He deconstructed my knitting pile.

[MappyDappy]

I am sure I am not being unreasonable here. But here goes.

My partner does a hobby which involves him being out late alot. I asked him a few nights ago if he could skip one so as to spend some more time with him.

He wasnt happy and expressed that I had my hobby that I do every night! (Knitting) but I do this in house. I don't go out to any groups etc. He stayed home. We watched a movie. All good. Went to bed.

Got up this morning and my entire knitting pile (was knitting a cardi and socks for a friend) had been unwound and was sitting in neat balls of wool! I'm absolutely astounded. AIBU to think there is no need for this behaviour for the sake of a night off.

Blimey, only read OPs posts and didn't see that coming. Well done you.

Do you think he provoked you kicking him out so he can go crying to his friends about what a meanie you are?
Really sorry about your knitting though, that's fucking atrocious.

Has he got somewhere else to go? Not that I have any sympathy for him, he's a spiteful little cunt.

So glad you have taken immediate decisive action
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I get having hobbies but I honestly don't get couples who basically live like room mates because they live seperate lives and dont spend time together.

I also dont get not supporting each others hobbies, me an my husband have different hobbies we go to each others comeptition and shows. Im the only wife that still goes along (there use to be loads of us a decade ago) and find it bizare that other once they got married the others just seemed to stop supporting them (we're also one of the only ones with kids, so its not like they cant attend because one has to stay home with children etc...).

Like why marry someone if you dont enjoy spending time with them?

I have watched a few friends go through similar to what you are now and they all ended up breaking up.

It sounds like this isn’t the first time you’ve kicked him out?

Not sure if I've missed something, but what did he mean in his text when he said "thought so"?

I am also a knitter. This is one of those threads, which leaves me speechless. The act is incredibly calculated and violent without being physical. I hope he leaves you alone.

I read your updates. Well done, OP. You did the right thing. I admire your strength of mind and character. Who cares if there is an OW lurking. What he did is quite chilling and sinister and he should not be in your house, much less your partner.

He found all his stuff in reception at work. He said obviously knew that she wouldn’t stand for it and would be kicking him out.

I would assume he realised what he'd done was so bad he didn't expect OP to forgive him, and he was right!

I think you do right to kick him out, was very calculated and pretty weird.

I'm a human being. This is outrageous.

He’s frogged your knitting, over being asked to stay in 1 night? How many months did those projects take?

Utterly gobsmacked!!.

I remember about 23/4 years ago I started to do a cross stitch of a little Victorian girl putting a letter in a letter box

id worked every single day for about 9 months on it-it was my project,just for me

anyway my ex (and unfortunately the father of my children) came round-he was treating my house like a doss house-‘I can come round to see my children whenever I like’ (he didn’t want to see them-he wanted to snoop on me-I was way too soft and daft in those days to stop him)

i was about 30 odd stitches off finishing it,when he stood in front of me,poured a takeaway cup of black coffee all over it,laughed at my face,then stubbed out his fag on my new carpet (that I’d saved for months to buy) and walked out

I cried for well over an hour-then got tough

he never came back into my house,I never saw him as contact went through a contact centre and he finally lost interest in us

it’s the sheer ‘I worked on that-it was mine’ and to see it so cruelly destroyed it just heartbreaking

i tell myself he was jealous that I could make something so beautiful and he couldn’t cope with it

ive just bought myself the same kit on eBay and I’m going to remake it and hang it up as my ‘you can’t destroy this one you arsehole’ moment

Wow. Truly astounded someone could do this. Sounds like an utter psycho. You’ve acted decisively and quickly. Well done.

Good on you OP.
I hope you tell him to get knotted.

What a nasty spiteful man he is. It makes me wonder whether he already has somewhere else to go to tonight. Thank god it's your home (that bit didn't surprise me actually.)

@KettrickenSmiled

Bullshit. It's no more of a "scene" than a courier dropping off a parcel at reception FFS. OP will be in & out in less than a minute

No it is not just a courier dropping off a parcel.

Its a partner leaving packed bags and a Dear John letter.

If you think that that type of gossip would not go through any work organisation, you are delightfully naive.

Would you prefer she waits at home to tell this angry & controlling little man it's over, @SolasAnla? Far better for her to take his anger quietly at her own home than "cause a public scene", what?
So what if he is spiteful & might get nasty - OP should just endure what's coming to her, anything but "cause a scene" eh?

You like to project a lot?

Whats the usual Midsomer Murders outcome?

They all lived happy ever after?
Apart from the ones who ended up dead?

You may want to do some checking on how effective the police are in stopping ex-partner's who decide to kill their partner for the offence of leaving the relationship. Then check out the ones who "just" opt for stalking and violent assaults.

Good for you!

Wow that is really malicious 😳

That's not normal behaviour.

Ha, excellent!

That's so sad Good on you getting a new kit. You will treasure the finished piece and it will make you smile and warm your soul every time you look at it

What an absolute wanker he was, so glad you are rid of him

Yep

You're a legend OP!