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OldieButaGoodie · 15/11/2021 05:40

Wish me luck - I'm going to HR when I get into work tomorrow about a man who works for the same Company, but I don't know him and never had a conversation with him. The other day in the office, I was in the open-plan kitchen which is a bit of a thoroughfare and I was pouring myself a glass of iced coffee from a container I bought in from home. Minding my own business and he pipes up, as he's walking past "you shouldn't be drinking that - you should be drinking green tea".. FFS mate, didn't ask for, and don't care about, your opinion! Angry

I know this topic has been mentioned before, where random men think it's ok to comment on what women are eating/drinking/wearing/etc etc etc. No, it's not.

I've had to scroll through the staff list photos to work out who he is, but it was so fleeting, that I'm going on the hunt tomorrow to ensure it's who I think it is. If it's this dickhead, he's old enough to know better than to speak to women like that - and we work in the public sector and this stuff is drummed into us all the time.

He picked the wrong person to insult - and I'm waiting for the excuses - - - you took it the wrong way - - - you don't have a sense of humour - - - I didn't mean anything by it - - - and yeah, none of them is going to cut it with me. He insulted me and there's no changing it with pissy excuses.

So, I suppose I'm not really asking if I'm being unreasonable..Grin

OP posts:
hulahooper2 · 16/11/2021 20:02

Honestly you are being ridiculous, I would laugh you out of my office if you came in with that complaint, the guy was just making conversation

Crazycrazylady · 16/11/2021 20:44

Holy moley op..Please don't go to Hr. You'll look totally bonkers.. your radar is well off !!

MollysDolly · 16/11/2021 21:06

But its not a clearly positive comment about the food is it? 'Look at all that' is a comment on the amount of food on the man's plate. So if your argument is that comments about food could trigger someone with an eating disorder, why is that one ok and the other not?

@5128gap you are of course exactly right. I'd give up trying to explain. She chops and changes to suit whatever her narrative is, post by post. 99% of people don't think like this, and are in absolute concurrence with the rest of us, as the thread demonstrates.

WalkingOnTheCracks · 16/11/2021 21:53

Women don't do it?

"Is that another cornish pastie?"

"It is."

"You had a cornish pastie yesterday."

"Er...yeah."

"God knows what that's doing to your cholesterol."

"Oh, cheers, Sandra."

notacooldad · 17/11/2021 06:40

WalkingOnTheCracks

Women don't do it?
They do though.
Have you never been around a woman who sells Juice plus or similar!
Horrendous!

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 17/11/2021 07:11

A woman once tried to tell me how to slice tomatoes. I didn’t start a grievance process.

notacooldad · 17/11/2021 07:20

A woman once tried to tell me how to slice tomatoes. I didn’t start a grievance process
That has just reminded me that a woman at work, who I didnt know, told me i cut an apple up in the same way as d women do. I just told her that I was indeed old! 🤣
I never thought anything of it and just laughed. I still think it was a funny random thing to say but I didnt get bent over it

WhiteVanWoman91 · 17/11/2021 20:42

Was he implying you need to go on a diet?

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 18/11/2021 14:33

No, I think he just made a comment 🤷‍♀️

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