He deconstructed my knitting pile.

[MappyDappy]

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

Unforgivable.
I too wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone like that.
He must have known that was hours of work he was unravelling!

He deserves all you throw at him.

Yes. This man is dangerous.

If there's an OW to go to though...

Wow, what a vindictive cunt. Good for you slinging him out. I’d block his number now.

I was thinking the same thing. It could also explain why he was going out several times per week for "hobbies".

I read it as though he has his own place with the bulk of his stuff but they’re largely at the OPs?

It sounds like he knew the end was coming so wanted to have the upper hand when he left. Glad you didn't prolong this, OP - it could have ended up being really nasty / dangerous if you'd allowed it to fester. Well done and all the best!

I am a knitter. This is outrageous.

It's over 30° here today and I shivered reading that! That would freak me out. Thank goodness you are safe and no legal ties etc. Wishing you all the best.

I get the strong impression he's actually been wanting to leave for ages, but didn't have the guts to be the one to end it so decided to push you to your limit until you finished with him. What a prick.

What an utter nasty arsehole. Well done on dealing with him so swiftly OP. More time to resurrect your knitting now. What a prick!

Bloody good on you!!!!

What a total wanker!

I have done some stupid reactionary shit in my time.

I do recall a bin tipping over incident once when finally lost the plot at DPs ‘get rubbish bag and sweep everything into it’ style of cleaning.

But in this situation a) there wasn’t anything to react to. And b) spending hours unravelling and winding knitting of not just one but two items is beyond ‘spur of the moment’.

He’s beyond tapped! And I do think quite dangerous. Be careful OP 💕

THREE items if there were two socks. So cold blooded.

Sending you lots of well-wishes OP, and huge congrats for calling time on the relationship.

He sounds batshit. Spiteful thing to do when you wanted to spend time with him. I echo pp, be careful, he sounds like he might aim for revenge.

This doesn't really seem true.

Please tell people in RL. Can you get someone around about the time you think he will arrive to collect his stuff. This is a potential flashpoint.

Well done OP, but be prepared for retaliation — maybe get a friend over to stay a few days.

Oh well done OP!
Stay strong

Good for you OP!

@Ottersmith
im afraid it probably is. A friend’s husband did exactly the same thing, crept down one night when she was asleep and unravelled a nearly finished jumper she was making for their daughter.
I remember my blood ran cold when she told me. The cruelty, not just to her, but to the daughter was so grim.

He is a pathetic little child throwing a tantrum .. so glad to hear he is getting the boot!!

I like your style...

It's sad it's come to this, but well done for being so decisive.

Probably this is what he's been angling for. Didn't have the bollox to say so.

I felt the same. I saw the thread title and I thought.

"He did WHAT!!!!!😡"