To be a bit annoyed DH has decided he’s going back to the office the day I go back to work

[Pinknoises]

Have been pleading with him for weeks to go back, and he announces this tonight.

Sigh.

Arse!

Oh god. That's so unfair.

What a knob. Is it a don't want you to have the house to yourself thing, doesnt want to be alone in the house or doesn't want to be expected to do more housework thing?

This would irritate me a lot.

Why have you been pleading with him to go back?

Textbook

Selfish!

Has he done this on purpose?!

Maybe he's been WFH to see you more? No point now you're going back

LTB

@Knittingupastorm

Why have you been pleading with him to go back?

Because it’s difficult to use a house as a family home when someone’s working in it. It pretty much kills any sort of visits from families and friends and means you have to Go Out a LOT, which is both exhausting and expensive.

YANBU

Oh is it you again with the can only socialize with the house to myself, every other option is unavailable and therefore my partner hates me thing again?

Has he been able to go back before? Are others back (I won't go into the office unless others are in as its a pointless journey!)? Has he said why he's decided to go back now?

That would annoy me too Op.

Also, why can't you have anybody around? I WFH and my husband often socialises.

@MattyGroves

Oh is it you again with the can only socialize with the house to myself, every other option is unavailable and therefore my partner hates me thing again?

Nope.

My partner doesn’t hate me at all.

However, if by ‘you again’ you mean that I have a partner working smack bang in the middle of the house and it’s a little bit difficult having any personal space or friends visiting as a result, then yes. It’s me

Bob, I guess for the same reason he probably wouldn’t go to the pub with his mates if I insisted on going with him and bringing my laptop and working on the next table I suppose.

Because it’s difficult to use a house as a family home when someone’s working in it. It pretty much kills any sort of visits from families and friends and means you have to Go Out a LOT, which is both exhausting and expensive.

To be honest, as soon as his office opened up and going back in became an option, I’d have gone about my day as normal and used it as a family home, as that’s what it is first and foremost. And if he found that inconvenient, he would have had another option - going back into the office.
I wouldn’t have done this when he had no other option because the office was closed.

I don’t think he does find it inconvenient. It’s me who it was inconvenient for.

He sounds like a tit

Could he have worked anywhere else in the house but chose the middle?

He’s always worked there when WFH. It wasn’t really a problem until I was also off. Unfortunately, I’ve never been able to get him to see what a major PITA it is!

Oh, I do feel for you. I don't know why so many people have given you such a hard time on your other threads. I can totally understand your wanting to have at least a tiny bit of your maternity leave with the house to yourself. I went back to work as soon as I could because I needed time without my family - much as I love them, it is really good not having to consider them every bloody minute of the day.

I think because a lot of people are thoroughly enjoying WFH, and don’t like to think that they are resented by their families

Why were you off though?

I remember your other threads. Your husband was then, and remains now, a complete and utter twat. Sorry OP.

I don’t think he’s a twat but I am most put out at this.

why were you off

I had a baby.