 😁

And then there are the mansplainers. Remember the bloke who came on to school us all about computers and the first response was ‘Thank god you showed up, I’ve just been bashing the keyboard with my tits and hoping for the best’ 😂

And the very wealthy man who apparently owned a Tesla, and decided to do Deliveroo for shits and giggles, and complained about lack of tips. Even though he apparently was loaded.

Some posters, male and female, just should be laughed at and not taken seriously

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 15/08/2022 22:34

honkeytonkwoman38 · 15/08/2022 21:32

I just imagine they look and act like the guy from Motherland !

Aw

Calabria1985 · 15/08/2022 22:36

I just want to say to all the wonderful females who post on here ....i respect and love you all!Even though the majority hate men.I love reading the different topics and reading a womans point of view..keep it up ladies!

FloydPepper · 15/08/2022 22:38

fdgdfgdfgdfg · 15/08/2022 22:32

The sites by-line is "Mumsnet - By parents for parents". I'm a man, but I'm also a father. The sites mission statement specifically states it's for me. I'm not going anywhere.

However, I do try not to stick my nose in where it's not wanted. There are obviously a lot of threads where my opinion isn't wanted, and I tend to just pass them by.

I also think this site has helped me be a better partner. Seeing womens viewpoints on here have benefitted the way I engage with my partner, things like hearing women on here talking about taking on the bulk of the mental load.

I agree with this. Some threads I just know aren’t for me and I’d be unhelpful. Others I know the poster will get better advice from others so I don’t post. Others I’m better off just reading and learning.

Janesmom · 15/08/2022 22:38

Curious to know if OP would have the same view of a male-dominant board, or even male only private members clubs?

ellieboolou · 15/08/2022 22:39

Well I could be a man for all you know? I'm not though 🤣, think it's strange that men would want to join, maybe they can set up a DADSnet

Cherchezlaspice · 15/08/2022 22:39

Calabria1985 · 15/08/2022 22:36

I just want to say to all the wonderful females who post on here ....i respect and love you all!Even though the majority hate men.I love reading the different topics and reading a womans point of view..keep it up ladies!

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MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 15/08/2022 22:40

Oh come off it. The two most helpful posters on here are men - pigletjohn and prh47bridge

Justanotherlurker · 15/08/2022 22:41

I actually dislike non parents commenting on here more than men (fathers)

Logical conclusion of OP's stance, after all it is 'MUMsnet', I'm a mum that is analytically terminally online due to my role in big data, trolls (being a nebulas meaning) is not confined to one gender. Some of the most disturbing internet trolls for future historians to pick over are actual women, OP is suggesting the atomisation of online discorse and not realising that instead of starting another 'why can men post on here' type of thread, tried to cloak it under another angle.

But to follow the logical conclusion of her process means she wouldn't be able to post here unless she proves she has a child and a women, Going back to the nu-50's with segrated forums is the new progressive.

ThinWomansBrain · 15/08/2022 22:42

There are probably a lot more men on here than you think pretending to be women

and possibly a lot more posting in a non-gender specific writing style

Doesn't particularly bother me - except for the "hi ladeez, I'm a MAN " type ones. which usually contain a degree of mansplaining

AdamRyan · 15/08/2022 22:42

KettrickenSmiled · 15/08/2022 21:54

How nice to hear from you @baroqueandblue
Not snark - genuinely!

I will add you to my shortlist of male posters not to immolate on sight Wink
Looking at you @adamryan (it's a very short list ...)

I'm not a man 😂just use a male name

Can i nominate @dervel and @pigletjohn As 2 thoroughly great men on here
Dervel in particular always makes good points, on the feminist board as well.

DustinsHat · 15/08/2022 22:42

AtomicBlondeRose · 15/08/2022 21:20

I don’t object to men per se but there’s a certain tone men take when starting threads which makes me want to cringe myself inside out and 90% of male posters use it. An overly
flowery, self-consciously “witty”, wannabe self-effacing style. It’s immediately obvious that it’s a man, usually includes the work “hence”, makes you suspect the poster’s only seconds away from a “methinks” and anyway the jolly “aren’t I a big silly” persona soon falls away and turns into outright hostility about three posts in.

Yes I hate that pompous, self important tone they use. You can spot one of those men a mile off. I prefer talking to women, I the odd man is ok if they're not a twat but I don't want this to become a mixed forum.