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He deconstructed my knitting pile.
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MappyDappy · 05/08/2022 10:11

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

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MassiveSalad22 · 05/08/2022 10:12

Her literally undid the cardi and socks???? That is truly unhinged and malicious. So bizarre!!

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slugHell · 05/08/2022 10:13

YANBU at all. That's awful and childish behaviour! I'd be so upset and angry, surely your partner must know how much work goes into your knitting

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Menopants · 05/08/2022 10:13

Utter cunt.

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MappyDappy · 05/08/2022 10:14

It has taken me ages yes! He seems to think that depriving him of a night at his hobby entitles him to act like a child. I'm so annoyed.

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TheLionTheWitchAndTheChesterDraws · 05/08/2022 10:14

You mean he’s purposely ruined your knitting in revenge for you asking him to spend some time with you?

Come on, you know the answer to this one. That isn’t normal behaviour.

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Pibbley · 05/08/2022 10:14

He undid all your knitting?!

That is horrible! Has he done anything like this before?

Im astounded.

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catandcoffee · 05/08/2022 10:14

I am actually shocked I wasn't expecting you to say that.
It's the behaviour of a naughty toddler.

What are you going to do ?

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MappyDappy · 05/08/2022 10:14

They were on the needles still as that's how I left them. Hadn't bound them off yet

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hennybeans · 05/08/2022 10:14

That's outrageous! I would just be sat there agog. What did he say for himself? That's one of the most childish reactions I've heard.

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darlingdodo · 05/08/2022 10:15

What???!!!!!! Have you asked him why. Do you have a poltergeist?

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YoSofi · 05/08/2022 10:15

Annoyed? I’d be furious!

That is really cold and nasty behaviour, I could not stay with him.

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Nekomata · 05/08/2022 10:15

He’s a bastard. So much I read on MN makes me glad I’m single.

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user143677433 · 05/08/2022 10:15

That’s incredibly mean, petty and controlling on his part.

Does he have form for this kind of behaviour?

Have you confronted him about it?

I assume it is now fair game for you to “deconstruct” his hobby.

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PegasusReturns · 05/08/2022 10:15

Do you mean he unravelled your cardi and socks? If so that is insane!

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MappyDappy · 05/08/2022 10:15

Honestly. I don't know. He's been very distant lately and figure maybe we have reached a natural end but this just seals it.

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Hugasauras · 05/08/2022 10:15

That's just really spiteful Sad

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Arrivederla · 05/08/2022 10:15

That is truly weird behaviour! Does he have form for being thoroughly unpleasant?

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Winterfellismyhome · 05/08/2022 10:16

I would be absolutely furious. Thats so calculated and mean. Utter knob

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Sirzy · 05/08/2022 10:16

That’s awful and must have taken him ages so it wasn’t even a spur of the moment thing.

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FreudayNight · 05/08/2022 10:16

MappyDappy · 05/08/2022 10:14

It has taken me ages yes! He seems to think that depriving him of a night at his hobby entitles him to act like a child. I'm so annoyed.

It’s insane!

He is telling you loud and clear that this is the level of pettiness on which he operates when you don’t comply.

Honestly it is so disturbing you should end the relationship.

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Afterfire · 05/08/2022 10:17

That is really malicious. 😳

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MaitlandGirl · 05/08/2022 10:17

I wouldn’t tolerate that level of disrespect and would end the relationship. if he asked why I’d tell him - I don’t waste my time with cunts.

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KermitlovesKeyLimePie · 05/08/2022 10:17

Wow! That is seriously fucked up.

How pathetically childish.

Presumably this is a grown man we are talking about?

It's a really nasty trick.

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MappyDappy · 05/08/2022 10:17

Nope. He said, well I couldn't do mine last night now you can't either. I've also just noticed he's moved the needles. Utter wanker.

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darlingdodo · 05/08/2022 10:17

Pp has a good point. What's his hobby? Could you do a bit of deconstructing?

It sounds as if you're not happy in the relationship. May be a good time to bow out.

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