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Original poster

weird text from lady on facebook marketplace. Now I don't know if I was U?

262 replies

Sneezecakesmama · 28/10/2021 18:34

I couldn't find my umbrella so decided on buying one off FB marketplace.
Found a nice Joules one for £15 and asked to buy it.
At 09.12 am had the conversation via messenger and agreed to buy. She said it would be on the doorstep and put the money through the letterbox. Fine by me.

I asked what time was convenient and she replied no later than 12.15 as she was going out and gave me the address. I said I would be there at 12.
At 11am I found my umbrella (DH had it) so messaged her at 11.12 am to apologise and say I didn't need it after all, but thank you very much.
She replied
Is this a joke I have changed my plans plus taken item off eBay!!!?
I am fuming Angry reported and informed police as you have our address plus our plans!! Very odd

It was literally 2 hours so why take it off eBay? She hadn't changed her plans and why that level of aggression?

Was I really being as unreasonable as she says? Genuinely confused!

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Sneezecakesmama · 28/10/2021 18:35

I don't make a habit of this FWIW

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 28/10/2021 18:37

I think I would be a bit naffed off at you, tbh. Sometimes Bad People have used similar scenarios to scope out places to burgle, so I can sort of see her point. Reporting to the police a bit of an overreaction though.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 28/10/2021 18:37

It was of course inconvenient but this is an over reaction on her part

Sounds like she has anxiety issues.

TheChip · 28/10/2021 18:38

I'd be pissed off if I was her. Time wasters are extremely annoying.
Her reaction is a bit extreme though, but I can kind of understand as you may be the 3rd or 4th person to do this to her.

Starcaller · 28/10/2021 18:38

Police Grin Sure they will be mobilising their finest as we speak.

It's mildly annoying but that's just what happens when you sell stuff on FB 🤷‍♀️

PooWillyNameChange · 28/10/2021 18:39

It is a bit annoying. To be honest if you only have one brolly I'd have just honoured the agreement to not have been That Person but the police obviously won't give a shit

FionnulaTheCooler · 28/10/2021 18:39

You're both unreasonable. You for messing her about and her for being a drama queen, the police won't give two shits about a Facebook selling no show.

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 28/10/2021 18:41

I'd have bought it anyway tbh. Good to have a spare.
She's not unreasonable to be royally pissed off at what from her point of view is yet another FB time waster but reporting you to the police is ludicrous. I doubt she did.

Sparklfairy · 28/10/2021 18:41

She's very dramatic but I can see where she's coming from. You cancelled with 45mins notice, and she is right - you knew her address and that she would be out at 12.15. She doesn't know you from Adam.

She probably hasn't informed the police, she's just said that to deter you on the off chance you were dodgy. I've sold a few things on fb and they always make me a bit apprehensive but everyone has been lovely. I'm just glad when the transaction is over!

Tiredmum100 · 28/10/2021 18:41

I think you should have bought it if that's what you agreed, although her response was a bit of an over reaction. This is why I'm so reluctant to sell things on Facebook, its more hassle than its worth with people not turning up, not responding, Chang their mind etc. She was probably really annoyed and had factored you into her day.

Waahingwashingwashing · 28/10/2021 18:42

You were a bit of a dick but she’s over reacting

Newmumatlast · 28/10/2021 18:43

I've said yanbu but I mean yanbu that it was an overreaction on her part to inform the police etc. I dont agree with you though re her taking it off of Ebay. No wonder she did because you agreed to buy and had she left it on and it sold, she would be in the wrong. Re the not buying it, it's annoying for her so not surprised it irritated her but at the same time it happens and it's better you tell her than no show.

ShittyGlitter · 28/10/2021 18:43

You did mess her about a bit, so I can see why she might be frustrated, but her response is nuts.

Societies bottom feeders seem to inhabit FB marketplace these days, best avoided.

ArchwizardTVampirebat · 28/10/2021 18:44

it was literally 2 hours so why take it off eBay?

Because if someone had bought it on eBay and she'd sold it to you, she'd get a non-performing seller strike on her account.

You've been unreasonable. You've messed her about. I would be very pissed off in the seller's shoes.

Pandaly · 28/10/2021 18:45

I think you should have bought it anyway. She was a bit OTT but maybe she's had weirdos turn up before.

Pandaly · 28/10/2021 18:46

It was literally 2 hours so why take it off eBay? Because you had agreed to buy it. Sounds like she was going to go out earlier too.

AdelindSchade · 28/10/2021 18:46

I'd be mildly irritated if I was her no more than that.

Suzi888 · 28/10/2021 18:46

She was being unreasonable on her reaction, but you are a time waster.

HeartsAndClubs · 28/10/2021 18:47

I can understand why she was a bit annoyed but TBH anyone who buys or sells on FB market place does so at their peril.

Jamallama · 28/10/2021 18:47

Is it FB or eBay? You can't seem to make your mind up

Whinge · 28/10/2021 18:47

Her reaction was over the top, but you should have bought it rather than messing her around.

Pandaly · 28/10/2021 18:48

@Jamallama

Is it FB or eBay? You can't seem to make your mind up
I think it was listed on ebay as well as Facebook.
Hercisback · 28/10/2021 18:48

You're unreasonable

Luckingfovely · 28/10/2021 18:48

You committed to buy it, you should have bought it. You're totally in the wrong. Yeah, her message wasn't exactly mature and the police thing is obviously stupid, but she's right to be fuming.

Mydogmylife · 28/10/2021 18:49

I'd have been pretty pissed off at you as well, wouldn't have had the energy to get as worked up as her though.