Bit of Filler... husband furious!

Bonnie7 · 2022-08-02T21:37:04+00:00

Aibu? Went for my 6 monthly Botox treat today and decided to have a tiny bit of filler in my lips. They are currently swollen and look bigger than they will in a few days - but by no means a trout pout! Well my husband and eldest child have gone absolutely mad at me. They can barely look at me! They are furious! I can't believe my appearance causes them so much anguish when they barely look at me in normal circs! Said I look like I'm off TOWIE trying to be 20 and ridiculous... Husband is really really cross. I feel like I'm 15 again! I by the way, love it! Just turned 50 and have 4 kids... I just felt like looking after me and trying something new. Aibu - it's up to me? My face, my choice?!?

sjxoxo · 02/08/2022 22:37

sod ‘em! Your choice! Xx

Tellmewhyaintnothinbutaheartbreak · 02/08/2022 22:38

Tell your husband to fuck off

Thatsenoughnow · 02/08/2022 22:38

Yep, your face, your choice.

ScreamingInfidelities · 02/08/2022 22:38

It’s your face, you can do whatever the fuck you want.

MolliciousIntent · 02/08/2022 22:38

Tbh I'd be pretty freaked out if my partner suddenly turned up having had something like that done without mentioning it!

MotherOfPuffling · 02/08/2022 22:39

I’d be annoyed if you’d spent the holiday money on it, or other ‘family’ money, but if it’s from the money set aside for you then go for it!

RewildingAmbridge · 02/08/2022 22:40

How would you feel if your husband changed his face with an unnecessary procedure that can go very wrong? It seems like self harm to me, but maybe my view is biased, because I live in Essex where there are many people whose own mothers wouldn't recognise them anymore, it's like a form of body dysmorphia

DillDanding · 02/08/2022 22:41

My friend's husband had a similar reaction recently. Tbf, it looked terrible and she was pissed off too.

If you like it - it doesn't really matter.

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Bonnie7 · 02/08/2022 22:41

No all my own money, that's not an issue at all. H

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LocalHobo · 02/08/2022 22:42

Of course it is your choice, but maybe they wish you were delighted to look fabulous at 50, rather than striving to look 20?
It is nice to know they do look at you normally and like what they see.

minipie · 02/08/2022 22:42

Would you be happy if your kids get fillers once they are adults?

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Bonnie7 · 02/08/2022 22:43

RewildingAmbridge · 02/08/2022 22:40

How would you feel if your husband changed his face with an unnecessary procedure that can go very wrong? It seems like self harm to me, but maybe my view is biased, because I live in Essex where there are many people whose own mothers wouldn't recognise them anymore, it's like a form of body dysmorphia

Ok I understand what you are saying. I just wanted to make myself feel nice!

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AQuietWalk · 02/08/2022 22:44

Furious seems something of an overreaction. They don’t have to like it, but fury?

Cotherstone · 02/08/2022 22:44

Yeah, I’d be with your husband. It’s your body and your money at the end of the day and you should do whatever want but if DH came home having done something like that I can’t say I’d be overjoyed

Afterfire · 02/08/2022 22:45

I think they’re overreacting but at the same time I’d hate it if my dh came home with something similar. I probably wouldn’t be so vocal about it though!

FlissyPaps · 02/08/2022 22:45

minipie · 02/08/2022 22:42

Would you be happy if your kids get fillers once they are adults?

Since OP is an adult and has got filler I’m sure they’ll be fine with their kids making that decision once they are adults ….

OP, YANBU. Your body, your face your choice.

WaveyHair · 02/08/2022 22:45

Your money, your body, your choice...within reason. A bit of lip filler is fine... it's not like you had a major boob job without a discussion.

userxx · 02/08/2022 22:45

RewildingAmbridge · 02/08/2022 22:40

How would you feel if your husband changed his face with an unnecessary procedure that can go very wrong? It seems like self harm to me, but maybe my view is biased, because I live in Essex where there are many people whose own mothers wouldn't recognise them anymore, it's like a form of body dysmorphia

A bit of filler doesn't make you body dysmorphic, what a silly comment.

Darbs76 · 02/08/2022 22:46

Absolutely rude of them to comment like that

TeapotTitties · 02/08/2022 22:46

Your repeated emphasis on the 'anger and fury' will make most people say YANBU.

It's your face but I kind of think I'd feel really disappointed in my DH if he gave himself comedy lips, even if it was temporary. However I wouldn't be 'furious' about it.

The most important thing is that you're happy though.

headstone · 02/08/2022 22:46

I’d love to see a photo ..,

Peasinapod9 · 02/08/2022 22:47

RewildingAmbridge · 02/08/2022 22:40

How would you feel if your husband changed his face with an unnecessary procedure that can go very wrong? It seems like self harm to me, but maybe my view is biased, because I live in Essex where there are many people whose own mothers wouldn't recognise them anymore, it's like a form of body dysmorphia

I kind of agree with this

Burnamer · 02/08/2022 22:47

I’d probably have mentioned it to my husband because we chat about stuff but if I’d done it as a spur of the moment thing I wouldn’t expect to be shouted at and would be furious if I was. He may not like it but it’s your face.

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Bonnie7 · 02/08/2022 22:48

WaveyHair · 02/08/2022 22:45

Your money, your body, your choice...within reason. A bit of lip filler is fine... it's not like you had a major boob job without a discussion.

Well it's funny you should say that. Recently on holiday I commented on a lady next to us who had wonderful boobs. My husband was all up for me having a lift! I wouldn't go that far - to go under anaesthesia but he mentioned it later and said he'd be happy to pay.
Double standards?

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catandcoffee · 02/08/2022 22:49

Yes it's your choice but you will look like a trout mouth. Did they notice it or did you tell them?