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[AndTime]

Do and I usually train in a small independent body building gym but because of the opening hours we have joined a bigger commercial gym for the holiday period too.

We were in there training and so says - one thing about this gym, there are lots of bigger guys so I'm not the biggest, it makes me want to push more. Like in our gym your the only girl so you are the fittest but in here, there are lots of girls.

Now I don't think for one second that one am the fittest person anywhere, I just don't need it pointing out by my partner in direct comparison to the multitude of young slim women around me at that time.

I just felt it was unnecessary and hurtful.

Dp thinks I am being ridiculous to be hurt by it. I wouldn't dream of making him feel inadequate for or insecure so maybe I am being overly sensitive.

I am already insecure about the fact I have gained a stone in the year we have been together taking me from a slim 6 to a soft squishy 8.

You have self worth issues rather than a dp issue. Is that why you attend a gym where you are the only female member?

@Hankunamatata

You have self worth issues rather than a dp issue. Is that why you attend a gym where you are the only female member?

I most definitely do have a self esteem issue. I know it very well. Hence why I asked here if it was me being a bit of a brat and was told pretty firmly that it was and I have taken it on the chin. I should work on my body image. New year resolution maybe.

I am surprised the thread is still going, it has long been forgotten in real life but since you asked, DP already trained there. I did Bootcamp and cardio type classes mostly but joined his gym when we started dating to focus more on weights to try and build some muscle. So no that's not why I train at a gym where I am the only female member, I didn't know the members when I joined.