to think this reply was rude?

[Heytheredeliah]

I messaged a guy a while ago on a dating app. I said 'Hi. how are you? :)'. He responded 'good u'. I unmatched him. Some people thought I was harsh for unlatching him, but I found his reply low effort and rude.

AIBU to think that reply was rude?

Hi how are you is a bit of a lame opener. You needed to ask him a specific question really

His reply matched your tone perfectly.

I think they were both equally lazy, low effort messages for OLD and I wouldn’t have responded to either. It doesn’t sound like either of you were particularly on top form or very interested, so can’t imagine any hard feelings.

Your first message was low effort though

Perfectly normal response! Yabu!

Your first message was pretty low effort too though.

I meant that he should have replied something like 'Fine thanks. How are you?' rather than just 'good u'

YABU. Reasonable response

Your message was dull with zero effort. His message was similar, bit worse than yours I guess.

Think he might have made a lucky escape 😂

I think you're being precious

You may think that, sure, but i think his response matched your effort. Why should he try harder than you?

I was new to OLD at the time so I wasn't really sure about what kind of message to send first

He answered you in the same way you asked...what were you expecting??? Yabvu

You started it with the shit opener

Maybe he's new too then. Ffs

I have already posted what I expected him to say.

That's exactly what he said just in fewer characters

It is also more polite than just saying 'good u'

Why though? That doesn’t give you any more insight into this person than their actual reply.

You get out the effort to put in, if you want genuine conversations with people they lead to connections you’re going to have to try a bit harder than ‘how are you?’. That’s just filler.

I meant that he should have replied something like 'Fine thanks. How are you?' rather than just 'good u'

This is why you’re single. Man’s had a lucky escape.

Because saying 'good u' in response is just rude in my opinion. I would have happily asking him many questions if he had responded more politely.

i wouldn’t have responded to your lazy opener to be fair

You sound like hard work to be honest, I think his response was reasonable in answer to what you sent

It's not rude, it's just a different way of saying something.

And in just one message from each of you, you know you aren't suited.

I'd call that a success story.