To want to enjoy my garden!

[FunLovinGal]

DP and I have spent a large amount of money and effort building a tikki bar, built in BBQ and hot tub in our garden (it’s a proper one - not inflatable).

As the weather was so nice yesterday and DP’s kids were at their mums we decided to have a garden party/BBQ and invited a few of our friends round early evening.

It was so great to try out the new BBQ, hot tub, and the bar is fab - really fun and quirky decor, inspired by our holidays. Made everyone cocktails!

Only thing is, we’ve put in a new sound system, so wanted to test it. But before you criticise me, it’s not like we expect to be able to play loud music all of the time - only thinking in the afternoons and perhaps a couple of hours on Friday or Saturday nights when kids aren’t staying with us.

Anyway, at 10.30 (so not exactly middle of the night!) our neighbour came and screamed at us over the fence to turn off the music and to stop talking. We weren’t even playing it that loud at that point as had turned it down - so we could all hear each other talk over it without shouting.

She said if we don’t shut up she will call the police! FFS! We’ve only just put it in so of course we wanted to enjoy it.

I’m so angry! We’ve spent thousands and fully intend to enjoy our new outdoor space. We would not play music to the early hours but it really wasn’t that late.

AIBU to just keep using it and make sure music is off before 11? The thought of not being able to enjoy our lovely garden is heartbreaking!

@Proudboomer my compost bin and DOG POO BIN is right the other side of the fence to my neighbours hot tub and seating area. The poo bin reeks in hot weather so I'm very much hoping they enjoy it on Friday when the temp is 30 degrees and they're no doubt using their 'facilities' 😁

I do wonder if this is a wind up. No one could be so woefully obtuse.

Agh, didn't mean to quote @stillherenow l agree with what they said! I meant I wonder if the OP is a wind up.

That’s just a different type of anti social and not any more acceptable than what the op is doing. In fact it’s worse,you’re proactively trying to ensure they can’t enjoy their garden.

Yes it's antisocial but that's the point - it makes me feel a lot better when they're burning wood for their hot tub and BBQing at the same time right up against my fence making my garden entirely unusable both weekend afternoons whenever it's sunny as it's covered in smoke. And yes I have spoken to them nicely about it .

Of course that's disgusting, but sometimes you have to speak to people in their own language.

I'm so relieved I'm fortunate enough to be able to live in a detached cottage without adjoining neighbours' gardeners
If your post is for real you and your dh are dicks.

I have neighbours like you, with screaming kids on top. Because of their selfishness, I can't enjoy MY garden any more.

Loud music in the garden is pretty antisocial, even if only occassional, IMO. It forces everyone else to lisen to your music not be able to enjoy their gardens, or even their homes during this time as sounds obviously travels easily outside. 10:30 is definitely too late if it is, as you describe it, loud.

You seem very concerned about enjoying yours, and not so concerned about others enjoying theirs.

You keep referring to loud music. No one needs to play loud music, especially outside. This is your unreasonable bit.

My neighbour was trying to start a very noisy dirt bike at 9pm yesterday, I asked them to stop and they did. I have kids in bed so I wouldn't have waited until as late as your neighbours. 10.30 is very late to a lot of people. YABVVU

I thought omg when I read your post op. I actually thought it was a joke. Who wants to live by a bar, hot tub and sound system. It is like living by a pub in miniature and your neighbours have chosen not to live by one.

How would you like your children woken up by noisy, inconsiderate neighbours particularly when GCSE's are on, as they are at the moment. You sound like you have zero awareness.

This might be news to you, but you will fall out with your neighbours. Next will be a council letter and a 3 month diary filling opportunity each time you make noise nuisance. 11 pm is not the law, it can be noise at any time of day or night that affects someone's quiet enjoyment of their own home.

I honestly couldn't think of anything worse than this. Hot day's we sleep with our windows open and to have "dance music" and a loud party would piss me off. It would disturb my children.

The least you could do is notify your neighbours before hand, say all music etc will be off by a certain time. We have a small speaker and wouldn't play anything after 7pm if we even had it on low. Kid's aren't allowed to play outside after 8pm it's just polite.

Right? Imagine being jealous of someone's chavvy garden bar and hot tub. Jesus Christ.

Tbh OP you sound like my idea of neighbour hell and am fucking pleased I don't live next door to you. Poor neighbours. I'd be moving FAST

My Mum has chronic fatigue syndrome so is often in bed by 8pm any day of the week. So are some older people, young people, people with other chronic conditions, tired people, people who have to be up early for work etc. If I had to listen to your music at 10.30pm I'd be miffed, and I don't even go to sleep then. Honestly I'd say keep the music until 9pm on weekend nights and apologise to your neighbour with a bottle of wine if you want to keep good relations. I understand what you mean OP, about enjoying your garden, but it shouldn't be at the expense of other people (your neighbours) wanting peaceful enjoyment of their house and garden too.

Jealous? Of what?

'New money/nouveau riche'. Can't buy class' something to be REALLY envious about 😁😅

This!!!

I've got a neighbour like this.
Every weekend it's party time. And I work weekends!
Summer it's outside parties. Winter it's indoors with music pounding till stupid o'clock and drunk shouting. It's hell.
She doesn't give a shit....because she's enjoying herself. And fuck everyone else...

People who have to be at work very early on Sundays...i.e. NHS workers!!

My neighbours feel entitled to play their music in the garden whenever, because of the positioning it means you can hear the music 4 doors up so we all have to listen to their music whenever the weather is nice. It’s so inconsiderate. I miss the days of having a quiet radio on when sitting out and the neighbours having the same.
I’d feel like your neighbours OP and wouldn’t be happy at 10.30 because I have kids trying to sleep.

@LuckySantangelo35 she's actually told her lucky neighbour they'll be playing loud music for her birthday party. Not just music, loud music!

I don't believe for a moment this is a genuine OP, but at least they're done us a favour in highlighting a problem which sadly many people do have to face: utterly selfish neighbours

www.edinburghlive.co.uk/news/uk-world-news/woman-screamed-at-after-spending-24213822

Thank you! Exactly - who goes to bed at 9pm?! It’s not like we’re having a rave FFS

I do. In fact sometimes I go to bed at 8pm, as I have to be up at 4.30am for work - yes, at the weekend.