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Original poster

Wish I had a better come-back to random man comment

298 replies

Shimmyingmetacos · 16/09/2021 12:46

In BP garage, buying a few bits for tea and kids snacks in the M&S shop there - as I was at the till, random man comes up behind me and says in a loud voice "Well you must be rich, doing your shopping here!". It caught be so off guard I didn't think fast enough and I just shrugged and ignored him. It felt like he was trying to embarrass me in front of everyone to be honest.

Now I can't help thinking how feckin rude that was and all the responses I should have said. Not that I need to justify my shop choice, but
as I had got fuel there, it saved me driving further to another supermarket, paying for parking etc.

Mumsnet - what should I have said?

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PinkGiraffe1 · 16/09/2021 12:49

You should've said 'yes I am' then looked him up and down and asked if he was lost.

Or the more blunt option: 'And that's any of your business because?'

DoucheCanoe · 16/09/2021 12:49

I'd have been tempted to say "yes, and?" but would probably have just smirked and moved on.

I wouldn't see it as rude or embarrassing though just a daft unwarranted comment.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 16/09/2021 12:50

What a wanker.
I would probably have said ‘yes, I am.’ Not exactly witty but hopefully would have irritated him like he deserved.

ArblemarchTFruitbat · 16/09/2021 12:51

'Yes, didn't you notice my Porsche in the forecourt?'

Bumbl · 16/09/2021 12:51

Was he not making a joke about how expensive it is in there, rather than at your expense personally? That's maybe how I would have taken it.

Suzi888 · 16/09/2021 12:52

PinkGiraffe1

You should've said 'yes I am' then looked him up and down and asked if he was lost.

^ 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
And hope he doesn’t wait outside for you lol Shock I’d be too scared to say anything like that, but it’s hilarious!

seaandsandcastles · 16/09/2021 12:52

I would have just laughed. I don’t see what the issue is Confused

AppleKatie · 16/09/2021 12:53

Yes and?

Is 99% of the time the right response to these idiots.

TastybitofSquirrel · 16/09/2021 12:53

It's always the way. You think of the good replies too late.

Depends what kind of reaction you'd of wanted them to have.

Shut down - "I am" with a smile.

Annoyed - "It's all thanks to the tax payers and huge benefits I receive" with a grin.

Guilt - "Recent inheritance unfortunately" with a sad expression.

Just rise above it. Give it no more head space. How you spend your money is completely up to you.

Carboncheque · 16/09/2021 12:53

There was a thread on here a while ago and someone suggested, ‘Thank you for your comment random man.’

GreyhoundG1rl · 16/09/2021 12:55

@seaandsandcastles

I would have just laughed. I don’t see what the issue is Confused
I agree. It wasn't abusive in any way, it was a joke. Not particularly funny, but so what?
Tal45 · 16/09/2021 12:56

@Bumbl

Was he not making a joke about how expensive it is in there, rather than at your expense personally? That's maybe how I would have taken it.
That's what I thought too - having a go a moan at how expensive the shop is.
PoolNooodle · 16/09/2021 12:56

I don’t think he was trying to embarrass you sounds like he was more commenting how expensive things were

ChickenSchnitzel · 16/09/2021 12:58

@Carboncheque

There was a thread on here a while ago and someone suggested, ‘Thank you for your comment random man.’
Like it, I'm going to use this in future.
HyggeTygge · 16/09/2021 13:00

"Yeah I am, I get 50p every time a random man makes an irrelevant comment to me"

doodlejump1980 · 16/09/2021 13:01

Was he not in the shop too?? What a strange man.

Original poster
Shimmyingmetacos · 16/09/2021 13:03

@Bumbl

Was he not making a joke about how expensive it is in there, rather than at your expense personally? That's maybe how I would have taken it.
Yes I suppose it could have been meant that way, but I'm not sure how to explain except it definitely didn't come across that way, it was narky, not said with a rye smile or anything
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Wilkolampshade · 16/09/2021 13:04

I bought one of these each for my daughters for just such eventualities...
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Shimmyingmetacos · 16/09/2021 13:05

@seaandsandcastles

I would have just laughed. I don’t see what the issue is Confused
but why does he get to approach me and loudly make a stupid comment about me in front of a shop full of people?
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Original poster
Shimmyingmetacos · 16/09/2021 13:05

@ArblemarchTFruitbat

'Yes, didn't you notice my Porsche in the forecourt?'
Ha ha I wish! Love this!
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namechangetheworld · 16/09/2021 13:07

He was clearly making a joke about how expensive everything was. Unclench a bit.

Itsnotallaboutyoubaby · 16/09/2021 13:09

@Bumbl

Was he not making a joke about how expensive it is in there, rather than at your expense personally? That's maybe how I would have taken it.
This is how I would have taken it too
Original poster
Shimmyingmetacos · 16/09/2021 13:10

@namechangetheworld

He was clearly making a joke about how expensive everything was. Unclench a bit.
it wasn't like he happened to be standing right next to me - he was waiting in line 2m behind and decided to walk right up to the till where I was buying my stuff, comment and then move on to the next open till 2 tills away
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donquixotedelamancha · 16/09/2021 13:11

He was clearly making a joke about how expensive everything was. Unclench a bit.

Noooo, this MN. Strangers speaking to you is literal violence.

donquixotedelamancha · 16/09/2021 13:13

he was waiting in line 2m behind and decided to walk right up to the till where I was buying my stuff, comment and then move on to the next open till 2 tills away

The dirty bastard.

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