To want to enjoy my garden!

[FunLovinGal]

DP and I have spent a large amount of money and effort building a tikki bar, built in BBQ and hot tub in our garden (it’s a proper one - not inflatable).

As the weather was so nice yesterday and DP’s kids were at their mums we decided to have a garden party/BBQ and invited a few of our friends round early evening.

It was so great to try out the new BBQ, hot tub, and the bar is fab - really fun and quirky decor, inspired by our holidays. Made everyone cocktails!

Only thing is, we’ve put in a new sound system, so wanted to test it. But before you criticise me, it’s not like we expect to be able to play loud music all of the time - only thinking in the afternoons and perhaps a couple of hours on Friday or Saturday nights when kids aren’t staying with us.

Anyway, at 10.30 (so not exactly middle of the night!) our neighbour came and screamed at us over the fence to turn off the music and to stop talking. We weren’t even playing it that loud at that point as had turned it down - so we could all hear each other talk over it without shouting.

She said if we don’t shut up she will call the police! FFS! We’ve only just put it in so of course we wanted to enjoy it.

I’m so angry! We’ve spent thousands and fully intend to enjoy our new outdoor space. We would not play music to the early hours but it really wasn’t that late.

AIBU to just keep using it and make sure music is off before 11? The thought of not being able to enjoy our lovely garden is heartbreaking!

Neighbours shouldn't be able to hear your music at ANY time. It's utterly selfish. Why would they want to be subjected to your music, knowing they are at your mercy as to how loud it is and how long it goes on for?
My heart would also have sunk seeing all that stuff being built in the garden.
We had to move house in our past because of selfish inconsiderate neighbours (a lot more serious than this situation though) and I do accept that whilst I am probably hyper alert to neighbour noise because of it, what you are describing sounds horrendous.
My current over-the-fence neighbour also had a tacky hot tub last year, and glared at us through the fence every tie we were in the garden as if we had no right to be there when they were steeping in their bacteria pond. It made us extremely uncomfortable to use our own garden.
Gardens are meant for quiet enjoyment of the outdoors IMO. I've spent thousands on mature trees and plants which I enjoy tending to, and sitting quietly with a book.
I don't have the right to impose my music or other noise on anyone and certainly not until 10.30pm at night which is ridiculous in any sane person's world.
This thread just proves exactly what is going wrong with society.
Selfishness, lack of awareness of other people and inconsideration.

Exactly this, that drone of the hot tub is annoying enough and then throw in music and people 'talking' after a few cocktails!!!

@BoredofthisCrap7 - agreed re music. NDN's had a lovely extension with a sort of glass partial ceiling recently installed. First Christmas of it being installed and on Christmas morning I could hear the kids screeching into a new microphone keyboard toy they'd got.

Before that I hadn't heard any music at all. And they played music in the house.

Current NDNs in same house, when a party is being held you can/could hear loud music, heard piano playing yesterday, badly! When the mood takes them, you can hear some sort of Buddhist meditation music through the walls, but kind of faintly.

Other NDN's further down, but not mine, one is a music teacher, so you do hear him practising if you live near him but it doesn't sound too bad!

@123becauseicouldntthinkofone - people 'talking' after a few 'cocktails' - I was almost incandescent with rage the other weekend early Sunday morning (4am!) to be able to hear a man speaking loudly from the back of NDN's garden. I closed my window loudly. Next day I swear the same man was sitting in their garden seating area which partly overlooks my bedroom and looked up to see me there (I'm not directly in front, set back, above a lean to).

I know full well from my 20s that if you're speaking loudly at 4am it's usually not just due to 'cocktails' .

Had this with one of my neighbours and as you say the 4am is not usually cocktails and definitely not talking lol.

Op what happens when you live next to inconsiderate, noisy neighbours is that you end up being hyper sensitive to any noise because you don't know how long it will go on for or how loud it will be.
My neighbour got so bad that we are on pins if we hear his tv on loudly. It could be he's just watching a film and it will finish soon or it could be that he's drunk and it goes on all night.
There's no reason to have your music on so loud you have to shout over it. Even if it's a party. Especially if it's during the week.
My neighbours argument when he kicked off last time was that my kids didn't have to be in school the next day.

Is this your neighbour op?

www.thesun.co.uk/money/18867941/neighbour-luxury-cabin-down-privacy/?utm_medium=Social&utm_campaign=sunmainfacebook&utm_source=Facebook#Echobox=1655127952

You are a typical, selfish nightmare neighbour.

You have to be kidding?

this thread is 8 months old
fuck sake

Zombie thread! The goal is a detached house with no adjoining gardens though!