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To not really like it when men post on here?

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Username91 · 15/08/2022 21:17

Just that really. After reading not one but two bullshit threads started by men in the last few days I’m just a bit sick of them posting on here. I love mumsnet. I’ve read interesting threads, hilarious ones, heartbreaking and sometimes infuriating ones and I just feel like saying ‘oh piss off’ every time a bloke sticks their neb in. It’s MUMSnet ffs. I know I am being unreasonable really and am a massive hypocrite as I’m not (yet) a mum myself haha and don’t actually contribute anything of value to this site myself but still….they get on my tits.

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BlueWhaleBay · 15/08/2022 23:03

mamabear715 · 15/08/2022 22:49

??? What does it matter?
The absolute hatred when there were men-only golf clubs, working mens' clubs etc.. can't have it both ways!
Welcome, gentlemen!

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FancyFelix · 15/08/2022 23:04

Twawmyarse · 15/08/2022 21:27

Yes. I usually find its best to completely ignore them!

This is what I do. Just skip past the posts as if they don't exist

BlueWhaleBay · 15/08/2022 23:05

TeapotTitties · 15/08/2022 22:16

I hate it too. I feel lulled into a false sense of safety thinking this is an all women space

But that's your own issue, no-one told you to lull yourself into a false sense of safety.

If you're only thought about it for a nano-second, you would've slapped your forehead and thought, "Duh! This is the internet, I can't possibly see other people typing".

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As only a man would say.

Mum4all · 15/08/2022 23:06

MRA - activism for all I say!

Am aware that MRA is seen by some as TRANS activism.

As long as we use this space constructively, be kind and be aware that trolls, both male and female lurk, we should all use this platform to debate and express, I call it 'safe places'.

TeapotTitties · 15/08/2022 23:07

As only a man would say.

Except I'm a woman in my mid fifties. You don't have to believe that though and that's exactly my point.

You could be a 6ft 2 rugby player named Kevin for all I know.

SoupDragon · 15/08/2022 23:07

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Jalepenojello · 15/08/2022 23:11

SoupDragon · 15/08/2022 23:02

Mumsnet has never been a female only space. It was never intended to be one either.

if you want a female only space, you'll have to set up one yourself.

You can tell yourself that but it was called mumsnet. Not parents net. Mumsnet are vocal on being welcoming to all now, to not rock the boat but it wasn’t accidentally called mumsnet, let’s be honest. I’ve been here over a decade and it was very much a womens only place apart from the odd troll or lonely male.

BadNomad · 15/08/2022 23:12

I get more annoyed by the "I asked my DH and he says your boyfriend is a knob" type posts. We didn't ask your husband, Sandra!

saraclara · 15/08/2022 23:12

MissMaple82 · 15/08/2022 22:07

I agree, it's mumsnet not parentsnets or dadsnet! F### off men, why do they feel the need to encroach on female space.

It's not a female space. Mumsnet is 'by parents for parents'. And if a male parent needs advice or simply join in, they should be perfectly able to.

Personally I prefer to know that the person behind the handle is a man. So I have no problem with the 'man here' thing, any more than I do with the 'teacher here' or 'GP here' post introductions.

I'm not going to pre-judge a poster by their sex, I'll judge them by what they say. There are some obnoxious women on here to balance any obnoxious men. And likewise good female and male posters. Let's face it, most women here turn into simpering puddles as soon as PigletJohn is mentioned.

Runwalkskijump · 15/08/2022 23:13

neshtastic · 15/08/2022 21:34

Hi ladies!

Why do they always start with that?

A fair number of women do too, along with Hi mums

Christmasiscominghohoho · 15/08/2022 23:14

Yabu.

Ohsugarhoneyicetea · 15/08/2022 23:14

I agree OP, if I wanted to know what males think or chat with them I have the entire rest of the internet to do that. What I love about mumsnet is that it is mostly females. Of course there are some exceptions, men working in the VAWG sector for instance, but that is not the majority.

ToGanymedeAndTitan · 15/08/2022 23:15

YABU.
It's a parenting forum, and men can be parents too looking for advice.
You don't get to be the thread police who can and can't post here.

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Blossomandbee · 15/08/2022 23:17

I hate that so many lurk on the sex board.

Runwalkskijump · 15/08/2022 23:18

MissMaple82 · 15/08/2022 22:07

I agree, it's mumsnet not parentsnets or dadsnet! F### off men, why do they feel the need to encroach on female space.

ODFOD

saraclara · 15/08/2022 23:18

No wonder that men don't choose to become SAHDs. Mumsnet is the equivalent of the school gate mums who leave dads isolated at the school gates.

I don't think that this place being called Mumsnet should have too much read into it. If people want it to be exclusively for Mums, then the OP should depart too.

WB205020 · 15/08/2022 23:19

@MissMaple82 Oh get over yourself. Mumsnet is not a female space. It’s a forum for parents. The strap line says that as do the founders when interviewed.

The stereotypical role of primary parent has fallen on mums for donkeys years to they typically have the broadest readership on here but that doesn’t make it a female space. I would suggest you educate yourself before making such daft statements.

DillDanding · 15/08/2022 23:19

We can’t stop who posts, but I do find it odd when men do. Maybe because the idea of my husband posting on MN is so ludicrous.🤷‍♀️

donquixotedelamancha · 15/08/2022 23:19

Unless you were sitting with them watching them posting, you have no idea what sex they are.

This. I find it so strange that posters think they know other posters sex.

Now I will agree that the men who announce their sex when it isn't relevant are always dickheads but I don't presume the other men here are the same.

There are certainly plenty of posters who say they are women that come across as dicks too.

ToGanymedeAndTitan · 15/08/2022 23:19

I agree, it's mumsnet not parentsnets or dadsnet! F### off men, why do they feel the need to encroach on female space
This has been done to death over the years, and Mumsnet have always been adamant that it's not just a female space, it's for all parents. (Yes I know people who aren't parents are in here too)

thatisnotyours · 15/08/2022 23:19

They could always rename it to whitemiddleclassmumsnet to better reflect the majority of posters 🤣

felulageller · 15/08/2022 23:20

Nrft but yes I get resentful putting emotional energy into men's problems.

I come to MN to escape men FFS!

Walkden · 15/08/2022 23:21

Wow. Lots of misandry on this thread.