He deconstructed my knitting pile.

[MappyDappy]

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

I am utterly astonished by the level of spite he demonstrated. He’s absolutely fucking insane.

I’d have wanted to set him on fire.

So he clearly understands just how out of order he was.

Block and move on.

So he clearly understands just how out of order he was.

Block and move on.

Your scolding is a little late to do any good, so I wonder what your point is in posting it @SolasAnla?

Having been in the position to need an Injunction served on my ex-H when he entered family annihilator mode, I don't need to do any checking into police effectiveness in this area thanks.
OP has removed him from her home.
She has done what she can to ensure he can no longer enter it, & was eminently sensible in choosing not to tell him face to face that they are done.

The usual Midsomer Murder outcome is a sinister but ridiculous murder - OP's ex being the obvious candidate here.
HTH

I’m so sorry he did that.

You’re well rid of the spiteful little twat.

Good for you. No need for a MN LTB - you did it! Take no shit. Love it.

What a shitbag. Glad you’ve taken some decisive action @MappyDappy

Onwards and upwards!

I'd leave him because that's absolutely cruel

I started off reading this thinking it was going to be lighthearted (“He rearranged my knitting wool into colour-order!”) and was all prepared to joke about your next knitting project being a shroud or decree absolute for him.

But fuck me, the calculated cruelty of him. Well done for getting shot.

I’m a knitter, and this has absolutely appalled me! Sock are not easy to knit - I’ve only managed to knit one, and the hours of work he has ruined is heartbreaking.

I’m glad he’s getting the Order of the Boot, @MappyDappy !

I'd reply "you suppose right" then block the prick .
Does he have his own place op?

What he did was calculated and despicable.

My ex did something similar - to spite me he changed his will to cut me out and I'd have only known if he'd died . He left everything to his ex , so the house I was paying for would have been hers . (I wasn't on mortgage)
I'd also tell him to not contact you again . If he does start to become a pain or turns up ring police . I love dealing with dicks like that .
Well done you .

Well done OP. Nobody can live with someone who is that spiteful. You'd be constantly on edge waiting to see what he'd purposefully ruin next.

What was the "thought so" in response to?

Presumably the fact he's found all his belongings in black
Bags at reception?

Dont respond. Silence is all he deserves.

Well good for you, who wants to be with a grown person who acts like a spoilt, spiteful child?

It’s crazy how there are so many emotionally stunted, childlike people waking around in adult bodies.

Hey OP, your heart must of sunk at the sight of hours and hours of knitting unraveled! What a nasty, malicious and unhinged thing to do just because you wanted to spend an evening together!!!

Luckily I have just read all your updates… you are absolutely doing the right thing, I hope you find someone that appreciates you!

Well done op!! Vile vile man.

Somehow I find this more disturbing than if he'd thrown and smashed something against a wall in temper. It's the calculated-ness and the fact he spent ages meticulously ruining something because he knew it would upset you. This is not someone being childish and petulant. He sounds like a psychopath.

No response needed to his text. What more does the dumbass need in order to realise he's been kicked out - his belongings were literally brought to his workplace! He knows the deal, he knows he's out, any request for confirmation from you via text or a call is simply him trying to open methods of dialogue in order to weasel his way back in.
He made the point that he believes he can punish you by destroying your hard work if you do something he doesn't like, and you've made the point that you won't accept that pathetic behaviour and now he no longer lives with you.
Point made, no conversation needed.

Bloody hell OP, I've never met you but I have been rooting for you all day!

My thoughts went there too. Easy to hide if you have "a hobby which involves him being out late a lot".

Plus, OP said "He's been very distant lately and figure maybe we have reached a natural end but this just seals it." I wonder if he's the type of cowardly little prick
who wants their partner to end the relationship so that they can play the hard-done-by victim, ratcheting up their behaviour until their partner snaps. Then, the 'mildness' of his reply would be down to him knowing this straw had indeedbroken the OP's back / the relationship, and that he has achieved his goal. Prick.

He sounds creepier than Robin Williams in one hour photo.

I know someone whose ex got in and trashed all her teenage dds stuff. Left everything untouched but wrecked the dds belongings. The dd had nothing to do with it but he knew that was the way to cause the most pain.

What a dickhead!

I'd be considering deconstructing the brake cables on his car! (Joke honestly)

Well done you, you’ve done the right thing.