To want to enjoy my garden!

[FunLovinGal]

DP and I have spent a large amount of money and effort building a tikki bar, built in BBQ and hot tub in our garden (it’s a proper one - not inflatable).

As the weather was so nice yesterday and DP’s kids were at their mums we decided to have a garden party/BBQ and invited a few of our friends round early evening.

It was so great to try out the new BBQ, hot tub, and the bar is fab - really fun and quirky decor, inspired by our holidays. Made everyone cocktails!

Only thing is, we’ve put in a new sound system, so wanted to test it. But before you criticise me, it’s not like we expect to be able to play loud music all of the time - only thinking in the afternoons and perhaps a couple of hours on Friday or Saturday nights when kids aren’t staying with us.

Anyway, at 10.30 (so not exactly middle of the night!) our neighbour came and screamed at us over the fence to turn off the music and to stop talking. We weren’t even playing it that loud at that point as had turned it down - so we could all hear each other talk over it without shouting.

She said if we don’t shut up she will call the police! FFS! We’ve only just put it in so of course we wanted to enjoy it.

I’m so angry! We’ve spent thousands and fully intend to enjoy our new outdoor space. We would not play music to the early hours but it really wasn’t that late.

AIBU to just keep using it and make sure music is off before 11? The thought of not being able to enjoy our lovely garden is heartbreaking!

1030 at night? Bit shit of you tbh

Personally I think you sound awful. I agree with your neighbours.

You sound like the kind of neighbours that make everyone’s heart sink and blood pressure rise!

Reverse.

Is this a reverse?

How close is the bar and hot tub to your neighbours house?

If I saw my neighbours putting all of that in their garden, especially a bar and bloody sound system, I'd be putting my house up for sale asap.

Reverse. Must be.

You can enjoy your garden without playing loud music into it!

I expect that you were pissing off plenty of people and not just that neighbour.

I know people say that if you want quiet then you should move somewhere on your own but I think if you want to make a row then you should move to the middle of no where.

Anyway, I’m assuming this is a reverse and you are the neighbour. As much as it would annoy me I’d wait until 11 to complain.

Reverse.

Yeah I'm thinking reverse too.

If not, then by about 9 I'd expect the music to be off OP. It doesn't matter if you spent loads on it.

Reverse?

I struggle to comprehend how anyone could feel they were being reasonable in your position. You sound very entitled.

A sound system in the garden is a bit much but yeah you should be allowed to have the occasional party without them going off on one.

I wouldn’t be happy about my neighbours playing music outside at 10:30 at night. Especially if their house is joined on to yours. Unless you have a house in the middle of nowhere why on earth would you put a sound system in?

That was exactly my first thought.

My second thought was that this might be a troll post.

Everything I hate about having neighbours, why not put in a fire pit too and really piss them off?
It"s really not okay to do this all afternoon and into the night perhaps your neighbours would like to enjoy their garden too.

Is this a wind up, no one seriously has a tikki bar, hot tub, bbq and a sound system any more do they.

I think its fine, it wasn't all day just from early evening, you can enjoy your garden and music until 11 on a saturday night is pretty standard. Maybe next time give them a heads up when you have a party, noise of extra people plus music may have tipped them over the edge

God it sounds awful. I had to sell my last house coz of shit like this.

No, the noise of a hot tub, music and talking in a garden? Maybe at 8, 9 at night ok. By ten talking and a bit of music ok but the sound of a buzzing hot tub as well would be very annoying. Perhaps their neighbours also want to enjoy their garden?

2230 really is too late for music in the garden if you have neighbours, in my opinion. Especially on top of the droning noise of a hot tub and the shouting that you admit yourself was going on. Be a bit more thoughtful.

YANBU to want to enjoy it on weekend afternoons etc.

However at night time I suggest music off by 2100 and indoors by 2300 if it’s a larger gathering than just the current house occupants. Saying you could keep talking over the music just means you’re getting louder and louder.

I’d pop around with a bottle/bunch of flowers today or tomorrow and apologise for “keeping them up when they were having an early night for an important occasion” and weedle out if they’ve got children, shift workers etc so you can be more considerate in future.

It's like hated things in a garden bingo. Tell us you sent your kids out at 7am the next morning.