to think this reply was rude?

[Heytheredeliah]

I messaged a guy a while ago on a dating app. I said 'Hi. how are you? :)'. He responded 'good u'. I unmatched him. Some people thought I was harsh for unlatching him, but I found his reply low effort and rude.

AIBU to think that reply was rude?

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I think the guy was lucky

Oh wow. He could have been the nicest, most reliable and kind person in the world and you ditched him for sending a brief reply to your brief opener.

I think you are a bit of a wally.

Try being a bit more openminded next time.

That's exactly what I was thinking!

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. You asked how he was, he answered good you, so asked how you were.

“Hi, how are you?” was the response most likely to get someone blocked in my OLD days. It’s low effort and looks like a generic message sent to multiple people to test the waters, rather than someone having read the profile and decided that we’d have something in common. You reap what you sow.

Op it was matched as others say..but on a serious note..what do you use as an opening line on these sites? I’m genuinely interested?!

I wouldn't reply to your question, as it's so low effort (sorry).
Plus, if I replied 'Not great actually. I'm on the blob and the kids are getting on my tits', would he actually care?

I don't use dating apps anymore because I found the quality of men on there to be absolutely dire. There were a lot of nice guys on there, but most of them were just awful and rude. When I used dating apps, I used many different opening lines usually based off something I saw in their profile as I got used to OLD.

I would assume your opener was copy/paste and ignore it, so he did better than I would have. YABU.

"Hi, how are you" = lowest common denominator in online dating.

My relative deletes all possibles with a similar opening line. To be fair she doesn't get many like that.

God almighty I’m glad I don’t have to deal with this shit.

I would actually say 'hi' is the lowest common denominator and believe me I got many first messages just saying 'hi' and nothing else.

How long ago did this happen? How are you still bothered by it?!

It's not RUDE - how is rude? He responded to you when he could have ignored you - that would have been rude.
You seem hard work. Lucky escape and he's hopeful talking to someone less precious.

Oh it's you again.

I recognise the username but can't place why.

I do wonder if he was called Adrian...

Excuse me?

You are being fucking ridiculous.

When I was on OLD I would respond exactly the same to a generic ‘hi how are you’, just as pp have said, because it’s a lazy question so I’d give a lazy answer.
It would become quite entertaining when they matched my tone and responded back the same way, and I’d try and drag a conversation out with the bear minimum of syllables and words.

first messages should reflect your personality, otherwise what’s the point?

I have no idea what either of you are on about

Rude? That's ridiculous. My DH would write that way in texts, he's dyslexic.

He's also an amazing person and husband.

You shouldn't be so judgemental!

I don't know why other posters are giving you such a hard time. I'd also be put off by someone who shows no manners and can't be bothered to type properly!

The guy had written a bit about himself with relatively good grammar, so he clearly knew how to write.